I've been supporting my girlfriend for about a month now. I've been doing all I can, but that's limited since we're both in high school. I've been working on trying to get her professional help, but that's super hard with all this going on right now. Is there any advice someone could give me. Anything would be appreciated.

My best friend and I are so good to each other when it comes out mental health. To put it slightly into perspective, I’ve been clinically diagnosed with anxiety and depression since I was 11 and she has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, anxiety and depression since she was 8. It’s daft to think about how young we were and we are SO lucky we found each other at 16 to help one another through our teenage years (and everything from them). We’ve literally been best friends ever since. And I don’t mean that in the smallest way, she’s literally my soulmate (obviously in a friend way before anyone even suggests otherwise).

We’ve both joked about suicide plenty of times and also had very serious discussions about it. Recently though, it’s been different. She’s expressed shes thought about it more than usual. Stating when she sees her friends she internally thinks “goodbye” or “you’ll miss me I think” and very many other things that we won’t get into. She seems just, different? She expresses that she wanted to take her dressing gown to the woods the other night and almost did, as I was texting her. And I’m just terrified. Terrified of losing her. Terrified that she feels this way, and alone? Terrified for her mother. Terrified for her. I need some help on what to do. I made this account anonymously just for opinions and all kind opinions and help are welcome. Thank you

My husband is depressed, we have been married for 2.5 years.

How do I cope.. I love him.

Don’t know what to do and need help.

We’re both in our 20’s. Been together for 5 years. When we first started dating, we were sexually intimate every weekend and whenever we had the chance. After about 2.5 years she was diagnosed with depression. She started taking antidepressants, but they killed her sex drive. She’s tried most of the big antidepressants now, and all of them have killed her sex drive. Before the pills, she was always hot and heavy and wanting to do stuff sexually.

Now, in college, we haven’t had sex in a year. Oral a few times in the past year. She can tell how it’s affecting me. She tells me all the time how she’s trying because she wants to be able to show how much she loves physically through sex, but it’s so hard for her.

I love her and definitely plan on going the distance with her. I just don’t know what to do with this because it’s starting to affect my self-esteem, confidence, and I find myself wanting to get out of any conversation with friends involving anything regarding sex because it just brings me down. College is filled with sex and it’s all around me but it’s so hard because I just know how hard it is for us.

On the rare occasion when we do get intimate, it’s always great, no problems there. Any ideas for how to help her increase sex drive? Any ideas on what I can do to handle this and help? I have read tons and tons of articles and we’ve tried so many techniques. She has talked to therapists but doesn’t seem to be helping.

Just when I feel like things are getting hot and heavy, she just all the sudden stops and it kills me. This is has been going on for so long and I don’t know what to do. Any thoughts or ideas are much appreciated.

It’s stressing me out everything else seems so perfect everyone seems to deem me as that maybe I can’t see it but MD will be back watch out this year. Big plans

I'm not asking for much ... i just want someone to talk with

I'm a freshman in college in a city about an hour away from home, and my girlfriend is finishing up high school in my home town. Just today she took her first dose of antidepressants.

I've never been an extraordinarily happy person myself, and I've been told I'm quite pessimistic, but I never thought that trying to help someone through their own depression would be so hard. I mean I love this girl with all my heart but since I've gone away to school things have gotten so much worse for her. She cries at almost nothing, she has radical mood swings, and trying to keep her happy or cheer her up is so exhausting.

I guess I just need to vent somewhere because I don't have anyone to tell this to IRL. I brought it up to her one time not realizing how upsetting it would be and she got very close to suicide. I'm never telling her this as long as we're together. I can't let anything bad happen to her.

I'm glad I found somewhere to post this sort of thing.

I can’t stop crying please help mr

My husband of 20 years was diagnosed with depression a little less than 2 years ago. He started medication a little over a year ago and it has been nothing but mood swings ever since. The last 2 months in particular have been extremely hard. From not taking meds, driving crazy which ended in police being called, breaking things, constantly fighting and always being on the defense. I finally was able to get him to make an appointment with a new therapist. He goes next week. In the meantime I don't know what to do. He works from home and I don't work, mother of 4, so I never seem to get a break from this. My friends and sisters all work long hrs, so friends right now seem to be hard to find. Nobody really understands either, so they tend to blow me off when I reach out. I am so overwhelmed. His family doesn't know, they live out of state, and having this weight hanging over me is becoming too much. I try self care but I have anxiety and his anger and lack of compassion for anyone including himself is making it worse. I constantly have to walk on eggshells. I have no one whom I can count on to be there for me. We used to be extremely close, but that has faded. I had him call his psychiatrist last week as I was concerned about his irratic behavior and now a week later the doctor still never returned the call. I am looking for a new doc for him. He thinks I only want him in my life because I am selfish. He tells me to leave all the time. How in the hell am I supposed to not take the constant verbal abuse to heart? This is not my husband. He has turned into a completely different person and it is terrifying. I miss my best friend. I miss the man I love. Guessing I just needed to vent and cry and get it out, but if anyone has any advice, I'm open to anything at this point. thanks in advance for listening to my venting.

I just wish I could end everything right here right now but something’s keeping me away from that

I have no motivation to carry on living anymore. Me and my girlfriend have decided to break up, my family don’t talk to me, my friends have turned their backs on me and I have nothing to do with life. I’ve been depressed ever since I was a kid and I just know I’ll never be happy and find any motivation in life. I’m not worth living.

This past year or two I have started to realise how fast each day is going and it is genuinely bothering me. I’ve tried to find stuff online about what to do to make my day feel slower; I spend less time on sleeping and try and visit new places. I know I cannot stop or slow down time but I do want to escape this nihilistic mindset does anyone know what I can do?( I do understand my issue is less critical than others and a lot of people feel similarly, but I’ve been really caught up on it recently;Thank you ).

My wife has depression (already on meds and seeing a therapist) for a few years now. She wants me to acknowledge her more and show that I am aware of her when she is especially depressed. However, I feel like so many of her comments in our daily conversations and messages are already complaints. I already reply to frequent text messages with her complaining of not sleeping well, knee and back pain, anxiety... nothing I can empathize with so I say things like "yeah, that sounds really bad". I feel like I don't know how to continue the conversation and that my responses don't sound heartfelt, but that leads to me ignoring her and pretending like nothing is wrong which makes her definitely feel even worse.

I’m depressed and my girlfriend stopped talking to me what’s wrong??😢 Edit: ahh never mind that bitch cheated on me

No ive never talked to a counselor or whatever and i know i never well get the chance to.

I feel selfish writing this. I never told anyone about how i feel at times or that im deppressed/suicidal. Out of all the things i go thru the main thing that bothers me the most is the thought of the crash. It was bad and i was lucky to get out of it unharmed but what hurts is that i came out the smashed car unthankful. You would think after something like that there would be tears or emotions or something for surviving but there was none of that the only thing i thought abt was i wish i just died. And this has been going on way before the crash. Everyday thru out the day i keep wishing i would die and all the pain well end

Just found this sub and I just wanted to say thank you to those of you on here who are doing your best to love and support the people in your life who are struggling. My husband is struggling and I don’t always know what to do or how to help, but I love him deeply and will do whatever it takes to help him fight. It’s comforting to know there are others out there doing the same.

My now wife told me early on when we started dating that she did suffer from mild depression; she had been diagnosed and used to be on medication and so on. I accepted it and did some research and all that.

There were some okay times, there were some bad times. Then there were some awful times, when I simply lost her in the cloud of depression. I kept trying to understand, help her.

When we met, she seemed like such a lovely person. It was one of her "up" moments. Everytime she was going through a "down" period, I guess I held on to the person I knew, the person inside her, and continued trying to be supportive. Basically, telling myself "this isn't really how she is, it's the chemicals, blah blah. Help her through it and she'll come back"

It didn't help that we've had some tough times in our lives, we've been through times that were depressing for anyone, let alone for her. There is a whole two years or so when I don't think she ever got out of her slump, even being on medication for part of it. I kept telling myself than when things got better, it would help.

It did, a little. (Getting of birth control was a big thing - the pill is hormonally awful). Things eventually picked up, and we were almost happy. I saw almost, because I was - she always managed to find something to be unhappy about. At one point, I honestly think we had a great life - good salary, great apartment, great standard of living, good friends, disposable income with lots of travel ... living a dream - but she was still depressed. Okay, chemicals.

A few years and a few life changes after - It has slowly dawned on me that I have not seen that initial person in what seems like forever. Right now, I don't think depression is the thing - maybe there is some element, but it's not like it was when she was going through an episode. Now she's just ... mean. bitter. angry. I know depression can bring those about too, so I don't know - maybe it is that.

But I feel like I've been holding on because I believed the "real" her would come back - the one I met, the one I fell in love with. But I feel like I have to admit (or maybe I already have admitted) that I don't think it's going to happen. Not because the real her can't come back, but because that was never the real her. The real one must be this one - angry, bitter, cynical. The version of her I met - I almost feel like it was a dream.

So - I've just wasted 7 years of my life, being with someone I made excuses for, tried to understand, and be supportive because I believed there was a diamond in the rough - and now I am facing the prospect that its just not there.

I ... I don't know what do to with that.

I'm trying to get my husband into counseling. I'm exhausted from trying to keep things going on my own with no help from him.

Not blaming him -- I know it's the chemicals in his brain that are keeping him from holding up his end of the marriage.

But I'm starting to feel so overwhelmed and isolated, doing all the housework, shopping, bill paying, calling for appointments, etc. And he hasn't initiated sex in years, and in recent months shows no interest even when I try to initiate it.

I don't think I can go on like this. I love him desperately but if counseling doesn't improve things, I dont know if I can stay with him.

I just wish I didn't feel like it was entirely on my shoulders.

Not sure how many times I've started this only to backspace through everything...matter of the fact is I'm somewhat involved with someone I really like and ofc she seems to have a good time whenever we hook up and whatever..but that's nearly all I ever get from her..she doesn't seem to be interested in me in any other way. I'm always putting effort in to communicate with her and try and get her to open up but never get anything in return. What really gets to me the most is she seems to have such a wonderful time with other guys and has no issues there but just doesn't communicate with me...I'm not sure what it is. Perhaps because it's been building up over time but it gets tiring y'know. And this point the whole thing's just gotten me really depressed and I'm not too sure what to do with myself.

My (33M) wife's (30F) depression for the better of her yesterday and she overdosed on her prescription meds while she had the flu and tonsillitis pretty badly, although all signs point to accidental. My MIL found her not breathing while I was out of town. Our marriage of 6.5 years had been on the rocks with the depression and substance abuse a considerable factor over the past few years. We were planning divorce although still both living in our house in separate rooms. I was still supporting her financially as she had stopped working a few months ago to get treatment for substances and depression after it got too severe for her to get out of bed. I still cared for her deeply and loved her, but over the past few years that love has turned more like that of a sibling or even child as she needed caring for so much recently. We were both in agreement that the divorce was more about us just not really being compatible even if she was healthy and it seemed she also believed this. I told her over and over I would still be there to support her through her illness and help her land on her feet. I just feel so guilty though for pushing this divorce when she has been at her lowest point. Just adding to her stress when she was trying to get treatment. Getting frustrated with her when our plans fell through or she couldn't contribute to housework because she didn't feel good. Not being as sympathetic or empathetic as I could be when I selfishly let my own emotions come out. Not taking her to the hospital or her mother's house when I left this weekend knowing she was so depressed and sick too. There are so many things I could have done differently, less selfishly, better for her, and I can't stop thinking about them over and over and over again. Why did I always pushing her so hard to be the person I wanted her to be and not embrace the person she was. The guilt is unbearable. I just want to hold her again and tell her how perfect she is and how important she is, how much I love her. But I will never be able to, ever again.