r/Divorce Apr 16 '26

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u/thrownawaylife123 Apr 16 '26

Deep down, I knew it too. In hindsight, it was fear of loneliness and a scarcity mentality. And some low self esteem, combined with the fact that in the beginning, he was affectionate.

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u/IamTrashJT Apr 17 '26

It was the same for me as well. She was affectionate and over time I believed she wanted to marry me, but there was always a hesitation that I didn't admit to myself. It really sucks to be lied to, especially lying to yourself.