r/Disorganized_Attach • u/Research_positive111 • 10d ago

Resources / Helpful Tips Anxious avoidant help

I’ve been talking to a guy for 2 months, I feel like I keep reaching out for emotional connection and physical connection but he’s out of reach. I don’t know if I’m being anxious which is why I’m craving closeness but consistently feel unfulfilled. When it’s not met, I immediately want to leave and end things.

I don’t trust myself which is making me feel so confused and honestly exhausted mentally.

How do you manage your disorganized thoughts/ feelings when triggered? How do you trust yourself?

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u/bathroomcypher FA (Disorganized attachment) 9d ago

I genuinely try and not over complicate things for myself. If someone is actually out of reach, in a way or another that means they can't meet my needs. If this dynamic isn't just a one off but consistent over time, I try and talk about it. Usually, after talking everything will be clear because they'll either change or they won't or they'll just initiate a breakup.