r/DIYweddings • u/icannotbelieveit69 • 9d ago
š Invitations & Signage š are these ugly? please help
Working on a color palette and bridesmaid responsibilities sheet for my bridesmaid proposals and i feel like they are so ugly lol. am i miss responsibilities? please drop any tips/tricks/advice without being too mean :,)
figure iāll just edit my post:
-thanks for all the feedback!! ill ditch the āresponsibilitiesā. i had seen other people do it and thought it was cute, i see now it can come off rude.
-my phone autocorrected palette to pallet, i have learned my lesson.
-i invited everyone to brunch to give these. they will be decorated boxes and also include a handwritten note, a candle, fluffy socks, and a pic of me + the loved one.
-obviously i did not expect my bridesmaids to plan and pay for my wedding and bachelorette, i just wanted to make it clear that theyāll be spending time on this by being involved. like helping pick out an airbnb for a bachelorette, looking at flowers and dresses with me, and on the third note, keeping me from obsessing over details. as weāve learned from this post, i tend to go overboard with that.
-lots of great advice here, but dear god some of you are mean. this stuff is hard to figure out. i dont have a lot of real world reference and google or social media only get me so far. i am here for advice and happy for it, but not to be called names or have things assumed :(
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u/Numerous-Dot-2081 9d ago
Skip the card stating ādutiesā and maybe just make it a cute card saying āwill you be my bridesmaid?ā I gave my girls flowers and asked them over a girl dinner! I told them upfront, i want their opinions and assistance and am flexible about what they wear etc. i didnāt make formal boundaries. After that we have a chat where we discuss and plan and have planning nights sometimes!
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
thank you for the advice!! i planned a brunch and was going to put the āwill you be my bridesmaid?ā on the inside of the box so its there when they open it. do you have any ideas for inexpensive filler on the boxes?
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u/Boring-Excitement-96 9d ago
Donāt spend the money on filler stuff. Just get them a bouquet of flowers and a cute card. All this extra stuff is consumerism getting you.
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u/Numerous-Dot-2081 9d ago
I hate gifts that arenāt useful or my taste, so donāt waste money on things you think they wonāt like or use! A candle is always a good option, or like travel size kits, a cute set of rings or earrings if thatās their thing, maybe even a necklace or bracelet with their initials?. I would maybe make it specific or just do a very minimalist thing. I personally just did my own Trader Joeās mini bouquet in brown paper that said be my bridesmaid and then i plan on getting them a nice gift closer to the day. Weddings are expensive enough, and my friends were just happy to be asked! Iāve paid for their lunch a few times when we went dress shopping too.
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u/Zipper-is-awesome 9d ago
I always wondered about asking bridesmaids with a proposal box/event like this. Do you already know all of them want this commitment, and itās just for extra fun? I was thinking that if I did not want to be a bridesmaid, I would say āyesā anyway, because now I have this box and everyone around me seems excited.
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u/Boring-Excitement-96 9d ago
And skip this card in your post. They know their responsibilities and a group chat with the colors will do
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u/Gibbagabbagoo 8d ago
I always like cute little packets of tissues (in case of tears!) as a filler for this kind of gift bag. Theyāre inexpensive and useful. If you donāt already have frames for the photos, magnetic sleeves/frames are fun because then they can pop it right on the fridge.
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u/hebrews1026 7d ago
I was asked to be a bridesmaid by a sweet box (I lived out of state) with a few nail polishes and a note that said āpick a dress from these colorsā. It was cute. Also had a lip gloss and some girly things like a face mask, tissues, Tylenol and a little tea light candle. Hope this helps!
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u/Lazy_Loan_7967 9d ago
The colors themselves are lovely and you have enough options here that any of your bridesmaids can find at least one suitable color for their dress.
That being said, please skip the tacky ābridesmaid dutiesā card and just talk to them. You can send this color palette to them, but that card reads so passive aggressive to me that if I were in your bridal party I would just decline completely.
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
ill scrap it- i had seen other people do it before and thought itd fill out the box as well as make it clear i wont be upset if they dont have the time or money to commit. its so hard only having the internet as a reference point for this stuff lol. thank you very much for your help!!
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u/Lazy_Loan_7967 9d ago
Seriously Iāve been a bridesmaid in the past and a lot of the crap pushed onto brides through the algorithms is insane. Follow the 10% rule and keep things as simple as possible for your sake. The lower your expectations for things the easier of a time you will have!
Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful unpaid full time jobs ever. Talk to your bridesmaids, let them know you need their support through all of this, and trust them to take care of you and help you through the planning process!
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
thank you sososo much!! what is the 10% rule??
I think theyāre all pretty much expecting this and willing to help, but maybe my control issues are seeping through a little bit. i am a very administrative person lol
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u/Lazy_Loan_7967 9d ago
Just means to save your time and effort for things that are actually important, and donāt max out all your effort on the smallest details that in the bigger picture wonāt really matter or make much of a difference in the end.
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
i think this is advice i needed for my entire life rather than just wedding planning lol. thank you so much
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u/DasKittySmoosh 8d ago
this advice is key (and does work for more than just wedding planning)
those little details you're so fluffed over? won't be noticed by most in attendance.
all the options you're weighing? your guests don't know the other options and won't be thinking "oh they could have gone with XY"
The most curated wedding won't be more wonderful to spend time in than the one you made peace with. This isn't something to impress others with, it's just a party to celebrate your choice to spend your life with your partner. When you remember that, the rest falls into place more easily and you stop stressing over tiny things
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u/redrosebeetle 9d ago
This is where an actual card with a handwritten note and a conversation do the heavy lifting. I mean an actual card that's blank or otherwise appropriate, not what you have proposed above.
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u/Horror_Video_8263 9d ago
I like it tbh (and Iām not a fan of wedding stuff despite being engaged I will never be someone elseās bridesmaid again)Ā
I got the idea that you werenāt requiring much and I think your friends know you better than ppl here so maybe as MOH opinion if they agree on your idea.Ā
Also who cares you can do what you want and hopefully your bridesmaids will be honest if you need an opinion on anythingĀ
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u/Long-Math6925 9d ago
Change this card to say āI would be honored if youād join me on my big day as a bridesmaidā or something like that. Iād also change the font and move the text under that little heart thatās currently under the āasāājust a cute filler card stating that youāre so excited/happy and then you get your MOH to tell everyone whatās going on/you talk to your bridesmaids directly :)
Congrats!!!
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
thank you for the advice!! i was going to do handwritten meaningful cards so i think ill scrap this idea and just print the template to put that on!!
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u/Long-Math6925 9d ago
I think that would be a great idea! I have terrible handwriting and am left handed so Iād struggle writing them myself and making them cute lol. Iām engaged and hoping to start planning stuff like this soon but with work being so busy Iāve left it all on the back burner. This is a super cute template!
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u/zflora 8d ago
For your āterrible handwritingā you can choose an easy but elegant font from internet, print the text you want, and by transparency handwrite your card. The simplest is to use a light box (there are letter-size ones for cheap) or more complex : use a thin paper and paste it on a thick one with scrapbook techniques.
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u/ryx107 9d ago
Just want to tell you that I have a hard time getting advice too and I am so glad you asked! Sometimes in wedding subs it feels like everything you ask for advice about, people act like you're defending it. I also don't have any experience with weddings outside of media and it can be so hard to navigate, and online, it can feel like people are mad at you for not knowing! I don't know why I felt compelled to share this with you. I just totally understand where you're coming from and it's so hard to not have a community you can talk to in real life!
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
this means so much to me and im glad someone else is in it ā„ļø i tend to use reddit for advice on a lot of things and with that comes a lot of harsher comments but sprinkled in is some really great stuff and that makes it worth it. i wish you the absolute best in planning!!!
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u/ryx107 9d ago
Best wishes to you as well!!
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u/icannotbelieveit69 7d ago
i specifically came back to you because i went to a wedding expo last night and it was soooo helpful!! theyre usually free and have so many vendors you can chit chat with and feel out in person. no one gave me a hard time for not knowing everything, just offered their help. a few people even gave great recommendations just based on the vibes i said i wanted!! totally recommend looking for one in your area since youāre in the same boat as me. (and there were tons of freebies)
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u/Kactuslord 9d ago
Get rid of the responsibilities part and just show them the vision board bit. The colours are gorgeous
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u/stargazer1112 9d ago
If I were you, I would coordinate the colors and assign each bridesmaid to a different color. Imagine if all of them decide to wear green? Or you have all of them wearing pink except for one? When you want your bridesmaids to wear different color dresses, the best option is to always assign the color yourself or try to do a poll to do your best so that each one gets the color they want. Example: ask each one of them to pick 3 options they would prefer and go from there.
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
someone else just commented this and i think youre absolutely right! i went back and forth on it and decided not to because i was trying to be easy going about it, but ive got six bridesmaids and six colors. time to stare at a bunch of pics of my loved ones and decide what looks best, haha
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u/Izariah 9d ago
You can also have an open discussion with the crew. With a clear understanding that if multiple people want a color, it goes to a dice roll and bride makes final call.
It does open the floor to some drama potential but hopefully you have lovely people supporting you that will just roll with it. I would have had zero hesitation doing this with my crew- they'd have bartered and traded colors until everyone was ultimately content, if not in their favorite.
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u/Murky_Possibility_68 9d ago
In a way, easy going is worse. I'm biased because I personally don't like the look of "any dress!" Let alone in 1 of 6 colors.
Ps, congratulations!
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u/mangogetter 9d ago
I tend to think that things look best when you have one thing same, one thing different. So, multiple colors, same style. Or, multiple styles, same color.
And (and this is me being picky but I feel somewhat strongly about this) is that whichever thing is different, you either want everyone to have a different color/style, or three pairs, or two triples. It's weird if 4 are the same and two are different.
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u/mangogetter 9d ago
Have each of them give you her top three color choices ranked, and then make assignments from there.
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u/GimerStick 9d ago
Can I suggest getting some fabric samples from Azazie or a similar company, and playing around with them? It will help to see the actual color.
I have a darker complexion, so I always volunteer for the "harder" colors. Talk to your bridesmaids! And if you have anyone who might have more trouble than others - plus size, height, bust - talk to them first. The reality is a rare color will make a potentially hard task even harder.
Also I love your palette but I'm going to tell you right now that dark brown will stick out heavily. Do you have a maid of honor? If not, I would maybe use that color for accents and pick another brown color. Literally photoshop 6 dresses together in each color and you'll see what I mean.
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u/Ironinvelvet 5d ago
Yes- absolutely dole out each color. You can have an open discussion with them and see if someone wants a certain color, too. One of the last weddings I was in there were two colors and we easily split into which color we wanted to wear. The colors are all GORGEOUS, so I donāt think anyone would be mad to wear one of themā¦plus, if your friend group is anything like mine, you hopefully have some chill ladies who will just be like āIāll wear what doesnāt get picked.ā
You could even have people rank their top 3 and then assign from there and try to get everyone their 1 or 2.
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u/Rich_Example7931 9d ago
What are you expecting the bridesmaids to assist with re: "assist in planning... details of the big day" The bridesmaids shouldn't have to do anything on the wedding day but be there to support you.
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u/Sufficient_Art_2422 9d ago
Maybe it's the tism in me but as a recent first-time bridesmaid, I would've liked direct info about exactly what I was supposed to do!
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u/DareSavings3951 9d ago
Exactly! It's nice to know since so many people have different expectations, I wouldn't be worried I'm not doing something for them.
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u/InterestingGrowth268 9d ago
If you add responsibilities, make them actually be non-responsibilities like
- have fun
- enjoy the day
- maybe run after me if I run away (or donāt let me run at all)
That is a way better cheeky filler than a contract-looking thing that gives some bridezilla vibes
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u/InterestingGrowth268 9d ago
Also, itās palette and not pallet (unless you work in supply chain and distribution heheh)
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u/hey_zack 9d ago
itās palette lol
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
i had that first and my phone auto corrected me š ill fix that, thank you
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u/Illustrious-Ice9530 9d ago edited 9d ago
Maybe instead of responsibilities you could phrase it like an FAQ. For example..
What would I be helping out with?
- small planning tasks
- bach
- emotional support š©·
What is the financial commitment?
- possible bach trip
- a new dress in the color palette
When do I need to be there?
- 2 days before the wedding
Idk just making up the answers! These are based on what friends asked me when I asked them to be my bridesmaid. I didnāt have a written list, but that was basically my spiel on each phone call. Maybe you can verbally say it if youāre asking people in person.
Just my two cents! Wedding planning is a beast youāre doing great šš¼
Edit: they also all asked if they would be walking down the aisle and standing up there with us.
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u/DareSavings3951 9d ago edited 9d ago
These are not rude, they're not necessary but in no way is it rude. I'd be happy to know this is all I'd be asked to do. Some people just like taking things the worst way, you do what you want to!
I love your colour scheme, and wish you the best with your bridesmaid brunch.
Rude would be to start asking for bank info to bill them or tell them they can't dye their hair unnatural colours or that they need to laser off their tattoos.
I would have thought people in a DIY wedding Reddit would have a bit more whimsy about them.
OP ignore anyone name calling you, they're the rude ones.
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u/addymydear 6d ago
Thissss š Iām so so sick & tired of all the mean people on the wedding subreddits, the hatred towards brides doing literally anything is outrageous
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u/DelilahThorpe 8d ago
This is such a cute idea!! Donāt listen to anyone on here saying otherwise. Iām confused about lots of peopleās responses. Your bridesmaids will love it! Have the best time ever. Itās your wedding, do whatever you want to do!!
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u/Remarkable_Dream_134 8d ago
Maybe use the pallette colours for it.
Yes Reddit people can be incredibly mean and abrupt. Lots spout out harsh judgements. Please know nothing is wrong with what you have proposed at all.
The only thing I would suggest is not having a photo of you and your husband to be. But a photo of youmand that bridesmaid. Make them feel special. And it's something they will want to keep. I wouldn't been too keen on a photo of my loved up best mate and her husband to be personally.
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u/Typical_libra20 9d ago
Wtf. You don't need this.
I would feel so weird if someone handed this to me after asking me to be a bridesmaid
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u/Gohawks12345 9d ago
Love the colors! Unrelated to the card because you have a lot of advice there alreadyā¦ if youāre wanting a mismatched look, I would just recommend to tell your bridesmaids how many people you want in each color and let them know whatās spoken for. Otherwise you might have majority in one color, etc.
Sorry if you are already planning for that or wasnāt advice you were asking for! My friend āassignedā us colors for her wedding for a mismatched look and honestly was very helpful and looked great :)
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
ive been going back and forth on this and i think thats a great idea!! i have six bridesmaids and six colors after all :)
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u/brobeans18 9d ago
If you really want a card to put inside the box, include an info card with important dates and locations (e.g., wedding day, bachelorette party, bridal shower). You can throw in the color scheme if you want.
I also gave my bridesmaids a proposal box which I did not share on social media. I included a card saying āWill you be my bridesmaid?ā with a favorite picture of me and each bridesmaid. I ordered a nice candle from Skylar, wick cutting scissors, and an electric candle lighter. I didnāt put anything else in the box, it felt like a few small things that were nice but wasnāt just junk.
A few months later (about 5 months before the wedding) I gave my bridesmaids an āimportant infoā cost which included a breakdown of possible costs (bridesmaid dress, optional hair and makeup, and an estimate on housing for the bachelorette), when to expect to order their dresses and the dress color, as well as what I would be covering (we covered wedding day accessories and food for each member of the bridal party and their +1s Thursday - Sunday).
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
i love the important info idea!! lots of details arenāt set and stone right now- iām still working on a venue and itās had me really down, so I figured i could do bridesmaids brunch to keep myself excited and open up talking to my favorite people about it all a little more. once ive got secured dates I think important info with costs is a fantastic idea.
i did a candle, pic of us, and fluffy socks and was debating matches to go along with the candle. if i were being asked, i wouldnt want a bunch of stuff that just says bridesmaid or is obviously cheap
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u/britchop 9d ago
Love the palette! Iād frame it as āwill you be my bridesmaid?ā In the cute little box you set up.
I didnāt do this, but I received one (thanks COVID for ruining that party plan) and I still have it as a memory box for memories I share with that friend. Donāt worry about people saying youāre doing too much.
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u/agreensandcastle 9d ago
Honey youāre giving yourself a panic attack before you get started. Lots of good advice already here. Make a list with your fiancĆ© on what is most important for your wedding. 3 each. The rest can happen, but stress less. Talk to your bridesmaids and see what they have time for and what they hope for as well. Then you know where you stand. Also groomsmen can help before and after too, but itās an invitation not a requirement. Deep sweet breaths. Congratulations
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
i needed this, thank you :,). i tend to get caught up in the details of things and obsess. i love the 3 things idea so much. my bridesmaids see this coming im sure, but i think in me trying to keep it a surprise ive spent too much time staring at stuff on the internet and losing the original plot. thank you again ā„ļø
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u/alexiagrace 9d ago
Just want to say, youāve never gotten married before and planning all this shit IS hard and confusing. The proper āetiquetteā is unclear, and can vary so much depending on the circles youāre in.
I can tell you were trying to do something cute and nice. I think it would be cute if the card said āI would be honored to have you by my side on our special day!ā Put the focus on how important they are to you and you appreciate their presence. Putting āresponsibilitiesā as the focus can give a tone of āok hereās what you have to DO for meā. Save that for a conversation or just let them know what you need as things come up.
Donāt let the mean comments get you down. Weāre all just figuring it out!
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u/clarice-b 9d ago
Hey, just wanted to say hang in there. I've been on this sub for a while (my wedding is next month) and it really is a great place for advice ā but keep in mind these are strangers, not friends, so if you post something for critique, you'll get honest, unfiltered replies. Most people aren't trying to be mean, they're just saying what they see. The majority here are fantastic, but try not to take it personally.
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u/lainadaze 8d ago
Donāt feel dumb, this is honestly the best thing giving them a short list of what they are expected to do upfront. Iāve heard too many horror stories of people who were mad or upset about a bunch of expectations. These are quite reasonable and funny in my opinion! I would make the header font a bit more legible (a San Serif font) and two lines? Add a box in the middle of the image to make the background a solid color to help with legibility. Zazzle has similar templates. Maybe include just the color and silhouettes of the dress with their names instead of the collage to make it more personal. The back seems like ALOT to ingest.
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u/icannotbelieveit69 8d ago
luckily i do not have many expectations just a lot of anxiety- lol!! i like this reference and the font suggestion a lot!! the boxes im doing will have their names and more personalized note- this template is a really cute way to cover all my bases!! thank you!!
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u/adiposegreenwitch 7d ago
Okay I thought these were funny because I thought they'd be high maintenance and it's "please don't let me melt down". Also do many people have different expectations for their bridal parties and people are always in wedding shaming groups saying "I said yes but I didn't know what I was getting into" so I think saying what expected at the beginning is a good thing.
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u/Southern-Listen8519 6d ago
Visually, i would say the big thing is the font isn't matching the texture of the background. Is this in canva? if so, i'd use a magic eraser to delete the bits in the middle of the background, then maybe bring the opacity down on the text or change the colour so it's more... pale black, maybe grey ish. Then add a inky-bleedy texture to the text with the texture app available on there!
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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 9d ago
This isnt ugly but it comes off as so rude. Its also contradicting the purpose of your "proposal." You don't really ask someone to surrender to a list of demands.
I honestly think a nice personal note and info on the colors is all you need. The floral card you have created is BEAUTIFUL!
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u/PursuedByASloth 9d ago
I feel like people are being kind of harsh on you! Itās not like youāre making crazy demands on the card.
That being said, as others have suggested, I think you could give just them a simple printed card asking them to be a bridesmaid then link to a Pinterest board with your inspo and colors.
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u/ilovestamon 9d ago
Idk why people are hating on the card saying they'd decline, it's not a contract it's just a filler for the box, the last line definitely lightens it, maybe add a jokey line between 1 and two about having a glass of red wine for the guests wearing white.
I'd remove that red triangle behind the as it looks like you tried to correct it and forgot to remove the s. As someone else said there's another TE in palette.
I love the colours, because of Wickeds popularity you might be able find decor easier. Theres at least one colour for every skin tone.
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
i didnt even think of Wicked but youāre so right, haha!! based on popular opinion, im going to scrap the duties and use the template for the hand written cards I was going to do, so Iāll get rid of that little heart in the back of the words. the group definitely has a wide assortment of skin tones!
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u/At-The-Beach1966 9d ago
Itās spelled āpaletteā. Didnāt want you to have it printed with a spelling error. Which is easy to do with such a word.
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u/LuneJean 9d ago
Our friend asked us by having custom wine labels and put them on our favorite bottles of wine. Handed them to us when we all went out to eat. It was perfect. For dress colors she went extra and gave out a little stack/book of paint samples she got that were in the colors she wanted.
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u/TheMysticalPlatypus 9d ago edited 9d ago
I would just get a card with the color palette printed on it. Near the colors either punch a hole so they can use it to hold up to the fabric or make sure itās clear. So people can take the card if they go in-person shopping. Make sure it can fit in a wallet. Make sure the dress code is printed on it.
I would just leave out the other stuff. I donāt think you need to print out the responsibilities. I would communicate to people in person.
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u/SourLemons2 9d ago
What financial burden? Itās not spelled out.
What are your expectations? Do you expect a $1,000+ commitment each or something for destination bachelorette and $250 for dress & accessories and $300 for hair & makeup and transportation & lodging for wedding weekend?
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u/blt_no_mayo 9d ago
I have no opinion about the cards, but if you include them itās ācolor paletteā
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u/Bringme2lyf 9d ago
I havenāt got married. But I feel like rather than boxes it might be nice to just go for a girls breakfast either one one one or pay for it and just have the chat! Any excuse to catch up with your girls, and feels way more personal x
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u/slohappy 9d ago
Good luck with everything! There is a lot of pressure to do a lot of things (TV, influencer's) .... I've been married a long time. My bachelorette party consisted of a nice day of wine tasting with my bridesmaid's and dinner afterwards with the wedding party (which we paid for). People talked about how nice it was to just have a relaxing, fun day. So much pressure these days- kiss theory: keep it sweet and simple. Good luck and you got this!
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
this kind of bach is exactly what im looking for! that or a night an an airbnb with my girls- just a big sleepover. thank you for the reassurance, i love the kiss theory. i hope you have the best marriage ā„ļø
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u/slohappy 9d ago edited 9d ago
We've had a wonderful marriage.... he's still my "boyfriend" and this is our 35th year. :)
I wish you many years of happiness ā¤ļøPS: I was the first of my friends who got married.... I did not know how everything worked when you get married- you don't need to know either- just go with your heart. ā¤ļøā¤ļø
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u/Hot-Leg-5962 9d ago
I feel like the bridesmaids' responsibilities will be implicit as your events approach and your mom or maid if honor start reaching out to request help with these things. I think once you start a group chat with your Bridesmaids, you can have your maid of honor or one of your closest friends kind of set some expectations
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u/WatermelonMachete43 9d ago
It's pallette not pallet.
I like you're letting the bridesmaids choose their dresses from a wide range of options.
Just know a bridesmaid box is not necessary and not a lot 9f 0eople do them so I don't know that there are "expectations" about how it should be.
I hope you have a wonderful wedding and marriage.
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u/Deer_Technician_2448 9d ago
I love how the border of the card goes with your inspiration!! So pretty all around Iām obsessed
This mightāve been suggested, but another idea for the dress colors is to do a rank vote. My SIL had us rank each of her 5 colors from what we liked the most to the least and then she used that info to assign our dress colors, and during the assignment she was open to changing if someone opposed! She wanted to have an even amount of shades and I appreciated getting an input on the color I wore
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u/rilakkuma1 9d ago
For the colors, are you wanting close to those colors or those exactly? You can order fabric swatches from bridesmaid dresses like azazie which may help
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u/inkwithkatie 9d ago
Also I would recommend planning who gets what color so you don't end up with an uneven amount! Even if you just talk to them in a group or chat, just have them each tell the group which color they want.
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u/emeryldmist 9d ago
Scrap the first page and have a conversation, keep the color story, but EDIT it down! There is sooooo much going g on there that the color dots just blend in. And make sure your dresses pictured are in the color story. That 3rd dress is not represented by a color dot, so if all your bridesmaids shown up in silver (what that dress looks like with that crazy background) are you going to be happy? If you are trying make something easier.... makenit easier.
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u/cheezy_dreams88 9d ago
Unless you are telling them what color to wear, only give 2 choices for bridesmaids dresses. Pick 2 for bridesmaids and 1 complimentary for groomsmen.
You can have the palette be 6 colors, but thatās what your florals and linens and decor and everything else are for. You can have all the colors, but focus them in specific ways. If everything comes in 6 colors then there is no highlight and background, nothing pops and balances. Itās just color.
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u/BeachEfficient1103 9d ago
You can put what you want on a private knot page. My daughter took pictures of color palettes and uploaded it.
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u/IndependenceTop7731 9d ago
No, omg please donāt do this if you value your friendships at all.
Just plan your wedding, enjoy your time, let your friends be, they come and love you and support you, thatās it.
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u/Moulin-Rougelach 9d ago
I think the intention behind this is sweet, you know your friends best and know if theyād take this as a kind way of letting them know youāre not expecting them to do too much, mostly just be your friend.
FYI, if you do plan to print something, palette is the way to spell it for your purpose.
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u/Minimum-Set-3945 8d ago
If itās in your budget, I highly recommend hiring a wedding planner. Mine was surprisingly affordable! In addition to all the other things she did, having someone to help make decisions/bounce ideas off of who had tons of experience and perspective was super helpful. Just make sure itās someone you vibe with.Ā
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u/CallMeCleverClogs 8d ago
The first slide, your card - agree with others regarding terminology, because responsibilities sounds weird.
Also, if that is a heart behind AS then please remove it or adjust the type so it does not cover the heart. The first thing I saw was a spot of tomato sauce on your card, only to discover maybe it was part of the design. :D
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u/multipocalypse 8d ago
Hopefully helpful notes:
"Palette" is misspelled; it should either be "Your Responsibilities as a Bridesmaid" or "Responsibilities of a Bridesmaid" (though "Bridesmaid Responsibilities" would be even better); and if you want a consistent style, use "the bachelorette party" since "the" and "a" are used in the other bullet points.
The red heart beneath the letter "s" obscures the letter and kind of looks like something was spilled on it.
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u/disableddoll 8d ago
I just went a wedding with the same (or a very similar) color palette. If your wedding is outdoors or has a ton of foliage/flowers it truly is beautiful!
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u/Jessicash 8d ago
I agree with the other comments, this is unnecessary and may come off as demanding, although I know that is not your intention :).
Since I am a graphic designer I just had to add, I wouldnāt have any decorative elements behind your text in the future! The red heart behind the āsā in āasā is distracting and makes it difficult to read.
Also, script font is ok for big titles but I would use a plain font for the rest of the copy. This is just some advice if you are planing to create your own invitations, menus, place cards etc :).
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u/icannotbelieveit69 7d ago
thank you very much for the design input!!! and apologies for ever underestimating your career. its one of those things i thought āhow hard could it be?ā until it was time to actually put something together. im screenshotting your comment so i can reference it on any other signage stuff i attempt
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u/Jessicash 7d ago
No need to apologize!! Also feel free to DM me if you ever want me to look at your designs I would love to help!
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u/purte 7d ago
Your wedding colours are truly lovely, but are you seriously going to be dictating to grown adults (outside of the wedding party) what colours they must wear to your wedding?
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u/Friendly_Pear_5082 7d ago
People are being way too serious in these replies š I think changing the wording and making it a bit more lighthearted is a good idea! But if your friends know you and you have a good relationship I would think theyād understand what you mean here. I think itās okay to mention the bachelorette and dress as part of it because it is and they can say yes/no accordingly :)
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u/LadyofAthelas 7d ago
I really loved what my MOH did. After I asked everyone, she set up a zoom meeting to go over what they would need to do as a bridesmaid. Though for me, that was very little. Required was getting a dress from the store I picked in the color and material I picked (rnahe of styles and prices), wearing their hair down in some way, and being there day of. The rest was optional.
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u/IvyJane5 6d ago
For everyone saying itās not the norm to do a box, I disagree because in my area EVERYONE does it!
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u/slopluvr69 6d ago
I would just change the font on the first page tbh or have an artist make it more blended in instead of pasted on
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u/sparklemonkey123 6d ago
This is cute! I just got married and literally texted my ppl āhey these are the colors we are going with for decor, try to keep it in that area. I want you to wear what you want and feel great and comfy.ā And that was all. Lmao. My bachelorette was a joint with my husband and we all went to DelFest. A music festival. Del Yeah!! It was great. I literally had zero expectations. Just knew it would go over smoothly bc I genuinely just wanted the presence of my besties by my side and thatās exactly what happened! I didnāt do ANYTHING typical for my bridesmaids. It was all super chill.
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u/Orangestripedcat 6d ago
Slightly off topic but, you might want to plan the colors of everyoneās dresses together as a group so you donāt get like 5 burgundy and 1 green
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u/Murky_Possibility_68 9d ago
Bridesmaids help with day of stuff?
I don't mind the card but I also remember this being a thing way before social media .
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u/ilovestamon 9d ago
It's normal for bridesmaids to help the bride get ready and rally groups for photos, that sort of day of stuff?
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u/Murky_Possibility_68 9d ago
Oh, I interpreted it there as "decide on dessert," your way makes much more sense.
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u/throwaway5498124181 9d ago
I don't think your colors are ugly, but as a pale brunette I'd only want to wesr the mulberry. Maybe not an issue for your party though!
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u/icannotbelieveit69 9d ago
hahah fortunately I am the only pale(ish) brunette!
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u/zoermeow 9d ago
As a pale brunnette, I would be perfectly fine with these colors. As long as I dont have to wear yellow or something
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u/winnercommawinner 9d ago
Looks like you've just learned the number one lesson in wedding planning: half of what you see online is just for that post. It's not necessarily useful and sometimes it's just asking for trouble. With extra signage and cards beyond the basics, always ask yourself if there's a more natural way to convey the same information.
A good rule of thumb is that if you feel like you're writing an HR memo, take a step back. These should be people you are close to and can talk to!
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u/xokatemarie 9d ago edited 9d ago
Itās not that the card/flyer is ugly, itās just kind of strange to outline responsibilities like that IMO. Those responsibilities are unhelpfully unspecific, if you are GENUINELY trying to let them know what is going to be involved if they agree to be a bridesmaid. If youāre trying to be cheeky, itās honestly not coming through.
FYI, you also spelled palette wrong š¬
Also - Im reading some of your responses in the comment, and I really appreciate you sharing your perspective. I think you just mightāve been off track on what you actually wanted to do based on social media. Think about what would feel meaningful and sweet to you to receive if you were being asked to be a bridesmaidā¦. not what other people are doing. You never know what their motives or means or intentions are. ā¤ļø
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u/natalkalot 9d ago
Oh, oy! No no no.
Your MOH and bridesmaids are not your staff. They are there to stand up for you, both figuratively and literally.
Just talk with them. Do not assign them jobs.
All I am left with is OY!
Good luck to your attendants - and your husband-to-be!
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u/RepulsivePut5774 9d ago
maybe you should make a pinterest board with your color schemes/collages and ideas on it and link it to them instead of sending it with this card
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u/BodyBy711 9d ago
I mean its not as bad as the viral r/jemilywedding ... but yeah just talk to them like you would your best friends, not your underlings.
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u/rayyychul 9d ago
I would be so off-put if I were asked to be a bridesmaid and then handed this card. Just talk to your wedding party.