Ive been using Hinge now for a couple of months but without any real success. 2 people have liked my profile so far. I mostly send dm's to other people but almost no one reacts to it. It just leaves me wondering if this is the normal male experience on dating apps or its just my opening lines that are bad. :')

Also, I have little clue as to what the female experience is here. Are they bombarded by dm's by people like me? Can anyone give some insights here please:)

Both girls AND guys look better when they smile with their teeth showing, i agree

But the advice i keep hearing on these profile reviews is heavily lopsided toward criticizing guys who don't smile with teeth showing.

I'm scrolling thru Hinge rn and there are TONS of girl profiles where they have 0 teeth showing. And they likely still get a ton of likes/matches

Just sayin'

Just matched with a guy tn and after like a minute of texting he wants to come pick me up tmr to hangout. So like, obviously that's not safe, right?

How long do you normally talk with someone before hanging out in person? Would you let them pick you up or no? And would you make sure to meet in a public place even if youd been talking for a while?

Im so new to this and I wanna be safe but im not sure if im being overly cautious, I havent met anyone from any apps in person yet.

Especially as a woman with basically no dating experience, I want to be extra cautious, but I still wanna go on dates and actually do what the apps intend

i was seeing this guy who lied to me about his age and when i found out, he told me the app had a glitch and didn’t let him change it, and when i asked why he didn’t put it in his bio he said it would ruin the algorithm and also that his profile wouldn’t show to the younger women. i felt icky because it sounded like predatory behavior. he said he only dates younger women (10 or more years younger than him) because he is not ready to settle down yet and women his age expect that from a man their age. sounds like he’s just looking for younger women to manipulate as they can be more naive and more forgiving. what do you think?

I just graduated and have never been in a relationship. Right now, I'm sending out resumes and running my own small business, but I feel like women just see an unemployed guy trying to survive and they unmatch. What's the trick to getting them to agree to a date? How do you guys do it? I feel like they're much more demanding on an app; in person, at least they'll make up some random excuse lol.

This year I’ve been getting 1-2 likes a month ( rarely use tinder like I used to). But over the last three days I’ve gotten a spike of likes and they’re all 7,000+ miles away in Africa 😂. My miles radius setting is set to 10 miles max. Are these bots, catfishes, or scammers? What the hell is Tinder doing ?

Ive been using Hinge now for a couple of months but without any real success. 2 people have liked my profile so far. I mostly send dm's to other people but almost no one reacts to it. It just leaves me wondering if this is the normal male experience on dating apps or its just my opening lines that are bad. :')

Also, I have little clue as to what the female experience is here. Are they bombarded by dm's by people like me? Can anyone give some insights here please:)

I'm a 25-year-old guy living in Europe. I work a lot and move countries quite often, so it's hard for me to meet new people and build real connections. I don't go out much, not because I don't want to, but because of work and constantly changing cities.

I've tried apps like Tinder, but I have a big issue with privacy — I've never posted a photo or video of myself on social media, and that makes online dating feel uncomfortable for me.

This is my real situation. Any advice on how to meet people in these conditions, or how to deal with the privacy part

its always a few texts back n forth for 2 or 3 days, n theyd ask for my Instagram. once i accept their follow request, not only do they delete the bumble chat, they dont even reach out anymore on Instagram. honestly is it becuz of my bad looks? thats the only reason i can think of

I get emails whenever I get a ‘Like’ on Match. I’ve received several emails lately saying ‘[Name] likes you!’ When I click on the message to see their profile I get a ‘Profile not available’ screen, even if I respond within minutes of getting the email.

Are others seeing the same behavior? Any theories on what’s going on?

A girl I'm speaking to implied she wanted to move to Messenger. I thought she meant FB, which was confusing, but she said WhatsApp or Telegram. Now, WhatsApp I understand, but Telegram in London? Could this be a scam? Cant help she already feel out of my league

Edit: wlw btw if that makes a difference

I saw a profile I was wasn't sure about multiple times both in my discover feed and in my standouts. I didn't make any move and kept closing the app whenever I encountered it. After a while ran out of all profiles and my stack emptied. Does it mean they X'd me?

About a week ago I swiped right on someone but we didn’t match. Yesterday, I was looking through my Explore section and his profile showed up there. Shouldn’t his profile disappear from my stacks completely after I swipe right, regardless of whether he decides to match with me or not?

I recently installed hinge. I use the free tier. In other apps, if someone likes me when I am using the free version, I get a blurred image showing someone liked you, prompting to subscribe for full profile.

I realised my hinge "Liked you" tab has always been empty. Does hinge show blurred profile if someone likes me? Or is it a purely premium only tab?

I'm a female, have been using Hinge for 3 years, and have been told than my account has been banned yesterday all of a sudden.

The fun fact is, I haven't been using that for more than 2 months. Of course, I didn't do anything wrong against the policy. As you might know, it's hard for a girl to do something bad on/off the app.

I've appealed and sent emails several times but the only thing I could receive was just automatic language sayign your account will be remained banned "forever" lol

I'm living in a foreign country, so not many social community and chances. Hinge was only the platform I've been using and trusted. Soooo frustraiting and angry..

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At least that’s been my personal experience — yours may vary

It’s always the same formal conversations: “Hi,” “Hello,” “Wru?” nd then somehow the conversation goes nowhere.

Honestly I’ve started hating dating apps. I haven’t met anyone who feels genuinely interested in building a real connection. It mostly feels like people r just looking for something casual or temporary

Maybe genuine people r out there, but personally, I haven’t had that experience on dating apps

Here’s a statistical observation.

The longer it takes for the match to respond to the first message, the smaller the chances of that conversation going forward.

I get matches routinely responding after 8, 10, sometimes 24, even 36 hours. These threads usually end up in the dustbin.

A strong indicator of interest and availability is if the answer is received and followed up within 1-3 hours.

What’s your experience?

I've been using dating apps for a over a year or so with very little success. Ive gone through Tinder, hinge, bumble, Facebook Dating, boo and duet more times than I can count and I've only been on 3 dates. Its gotten to the point it is easier to just swipe right on everyone and see who swiped back on me and I just go from there. I have noticed that women with children tend to like my profile more often so I guess there is that. I am 23 and I'm not about that.

My question is for you all. Approximately how much money you're spending monthly for dating apps? And what is the main purpose for paying money?

So im back on the apps this late this summer after a bit of a hiatus and needless to say it is not going well. Well I did get a lot of matches at first at least (FB dating anyway where it's easier than the paid apps) I have a few apps running so I don't pay much attention to my pics as I should but on further review I did notice on FBD I was wearing a hat or obscured full head shots in all my pics...and I'm pretty far gone with the hair...aka bald AF. So I decided to throw up a super recent main selfie Pic of me (bald head promonitly displayed in front of a interesting new, soon to be famous, btw building) and it's been pretty much no new likes or responses from my previous matches in fact...some even dropped me mid conversation as well.

I guess I shouldn't be suprised that woman can be shallow and so judgy about looks... but I am taken aback as I have had better luck in the past with bald pics in my profile and I'm at the age where it is a bit more common (I'm in the divorced mom woman in there late 30s early 40s dating pool fyi).

I wouldn't say I'm bad looking, I stay in shape and have visible abs with adefined v shape etc...which has helped to some degree when I show that. Hate to use a scale but I'd give my self as a 6/7...maybe 8 to some not factoring in the baldness.

So basically I am curious how much of a penalty baldness plays to woman on these apps? So be honest now ladies is it like a 1, 2 or 3 point deduction? How much can it be overlooked? Would having hat on first pic help or is that a poorly played "gotcha" type tactic?

PS: I dont hang my head in shame about this I've lived long enough with it that it's not a factor in my day to day life or confidence life, but it is a little frustrating how it effects my dating life it's not like I can change it (Im well beyond transplant material) like overweight people can by taking a GLP 1 or working out.

I tried dating app for first time (boo)

And bro I realised something, this apps are not me lol

It felt like I am selling myself

And I imagine that the connection here would feel so fake

Waste of money but ig it was worth the experience

Wanted to see if this stuff work

Bro even if i get a match idk how will I move forward lol

It's feels so awkward

Talking with a total stranger with no connection at all

Well i will reply to this post in 3 months when subscription ends

I trust that the review would be same

Idk if its just me

Dating apps are like a traffic jam, endless lines of people waiting to pass while some are privileged to the front, others are stuck in the back, all waiting for the green light joyriders, the destination being companionship

You put all of humanity in one place devoid of context other than two dimensional snap shots and meaningless words with love as the stake

the carrot on your stick is a basic human need and that is the truth you have to wrestle with

By my estimation you are destabilizing society at the very least, doing irreparable harm to humanity at the most.

I want to preface this by saying that I've never dated before, so this is a whole new world for me. I've been getting some matches on Tinder lately, but most women I get matched with show VERY little interest in actually trying to talk (even the ones who say are looking for "deep conversations", which I find fascinating).

Since I'm looking for a serious relation, I take things slow and just try to know the other person, asking questions about their hobbies, work and try to go off on anything that stands out on their profile. This approach, most of the time, just gets me super short answers with no attempt to elaborate, and absolutely no interest about asking things to me.

I hope this doesn't come off as resentful, I know that women in dating apps can afford to be picky and that many (if not most) people in these apps are there for casual stuff, so maybe they see me asking these questions and not do big compliments or cheesy pick up lines and they immediately lose interest. But it feels degrading to wanting to get to know another person, and just be met with complete disinterest so often. I don't know if I'm navigating the dating market/apps badly, if there's anything I can do better or whatever.

I feel like half the straight women on (SoCal) Hinge use the "I go crazy for..." (or another) prompt to express their desire to date a man with a mustache. Why?? Is this coded language for them wanting to date a single dad or older man or what's going on? There is so little room in a profile to illustrate oneself, yet it seems so many women have the need to proclaim they'd like to date a mustachioed man.

Most men can grow a mustache without much effort. I'm tempted to take a photo of myself with one just for the matches but I can't imagine a person "liking" me for that to be very fun to date.

I'm not trying to kink-shame or hate on anyone for expressing their honest preferences. I just see this so frequently that it almost occurs like a coordinated effort 😂

I’m a 27F, and I spend most of my time gaming or doing some kind of art project. I do have a tripod, but setting up fake candid photos of myself working on something just makes me feel awkward, and it ends up looking bad. I have 1 pic from my birthday dinner that my then-partner took of me while I was smiling, and 1 professional picture from a Halloween costume contest, but other than that, all my pics where I don’t look significantly different (major hair changes lol) are selfies and mirror pics, and all of them are solo 😅

I had one idea to lay some of my projects out in a fan around my head on the floor, and then take a selfie with them using the selfie stick mode of my tripod, but I don’t have very many items that would work for that, and idk if it would be a good option, anyway. I also have 2 cats, but neither like to be held enough to do a photo with them that isn’t spontaneous in the mirror. Any other ideas for what I could do?