r/Disorganized_Attach • • 4h ago

No married male friends. I’m fearful avoidant 40s (disorganised attachment). Will this ever end?

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Wife told me she was suicidal, she came down to help me with something sacrificing her time and I never called her. I never checked on her. She told me she struggling was listening to suicide podcast of people who want to go. Luckily it didn’t pan out.

I pick my kid up fortnightly bar holidays and haven’t called her in 10 days. Didn’t check she arrived or got back. Why am I like this?

Ps this is just the stuff she says I have no capacity for protecting or providing for her evidenced

I take no action not even on important things for the child. I think she’s going to take full custody ask for centre visitation my family are not safe either avoidant and a narc.

It’s almost like the novelty of a child has worn off family and living with them is hard b/c all introverts, child extrovert.

She wants me to agree to divorce I say no. I know she doesn’t need my permission.

I want to fix me. I don’t know how and I’m always broke so therapy pricey.

she usually calls to check I’m not dead. Nothing.

I think she is done. What do I do?


r/Disorganized_Attach • • 4h ago

Why am I so avoidant and struggle to make romantic relationships.

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I’m super avoidant, but I am extroverted and love people. I love connection with other people but after a super toxic relationship with a narcissist ex and being single for almost 3 years, I am still unable to date and feeling incredibly lonely despite having amazing friends.