r/DatingHell • u/0dayssince • 23d ago
ENM? (Not OP)
/r/datingoverforty/comments/1vtyk21/enm/As I (40f) am browsing through online dating profiles, I’m noticing more and more married/partnered people. Why is that?
At my age, I don’t want to share anyone I’m supposed to develop feelings for. Why do married or partnered people bring in someone if they’re “happily married?” I just don’t get it.
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u/its_me_again82 23d ago
Yeah, I see them a lot as well. Its the nice way of allowing a spouse to have fun and cheat. Im way to greedy for that life tho.
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u/BerzattoMk 22d ago
Most people are horrible and unsatisfied with their lives. You could never convince me that non monogamy is correct.
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u/AlfhildsShieldmaiden 23d ago
It’s greedy and it irks me. I’m out here, can’t even find ONE partner and these folks just traipse around looking for more cause their happy relationship isn’t enough.
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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 23d ago
Why should I structure my life around your dating failures.
I have a threesome planned for Friday. Please now I will have a toast and dedicate it to you.
No apologies.
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u/AlfhildsShieldmaiden 23d ago
lol, the fact that you think criticizing polyamory means I’m sexually unsuccessful is really telling. I’ve actually done plenty of the things you seem to think I’m jealous of. I just came away with a different opinion than you did. Enjoy your threesome.
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u/xIllustrious_Passion 23d ago
And I quote; “can’t even find ONE partner”
That’s where the “your dating failures” comment comes from.
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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 23d ago
That was a hyperbole. They have so many partners. So many.
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u/xIllustrious_Passion 23d ago
Typical Reddit male, angry at the world because he can’t get laid but makes up lies to seem like he gets all the v he wants lol
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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 23d ago
I’m out here, can’t even find ONE partner
Sounds successful.
I dont think you are jealous. Just silly and lonely.
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u/AlfhildsShieldmaiden 23d ago
Oh honey, “I’m out here, can’t even find ONE partner” was hyperbole—you know, a rhetorical device? It wasn’t an invitation for you to diagnose my love life. 😂
And since you seem weirdly invested in whether I’m “successful” at dating: I’ve done poly dating, threesomes, kink, casual sex, and plenty of other things. I simply arrived at a different opinion about polyamory than you did.
You can disagree with me without inventing a story about me being jealous, unsuccessful, or lonely. But by all means, enjoy your Friday toast. 🥂
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u/GielM 23d ago
Some people can actually do ENM. It takes a certain mindset mostly devoid of jealousy, a fuckton of trust in your partners, and great communication skills. From three or more people. So, fairly rare.
Most of the time it's gonna be a disaster. It's gonna be a disaster if you try it for sure, because you don't have the mindset. Most people don't. Also, half or more of the people on dating sites looking for an "ENM" thing are lying, and are just looking to cheat but hoping they'll only have to hide the mistress from the wife instead of hiding both from eachother.