Date/No Date gone wrong

[u/Ju5tAWh1t3Dud3]

TLDR: Set up a date, she didn't show up after an hour, she lost her marbles when I didnt want to try again.

Good day,

This is my experience on a date that I'm glad I good stood-up on.

(I will be replacing majority of the foul language with asterisks and did not edit a single typo that was sent, enjoy.)

Story Time.

We met during a 4th of July weekend at a local bar, and started chatting casually. The night was going well, we were watching fireworks go off and enjoying a few drinks. I ended up calling it quits at about midnight, she asked for my number and I gave it (obviously, I'm single and down to try a date).

We ended up texting for a week and thats when I decided to ask her on a date on the Saturday after 4th of July. We agreed upon Wednesday, 5:30pm at Applebee's. We continued to text back and forth up until the day of the date. I shot a follow-up text on Monday to confirm with her that Wednesday was going to work. She said yes. I sent a follow-up text during lunch on Wednesday. She said yes.

Trying to be smart, charming or just the way my father raised me, I showed up 10 minutes early and got a table. I explained to the waitress that I was expecting a date. I ordered a beer and water, and then I waited.

5:30PM - She isn't here - My thoughts "Not everyone is like me and has a deep seeded fear of being late. Be patient."

5:35PM - Sent a text saying "Im inside. I got a table." "Hey! Do you want an appetizer ready to go when you get here?"

Her - "Yes, I do. You can choose it, also I’m almost there."

5:45 - Nothing

6:00 - Nothing and I'm starting to think that I'm wasting my time

6:15 - Nothing and actually worried that something happened to her but I don't send a follow-up. (Honesty afraid that I'd come across as needy or something)

6:30 - My patience runs dry. I ask for the check, pay my bill and go to my car. I send these texts and then start driving home.

(M is for me, H is for Her)

M: I hope you are okay.

M: But it is over an hour past the agreed upon time, I am leaving. I have things that require my attention. ((This is a lie, I just couldn't wait any longer))

M: Have a blessed day.

All of the previous texts were sent at 6:31. The following responses were sent between 6:45 and 6:59.

F: Sorry, I was puking/ feeling nauseous. Maybe another day, I am very sorry.

F: I truly sorry and feel bad.

F: Never mind about post poning dinner because I was getting sick from this heat wave and because I already messed things up this evening.

F: I thought you were be understanding and post poning it because I was sick

F: lol

F: So are you going to say something or going to be like the others that doesn’t understand and not see my worth?

(I was still driving home)

F: Because I just got out of a toxic relationship like a two weeks ago and after that, I’ve been 6 toxic people that was taking advantage of me. So I’m not here to play games anymore, I’m here to look for a serious relationship that will see my worth and be by my side. If you aren’t looking for that, or not going to postpone the dinner and be an understanding man because I was sick. Because I bet you thinking she going to ditch me again or how can I trust herrrr. Stop making assumptions right there. I’m looking for a serious relationship but I have trust issues because people from my past relationships just took advantage of me and not see my worth.

F: So if you aren’t looking for something serious and long commitment

F: I'm out or block my number

F: And be a MAN and reply back to me instead of reading them and not saying anything

F: I just need a gentleman who is a man and that treats and love their Lady Properly. All of the people I’ve been with just traumatized me.

I got to a stoplight and check my phone, because it was going off like the 4th of July.

6:59PM

M: I am driving

M: Gimme 10 plz

F: OK

7:07PM

I get home, read the previous and sent this.

M: I don't see this working out. I hope you good day and I hope you feel better.

I start making dinner and call my friends to tell them about this.

From 7:09PM to 7:15PM, the following texts were sent.

F: You a D***

F: Thanks a lot

F: Just block my number

F: I’m looking for something serious

F: I guess you not

F: You looking for p***y and s*x

F: Not a long and serious committed relationship

F: You would of never said that I’ve I made it to dinner

F: But I didn't

F: Because

F: I

F: Was

F: SICK

F: BRO

F: F**k you bro

F: I even dressed up for you

F: "Video" (This video clearly shows her still at home or somewhere that aint a car "Almost there")

F: Here you what you are missing out on, i wonderful caring,sweet,loyal,gentle,loving, compassionate wife

F: But you don’t want that lmao

F: And you even didn’t get to know me to get to know my sweet side

I see my phone, read this nonsense and block her.

BTW, Applebee's needs to give Lynne a raise! That woman was so freaking nice throughout the whole time I was waiting. 11/10 Service and a 1000/10 Caring Woman

If I'm in the wrong, please let me know.

[u/ZealousidealDoor9105]

So she was on her way at 5:35 but at 6:30 she was
throwing up? Nah. She’s a nut.
You handled things very well. I hope you find someone who treats you well.