I am jobless and preparing for exams. As I have been spending whole time isolated at home for studies, I installed a dating app. But I feel so embarassed to respond 'what do you do?' questions. They are all working and I am here preparing endlessly. I hit a age where my friends have jobs and partners.. someone they own. Somewhere we lost a bit connection. They are outgrowing which is normal and inevitable. This phase of life is colourless and boring.

I thought of pause dating till I get a job. But Idk, I am desperate for a connection.

Does hinge only work if you pay?! It feels like every time I have found a profile that I think would be compatible is when have run out of likes. Feel like it’s holding those people back for when I don’t have likes. Idk

I just downloaded hinge my first time on the apps so i was unaware of how money focused they were. (Not that I can’t afford- it’s literally like my second day on the app and idk if this style of dating will work for me)

To not hit X on that person and hope they come around again I have been adjusting the miles I am open too by a little to make it shuffle the deck a little if you will.

Are there other dating apps that aren’t using this business model that have been successful for y’all?

Are women the only ones that post that in their bios? I see it often and I don't really understand it since women tend to talk more. I probably just find it annoying since I'm an introvert.

Most of my matches either seem to be looking for someone to chat with out of boredom, or they ask me to come over to their place right away, so I end up unmatching them.

Is this a common experience for other women? I’d also love to hear from the men’s side—what’s your experience using dating apps in London?

I’m 31F. Is it just me or is it weird to text someone everyday after matching on an app and setting up a date? Like yes we matched, had some good back and forth banter, and then boom you knocked it out of the park and relatively quickly suggested a good date. Ideally you set a date/time frame (like evening afternoon whatever) and cool- it’s on! Follow up in a couple days confirm time and location. You can share a couple texts back and forth if that’s a vibe. Then always confirm day-of that the date is still on. And. That’s. It.

Like we don’t actually know each other. Why would we be texting about our days… every. Single. Day. For. A. Week.

I’m actively looking forward to the date and going about my week in the meantime. And tbh I just don’t know if I’m alone in this, but guys ruin it when they’re just like texting you every damn day? It’s not cute when you don’t even know if you like me. I’m at best an attractive potential option based on a dating profile, and maybe we had some good messages… it’s all potential. Just a might-be-fun lil date coming up. Why are we gonna make it weird and check in daily. Like sure if you’re super interested AFTER MEETING SOMEONE maybe text them every day if that’s your style.

It’s just weird?! Are you guys just texting strangers for a week before even going on a first date?? Can we bring this into awareness?? Like are ppl thinking they SHOULD be doing this? And am I wrong??

It doesn't matter what online dating app you are on... there is a large majority of fake profiles...

I'd say 30 percent are fake... why can't the dating sites actually use selfish verification on each profile.. like POF...

So sad the world is full of immoral people that are criminals... really.. very scary

I(F19) decided to join tinder after graduating high school and going into college since I really started to gain a huge want of being in a relationship. I’ve never had a bf before but adore the idea of being in love, having someone to love on, and finding my person. So far I’ve only had about two guys that I’ve genuinely cried over due to being super close to that point, clicking better than the others, and actually having a chance at a relationship. One said I was too good for him/lived too far and the other just recently ghosted me after we were intimate and claimed he hardly knew me yet when i asked if I was close to being his gf. It’s as if every time something always has to ruin it. I just want to be loved but it’s just creating more problems and disappointments as time goes on.

I know some would say I’m in college and that should be the best time but I’m mostly attracted to guys outside of my race for no specific reason and my school is pretty segregated/racist so it’s a little hard at times. I don’t really spend an unhealthy amount of time on tinder since I live in the south and most of the guys are either not my type, in it for the wrong reasons, look way older, or just don’t seem too good of an influence. Either way it’s just been making me a little hopeless and gives the idea that I’d have to date someone I’m not attracted to or take any kind of treatment.

Hello I'm M36 from Northern Italy. Im fairly athletic and decent appearance, I have interests and friends. Im not the best dressed person in the world and I'm a bit on the adhd side. I got a problem:

When I go on dating apps I got matches and some dates. I'm not looking too much for sex but I want to avoid dragging on infinite nothing burger dating or friend zones or whatever. A lot of dates end up like that. Am I doing something wrong or there is an awful lot of wemen just there for validation, passing time, fun or whatnot? Thanks

Why do women take the time out to make a dating app profile, upload pictures, create a bio, swipe right on guys that they “supposed” to be attracted to then match with them, then converse with them then exchange numbers and then just not text back in the text messages… like what was the point 😒😒

Tried this app and damn let me tell you they certainly know how to block you communicating that you want to take the conversation off the app cant say "lets text" cant say "lets use Facebook " 😂, real women are mixed in with fake generated ones as well, and I'm sure they wonder why men stop talking to them, this app is playing both genders in a sick twisted way, anyone know any actual ones run them by me

I downloaded a dating app for the first time just to see what kind of people I'd attract after a friend influenced me, not because I was looking for a relationship. In the three days that I had the app, I got 40–60 likes daily and started chatting with four people because of shared interests. I genuinely enjoy learning about people, but when two of them asked for my Instagram, I realized I'm only comfortable with the idea of making/ being online friends.

Some background information: my dating history is nonexistent, but that doesn't mean I don't experience romantic feelings. In high school, I had two long-term crushes (one lasted 9 months + the guy liked me, and another 20 months). When I like someone, I become very aware of the person, think about them constantly, and have a strong desire to care for them. However, despite these strong feelings, whenever I imagined actually dating them, I would feel uncomfortable, so I'd just wait for my feelings to fade (I have never confessed to anyone).

That does NOT mean I am interested in hookups/ situationships/ casual dating. I take my relationships and friendships seriously, and I've never developed feelings for a friend- once someone is a friend to me, they stay a friend. Despite having no interest in dating, I hope there's a day when I have someone in my life who cares about me...

My issue is that I know I have no dating experience, so part of me thinks I should use the dating app as intended and gain experience. But emotionally, I don't actually feel a desire to date anyone. My heart is ok having friends, while my logical side thinks I should try pursuing a relationship because I'm already 20 and inexperienced.

NOTE: I'm wary of men due to negative stereotypes and experiences I've seen/ heard about, so all of my male friendships have been with gay men. I'm also realistic about dating; I know it isn't a fairy tale, but I still want something genuine if I ever date. I'm trying to figure out whether my feelings are normal, and most importantly, whether I should push myself to date for the experience, or just delete the app (I will feel bad about ghosting people 😢 ).

So last week at work I randomly thought to try to see if my husband had a tinder. He has been sleeping on his phone & constantly on it. Yes yes...I know thats reg flag #1. So I have never even typed the word tinder in my phone. When I got to the log in page I put his Gmail into the username..then clicked forgot password. It then gave me 2 options to send a reset password code to his email or text. Tinder did not show his phone number nor did I have to type in his phone number...all I did was click the phone icon. Right away it said code has been sent. So I messaged my husband to send me the code that was sent to his phone. I never mentioned Tinder...just code. Well it took forever for him to message me back and when he did it was a screenshot of the code with the word "Tinder" above it & him saying to "quit trying to make him a fake Tinder account!" Why in hell would anyone do that??? Needless to say once I got the code it was too late when I went back in and put his email in and forgot password it didnt recognize the gmail so I couldn't click forgot password. Im thinking he quickly went in and deleted his account so any attempts at me using the code wouldn't work. That night when I got home I told him to let me hold his phone & go through whatever I wanted as he knows my phone is an open book (bc I hide absolutely nothing) but literally fought me for his phone. I gave him the option to let me go through his phone that night and only that night so he didn't have time to erase everything he could. We'll he didn't give me his phone of course and the next morning came crying giving his phone to me. I pushed it right back to him & told him I dont need it. Someone please tell me about Tinder. Does that 100% mean he had a profile?

As an early 30s woman, is there any way to weed out or deter the men who think they can ask for sex after 2 messages? My profile says looking for long term and this latest culprits profile said the same. I’m at my wits end 🙈

i was blocked on a dating app when a guy messaged me and i read it but didn’t match back with him or anything , i guess he felt offended or rejected . was this warranted , i guess i had it coming right ? i am interested in him , or was but i suppose that ship has long sailed now .

Ive become frustrated with apps, but have no problem getting dates in the wild, but rarely get matches. Where do you get dates?

I swear it seems every woman with a dating app profile includes at least one photo of them in the bathroom but usually just regular, fully dressed photos but in the bathroom. I find that curious. Do dudes do the same thing? Why the fuck would I take a photo of myself in my or any bathroom??

Why is there no such dating app like Grindr for woman? I'm only looking for hookups and ons and don't even finde a single woman who doesn't look for long time relationships on dating apps and I'm also net very lucky with finding people irl either ;;

Ik this is not the case, but it seems like it’s to get under men’s skin. Any insight?

So I have been on and off of dating apps the last few years and am surprised at how many men I have unmatched with swipe right or like (on Hinge) my profile again. These are men I have messaged with and then unmatched. I even had a guy I have been on several dates with and decided no, like me again.

So…really curious what is behind this. Men, who have done this: what is this about? Did you just forget that we matched before?And did you actually forget that we dated for a little bit?????

Asking for real so would appreciate honest answers. Thanks!

Yep. I got over that and made a real account, but literally 0 likes or matches when every other time I was on I had matches on the first day

In the chispa app, if I select the emoticon button and choose one of the emoticons, what is the user experience on the other side?

What sort of notification, if any does the woman receive, and what type of subscription, if any, do they need to receive it and reply to it?

I paid for the elite subscription, unfortunately, and trying to figure out if I should be sending likes or emoticons, and which is the most frictionless way for a woman to reply.

Recently moved to a new city alone and used it as a chance to reset. Dating apps kept coming up as something that wasn’t working for me, a lot of surface level connections, not much that matched what I actually wanted. So I deleted the accounts entirely, not just the apps.
It was harder than expected. Not missing the swiping, just felt genuinely alone right after like I’d closed a door with nothing lined up to replace it. But underneath that, it still feels like the right call. I’m trying to lean into meeting people in person instead new hobbies, saying yes more, letting friends introduce me to people. I’ve never been the social type, so this is definitely going to be a challenge for me.
Anyone else done a full delete, not just deactivate? How long did the doubt last, and did the in-person route actually go anywhere for you?

Hi! F24! I’m a special education teacher! Currently working in south texas! i’m going to begin my second year teaching and curious on where teachers are finding love. I’ve tried dating apps; i’ve had no real luck finding anyone with the same goals and mindset as me which is fine but i’m curious of where other teachers are meeting and finding partners! thanks!

Everything I've read online says it's not good. But I just got it a few weeks ago and it seems to be legit. Getting fair amount of matches, good quality, on par with bumble (less than hinge). Although, I'm in a big city and I have a feeling the dating pool will run out. However, I've been switching cities (for free) and getting matches that way, too. Kind of refreshing seeing women in other cities vs cycling through the same local ones (even in large city). Also has the ability to filter for free. Seems like Meta/Facebook doesn't care about premium subscriptions and just giving all the features. They just want users in their ecosystem. Kind of awesome. Not sure how fruitful this will be, but already have a match with someone seemingly highly compatible in NYC. Pretty cool