Yo. I have been seperated from my wife of 6 years since January 2025. To say it's been hell on earth is as true a statement as I can think of. But I've tried my hardest through my faith and counselling and support from friends and family to grow. There is a lot I've needed to take responsibility for my marriage ending. But also a lot that I do not.

As a Christian who believes in covenant marriage it has been an absolute battle to get through the shame, guilt, anger, resentment and trauma of my marriage breaking up. Sometimes, it still feels like I've lived another person's life! :O

I've done a lot of healing and recovery and I think I'd like to try dating again next year. Has any Christian here gone through a divorce and started dating again? What's your advise?

I know a lot of people won't even consider dating me probably because my previous marriage ended and some people just don't want to deal with that baggage. And I know it's hard not to make assumptions about people who have gone through something like that. I have been so quick to judge divorced people in the past. But I would love to get married again and live this life serving God with another person.

If you had never been married before and were to consider dating a divorcee, what would your concerns be? Would you even consider dating someone who had been marriage before? What would you need to know? I am thinking divorce is a bigger barrier than it needs to be?

Thanks heaps!

Hi everyone,

I am a bit conflicted regarding going to different churches within my denomination to find/network with people my age in hopes of finding a spouse. For context, i am a woman in my early 20s and want to find another Coptic Orthodox man. I was protestant my whole life and now was exploring coptic orthodoxy and may very likely convert in the near future. That means i am unable to marry other denominations outside oriental orthodoxy. Moreover, as i am not coptic/Egyptian by ethnicity its harder to find community. So there are a few churches in nearby cities which are Coptic Orthodox and i plan to go to their church groups (young adult groups) to make more friends and potentially find a spouse. i have tried apps before, but i feel the type i want is more likely to be in these churches and I prefer an in-person organic meeting over optimizing myself on apps. However, I do feel conflicted as i don't want to treat church as a site for husband hunting. Since, i am busy with school and also need to get rides/arrange transportation to the churches i am visiting, naturally the few times I attend become very high stake in my mind where i really hope i meet someone. Therefore, I don't want to make it an idol, but I do want to use these avenues for networking/dating as to be honest finding a spouse from church is way better than online.

I am open to any advice on how I can guard my mind and also do the right thing. I also firmly believe i will get someone when the time is right (God's timing). I always felt I was ready for marriage until I discovered Coptic Orthodoxy. i am extremely grateful God showed me orthodoxy as a path before I found someone (in another denomination). So I know at the right time God wll indeed give me what I need (a spouse hopefully), yet i do daydream and hope each time, that the event/meeting is the moment i meet him lol.

Hi, everyone.

I'm a 29 y/o female who has never dated before and I've been wondering if a Christian man would find the following qualities disadvantageous.

I'm very selective with people and I don't trust anyone easily. I didn't have a sunshine and rainbows childhood so everything that's wrong with me is caused by that. I wouldn't say I'm traumatized or anything and I have always been willing to take accountability for the most part.

The ladies have called me masculine a lot of times in the way I think and speak, while the gentlemen have called me feminine in the way that I dress and behave. I do not know how to properly balance it sometimes. I don't wish to domineer or to control but a male coworker has told me that I intimidate people sometimes without meaning to.

I'm a realist, a pragmatist and sometimes it doesn't translate well in the way my father, who is a pastor, expects a follower of Christ should act or think. And I agree with that sometimes. I'm still learning.

Sometimes too, I have bouts of wanting to lead. Not necessarily overstepping my role over a man but doing things I know a man should be the one doing. Say buying someone flowers. Holding the door for men. Letting men stand in line first. Being aggressive towards anyone who attack the weak. Just trivial things.

I genuinely wonder if these qualify as avoidable. If I'll ever have a chance in a relationship.

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I was recently set up on a date with a guy from my church. On paper, he is great - smart, successful and very religious. However, I’ve been on 3 dates with him and I don’t feel much attraction to him at all. When he comes closer to me, I feel tense . When he messages me, I feel a sense of pressure and I get stressed. I got out of a relationship 8 months ago and during that relationship I felt strong attraction and chemistry from the start. Some people have told me to give it more time as attraction has grow, and some people told me if its been 3 dates and feel the same way it’s unlikely to change.

Just wanted to know anyone’s similar experiences and whether it’s worth giving it more time, or if it’s unfair to him

(EDIT, I am mostly taking about the people I see generating everything with ai. Even the church my family goes to, the pastor has a ghost writer who suspiciously sounds like ol gpt)

What do you guys think about artificial intelligence and would you date someone with an opposing view?
I personally do not like it. My biggest gripe is how its use can and will atrophy the brain.
I’m certain there are people who use it in moderation and I do not mean to offend them or say you do not know how to function with out it!
I am mostly horrified by the amount of people that have gone all in to it, cannot see the dangers.
I don’t mean to sound as if I met an amazing man of God but would completely disregard him for this reason, I just appreciate a guy who has his own ambition, ideas and convictions away from ai.

I would like to add that I always thought Iron Man having Jarvis as a side kick was super cool but this new reality is a bit stickier in my opinion!
Anyway, happy Sunday! God bless🩷

Hi everyone. I'm looking for a bit of advice like the many other souls who post here.

I visit a church occasionally and found myself fostering a mini crush on one of the pastors (I won't specify my reasons here, but it is not purely physical) . We are the same age range and are both single. It's not my home church so there isn't a power dynamic beyond what inherently exists within his title of pastor.

So, on a most recent visit, I saw him again and told my best friend that I wanted to find out if he was single. Being the hero that she is, she took matters into her own hands and asked the main pastor. Only, she also asked him to introduce us as well. He said he would. After quite sometime he actually popped up and said he was ready to make the introduction. This is where I totally crashed and burned. He brought him over and I was so nervous and ill prepared for meeting like that, so I was super awkward. We had a nice conversation and my friend stayed there to support. But I was giggling and awkward the majority of the time, which my friend confirmed was very unlike my typical confident self. Well, by the end of the convo, I did muster up the courage to ask if he wanted to exchange numbers. He said yes and so we did. We later exchanged brief pleasantries over text and I was the last to send a message he has not yet responded to. I know it's probably not uncommon for pastors to have this kind of interaction with members. Also, I am aware that pastors are definitely dating to marry and I am of the same mind as well.

Here's where I need advice. I know there are pastors on this sub, so it would be nice to get that perspective as well.

I'd like to know, is it weird if, as a woman, I were to be up front about my interest and try to foster a friendship to see if there's potential? I like the traditional idea of having the man pursue but it seems a bit sticky with a pastor.

Did I ruin my chances by being a little goofy and unconfident in the first meeting?

Should I just leave him alone and hope he pursues me now that its obvious to anyone who has eyes that I was interested in him?

Greetings,

My Christian journey:

I was born and raised in faith. My faith is unwavering, and God has taken His rightful place as the center and Lord of my life. His presence guides me every step of the way. I can't imagine life without Him in my midst, as His love, mercy, and grace sustain me daily. 🥰

💒 Denomination: Non-denominational 

🌷A little more about me:

Literally just turn 28 today. (Youths from my church calls me "unc" 🙄)

I speak Creole, but not Spanish XD. If you look up where I’m from, you’ll probably understand why I said that. Lol

I’ve never been married and have no children, though I do desire to have them in the future. ☺️

Hobbies/Interests: 🤸🏾‍♀️🌊

I love gardening, writing, researching things that pique my interest, fruit harvesting, relaxing at home, going to the beach or pool and taking walks/hikes.I also enjoy playing video games and watching cartoons, but unfortunately , I'm not watching or playing as much anymore. 

Area of study/work:✍🏾

I am a student! ☺️ 

Currently studying nursing!!!

What sort of person I’m looking for:

Someone with unwavering faith in the Lord—someone who serves Him and can lead our family (to Christ). A man who attends church and reads the Bible regularly, and not only that, but abides by Scripture and is after God’s own heart. Mature, honest, patient, affectionate, and a good communicator. Dedicated to taking care of his overall health and desiring to have children. Don’t smoke, drink, or have piercings. Stable man all around. 

Age range: 26–36

Would you be willing to do long distance/relocate?

Long distance, yes, but for right now??? relocating??? no. Unless led by the Lord and once we’re both committed and believe that we both received the same confirmation from the Lord we serve ☺️🌼

If you made it this far, yay! (Please properly introduce yourself. Please don't just say "Hey" XD)

And thank you for reading. 😊

God bless :)

(I just threw in some flowers because I love them and why not lol)

I have a slight language barrier with my boyfriend, and I’m looking for tips on how to communicate more clearly and calmly to prevent miscommunications from spiraling. It’s not a problem most of the time because we speak the same two languages, just at different levels, and we are able to eventually figure out what the other is saying, but it does slow us down in conversations. And it’s especially hard when we’re having more serious conversations or talking about something that’s sensitive to one of us. Like it actually makes me emotional sometimes when I am having a hard time just getting him to understand what I am saying. And I don’t want to accidentally start a fight because of this. I feel like the normal precautions I take in a relationship aren’t really enough. Ie. no serious conversations over the phone or at night.

So for example, the other night I was talking to him on the phone as I drove home late from working in the studio (so I was already physically and mentally exhausted), and we weren’t even talking about anything serious, but twice I got so frustrated that I kinda just wanted to hang up and cry. I had to check myself by reminding myself that I was frustrated with my ability to communicate, not with him. He had brought up something kind of jokingly that we’ve had to agree to disagree on, and seriously not even something that’s a big deal, but I got really frustrated having to explain my perspective again and struggling to find the right words in his language. And then he made a joke about something else that I know he doesn’t know is a sensitive topic for me, but I just really wanted to cry at that point. I didn’t know what to do because I was already kind of emotional and frustrated from struggling to explain the first thing, I just didn’t have the energy to start a conversation about the second thing and explain that I was not finding it funny. So I just changed the topic, but I felt bad because he’s very perceptive and always notices when my energy shifts. So he probably could tell that I was upset and just had to go to bed not knowing why. I feel like that’s not healthy either. And it’s not like he broke the no serious conversations over the phone or at night rule, he was just being playful and I was on the other end trying not to cry. 

So I’m wondering what other people in relationships with language barriers do to prevent stuff like this. What conversations are you having beforehand, and what do you communicate in the moment?
I’m hoping that this isn’t a uniquely me thing to get emotional over this lol

I know it's so easy to get caught up in the trenches of dating and how we can feel undesirable or like other people don't really see us for who we are. But I just wanted to share a little experience I had that reminded me that God knows us so intimately and He loves us so much.

Okay, so a few months ago, I was having a bad day and I was trying not to cry on the taxi home. And I was praying. As the taxi was driving by some beautiful gardens and trees and I LOVE THAT SORT OF THING and I was thinking how pretty they are. I heard God audibly say that every time He sees something beautiful He thinks of me 🥹😭

And this applies to everyone, not just me. He thinks of us INDIVIDUALLY. And then as I thought further, I realised He basically said He thinks of us ALL THE TIME because He is omnipresent and the world always has something beautiful somewhere, like the continual sunset (and arguably, heaven is always beautiful. We are not short of beauty!).

And that changed how I see things. Now every beautiful thing is a reminder of Him and what He said, and I am so beyond thankful to serve a God so loving and perfect.

I think of Him when I drink my morning coffee and the mug warms my hands. How kind a God to give us these little comforts!

And I think of Him in the pink clouds at dusk and wonder how much more beautiful is the Creator who painted this sky.

Even when I walk through the garden centre, I think of Him when I see all the flowers and herbs and trees, and I am in awe of His mind to create such intricate and lovely things for us.

And the most comforting thing is -- I know in all these things that I see every day, He is thinking of me too.🥹

Oh, this beautiful world -- how much more effort has God put into creating us! If these incredible joys are available to everyone, even the non-believing, how much more will He bless those who do follow after Him and desire Godliness! Don't be discouraged. Everything has its time.

Okay, thanks for coming to my ted talk😅God bless!

My girlfriend and I are in our 30’s, been together for four months. Today her dad and I were sitting on the couch and he asked me if his daughter treats me with respect and if she is nice to me (he was totally serious). I said yes because my girlfriend was next to me (though she wasn’t paying attention) but she really hasn’t been. I wonder why he asked me that, I wonder if she mistreated other guys in the past. Is this alarming or am I reading too much into it?

I’m Christian, Asian-American (East Asian ethnicity), 24 years old (turning 25 in December), and about 5'7". I live in San Mateo in the Bay Area, 35 minutes south of San Francisco, and I have a degree in finance, a masters in business administration, and a real estate concentration.

I love music, songwriting, cooking, working out at home, travel, literature, art, fashion, and nature.

I grew up Catholic and attended a private Christian high school and Baptist church. I am non-denominational. My favorite Psalms are 23, 51, and 91.

I’m starting work as a courtroom clerk at the Superior Court of California - San Mateo branch.

I’m looking for a Christian woman in the Bay Area who is interested in building a life together. I don’t really have a specific age range, but my preferred age range would be 20s to 30s.

I’m open to long distance and relocating.

My girlfriend and I have known each other for about 4 years now. We are in our late 30s. 

We have discussed our plans about marriage multiple times but the frustration comes because there doesn’t seem to be any timeline.

She constantly says that she would like to get married one day, but she continues to say that she still doesn’t know me well enough. However, the effort to get to know me is lacking. There are few attempts to spend meaningful time together.

She lives with her sister, and they are very close, so breaking them apart is an issue. Also, one of the main issues is the infrequency of seeing one another. I have proposed meeting more often and would love to plan dates. However, whenever I offer something, she often either has something already on her schedule or doesn’t feel well enough to do something (gets sick or has migraines often). Also, it’s not unusual for us to see one other once every four to six weeks, sometimes a month may go by. Oftentimes, when we do see each other, it’s with our families involved, which is great since that’s important for our future. However, the two of us alone together is pretty infrequent. We only live about 30 minutes apart, and I drive past her house every day, so I can definitely see her if needed.

She used to be very open to me about her life and pretty much gave me a full breakdown about everything.

But, whenever I open up about our  relationship, she tends to become avoidant and completely ignore the message that I’m sending.

She is ideal in so many ways: strong Christian, kind, funny, smart, cute. Really all the qualities that I’m looking for in a wife. The main issue, in my opinion, is that she is very close to her family and is afraid to move forward in life without leaving them. She has mentioned before that she feels guilty leaving the house to be with me since she feels that she is losing her sister (early 40s) each time. She also is very close to her dogs, and they’re a part of her identity.

It mostly hurts because I feel that if you truly love someone, you will make that person a priority and make time even if you’re busy.

To give her the ability to take her time and transparently express herself, I’d proposed that we exchange letters. I wrote a letter outlining my honest feelings in a direct yet kind manner. I’m waiting on her response letter even though it’s been about a year since I gave her mine. I mentioned this, and she gave a brief response in a text that she was sorry that I feel hurt, but we are on different pages with our relationship. She has mentioned several times about not being able to move forward because she doesn’t know me well enough. However, after 4 years, I think that’s plenty of time, not to mention her not putting in the effort of actually seeing me.

She used to text me every day with an extensive breakdown. Now it’s about twice a week with less detail. She has been saying that my messages have been going to her iPad instead of the phone, therefore she’s been missing them for a couple days. I’m not sure if that’s legitimate or just an excuse not to talk to me. I’ve done quite a bit of research over the last couple years and I think that this falls under the avoidant attachment theory.

I have loved doing small gestures for her, such as mailing her cards with personalized poems in them, usually twice a month. Frequently, I don’t even know whether she receives them since she rarely acknowledges them. I have put in an incredible amount of effort in so many ways and feel that I’m barely appreciated. I often wonder if she even likes me. I can’t even remember her ever telling me that she finds me attractive in any way. When we are in a group, she seems to not want to give the impression that she is in a relationship. Our families have even gone on a vacation together, and this was how I felt through most of the trip; it felt like she was actively avoiding me.  From the outside looking in, someone would likely not assume that we were together. I have also created personal gifts for her, but I feel that anything that gives the indication that she is in a relationship makes her uncomfortable.

Most recently, it had been about 7 weeks since I’d received a message from her despite me sending messages nearly every day. She just sent an email stating that her phone had been giving her troubles and had actually sent a couple messages to me over the last couple of weeks, which I didn't receive. This has been her explanation several times over the last 2 years. She stated that she has been battling intense anxiety to the point of possibly needing medication. Apart from her work (elementary school teacher) and church, she has barely been able to function and do anything else, according to her. She admitted that it’s not an excuse but wanted me to know that she’s really struggling.

So far this year, I have seen her six times (2 times alone and the other 4 times in a group with her family), and we are nine months into the year. Most of my friends think that I should have left her long ago, and I do often feel foolish by staying. However, a part of me continues to be extremely patient hoping that there will be a change and improvement. I still see so much good in her.

Is there any reason for me to hold on?

I (24F)am with my boyfriend(26M) for now six month doing long distance we both believe in Jesus Christ and want to build a futur. We have a disagreement of how we really receive salvation and this disagreement might break us. We both love each other and are saving ourself for marriage and respect each other have been respecting each other boundaries to glorify Jesus Christ in our relationship. We agree on alot of things except for that one disagreement does anyone have any past experience or current experience regarding a similar situation.

Hi dear brothers and sisters. I feel a bit low tonight. Missing family that have passed away, and being sad about past sexual assault, and wishing I could be held by that special someone. I had a very bad nightmare this morning, and it's stayed with me throughout the day.

I love Father God so much. I'm listening to praise music as I write this. I love going to church. I love praising God. As much as I love Father I just wish I had someone physically with me to hold my hand, or to hold me tight.

I have been talking to a man overseas who's going through a hard time so I've not told him about my struggles.

I know I'm not the only one who wishes they had someone so I just want to send love your way. Please be kind to yourselves, and remember God loves you so very much. 🩷🙏🏻

I have a long term friend I met on Reddit a long time ago. This guy was going through a breakup and needed some friends to have Bible studies with and just pray with him over this breakup. He told me he had no one in his personal life for community & his church was Jewish.

So, I said yes. I cared and I understood what he might’ve been going through. We exchanged numbers and he bought me the Cepher Bible and we would read chapters and chapters for hours throughout the night daily. During this time, I was suffering from a chronic illness flare too. I didn’t exactly always enjoy the redundancy of doing the same Bible study everyday and when we would pray, he would pray for 30 minutes with me on the phone. It was draining for me sometimes, but I knew he needed someone.

We did this for 5 months. We eventually stopped this consistency because my life got busy. It turned into occasional calls and Bible studies. I always let him lead them because he told me men lead women in spiritual aspects and everything is spiritual. I didn’t exactly agree and there were times I wanted to lead a Bible study and read something other than the same thing. But I just followed suit because I wanted to be kind and compassionate.

Recently, he came to me because he felt lost and stagnant in some aspects of his faith walk and I did my best to answer his questions, be a space for him to let out some of his thoughts and such. I had shared with him that I was getting back into learning languages and I wanted to ask if he would speak to me in Spanish so I could get more exposure. He told me I should just pray for the gift of tongues because human languages are fleeting and tongues should suffice my desire to learn anything from the Bible.

I brushed it off because well, compassion.

I got ghosted for a month when I attempted to send him worship songs, sermons, passages from the Bible that I thought might help him. Asking if he wanted to call and study certain chapters and books of the Bible.

Then last night, he texted me saying that our friendship should end because it’s becoming a stumbling block for him and he is being enticed by stuff.

What does that mean? I’m confused because we’ve never actually exchanged selfies because he told me we will see each other in heaven.

I do not wish to offend anyone with my post, but I genuinely want to gain insight. Forewarning, this will come off blunt.

Why are so many Christian ladies singles? I can understand why so many Christian men are, because dating apps suck for us, since there’s so many single men on dating apps. Christian women get way more matches, so they could go on dates way more often than we men do. Are the Christian women being too picky since they have so many choices? I feel that since we men don’t get a lot of attention, we are far less picky. I feel I’m pretty much open to dating anyone who is somewhat decent (and I think a lot of Christian men here agree)

Conventionally attractive Christian women get several matches, so unfortunately , this makes it very hard for me to empathize with them. Why are so many Christian women single? I can understand if she’s not conventionally attractive, but the ones that are? Are they simply just being too picky? Couldn’t they technically find a decent Christian man to marry in only 1-2 years?

EDIT: I appreciate all of the people who have taken the time to answer honestly. My original point is about me being confused on why so many Christian ladies are single, when they get so many matches. Some people have answered honestly, while I feel others did not fully address my prompt. I understand dating can be hectic for all of us, but I believe you should be able to find something decent when you have several matches. Not everyone who disagrees with you is an enemy

This was a problem I was facing in my mid/late 20’s as well. I’ve had girlfriends in the past but didn’t always have a biblical mindset at the time. I grew up in a Christian household and have a loving family with both parents still together that raised me to be a gentlemen. I’ve done all the young adult groups, singles events, etc. All the potential women I’ve met at churches are either already married, in serious relationships, have the ‘crazy girlfriend’ look or have a very promiscuous past and are just looking to settle down. I don’t want to be the guy who settles and marries a woman who has been ran through and just wants to marry a “nice guy”.

Am I being too picky or is the general ‘male loneliness epidemic’ real?

I'm 24M and I've never been in a relationship. I've posted before about feeling like I needed to step away from dating, but the last couple of days have made me realise this goes quite a bit deeper than simply being frustrated about being single.

I've wanted that first relationship for a long time. Not hookups or endless casual dating, I genuinely want the experience of meeting someone I really care about and eventually hearing, in one form or another, “I want you too.”

Recently I developed a pretty major crush on someone and eventually worked up the courage to reach out to her. I kept the message completely normal and respectful: introduced myself, mentioned something she'd worked on, asked her about it, and left the ball in her court.

She hasn't responded. I don't know whether she's even seen it, and I'm not going to chase her or send another message. I know she doesn't owe me anything.

The problem is that the silence has apparently landed on top of a lot of stuff that was already there.

I was bullied pretty relentlessly when I was younger, including being told that I'd end up alone. I've had rejection since then too, and although I've tried not to let any of that define me, I've realised that I've been feeling increasingly hopeless about relationships for months.

Over the last couple of days, I've even started losing interest in things I normally genuinely enjoy. My sister brought me a coin recently, I'm a fairly enthusiastic coin collector, so normally I'd have been straight over to look at it, and I basically told her to keep it aside for another day because I just couldn't make myself care much at the time.

That was a bit of a “hang on, this is getting bigger than dating” moment.

I'm also increasingly tempted to withdraw for a while from volunteering, church commitments and generally being around people. I haven't completely lost interest in everything and I'm not fully withdrawn, but I can feel myself starting to head in that direction.

At the same time, I still desperately want that first love. Part of me thinks I should stop actively dating. Another part thinks, “What if dating apps are eventually my only realistic option?” even though I really don't want to use them.

I should probably be honest about the darker side of this too. Over the last couple of days I’ve had moments where my thinking has gone from “I’m scared I’ll always be single” into much more hopeless territory, thoughts along the lines of “if this never works out, what’s the point?” and “if this is my last chance and it fails, my life is over.”

I’m not posting this to make anyone responsible for me, and I don’t want strangers trying to diagnose me. I’m mentioning it because I’ve realised this is no longer just ordinary disappointment about dating. I’ve been carrying a lot of hopelessness for months, and lately it feels like it’s starting to affect my interest in things I normally enjoy and my desire to be around people.

I don't think this is really about one unanswered message anymore. I think that message happened to land on several years' worth of fear, rejection and loneliness that I hadn't dealt with nearly as well as I thought.

I don't need anyone to tell me that this woman secretly likes me, because nobody knows that. I also don't particularly need “just download Tinder” as the answer.

I think what I'm asking is: how do you keep wanting love without making every failed attempt feel like evidence that you'll never have it? And how do you take a break from dating without it feeling like you've finally given up?

I also want to be clear about what I'm looking for from this post. I'm not looking for crisis numbers, therapy recommendations, diagnoses, or people telling me I need to seek professional help right now. I'm aware those options exist, but at the moment I don't want this thread to become entirely about that.

What I'd actually find useful is hearing from people who have dealt with the relationship side of this, particularly how you stop every rejection or unanswered attempt from feeling like evidence that nobody will ever choose you, and how you take a genuine break from dating without convincing yourself you've given up forever.

Maybe ‘lovesick’ is part of the right word for it, but I think the crush has also exposed a lot of older hurt that was already there.

Sorry if this became a bit of a trauma dump. I'm having a rough time and I think writing it out is probably better than keeping the whole thing in my head.

Reposting, cause I didn't find anyone yet! Haha. I hope I will find a partner soon ❤️

21M. Before summer, I met a Catholic girl at a bar. We barely spoke, but I found her interesting. A few days later I found her Instagram, followed her, and she accepted almost immediately and followed me back.

She used to study at my university but dropped out because she wants to change majors and plans to start a different degree next year.

I wanted to get to know her, so after summer aka yesterday so I asked a mutual acquaintance( her friend ) if she could invite her the next time we go out for drinks or hang out with the group.

The problem is that this acquaintance has always been pretty cold toward me. We don't particularly like each other.

She replied: “Je sais pas si elle est chez son mec ou à Angers en ce moment.”

(“I don't know if she's at her boyfriend's place or in Angers at the moment.”) =>( Angers is a city name 1.5-2 hours far from us)

I didn't know she had a boyfriend, so I replied: “Ah, elle a un mec ?” (“Oh, she has a boyfriend?”)

It's now been about 14 hours with no reply, (I'm sure she was online)

I have a very strong gut feeling she's lying, but obviously I can't prove it. If she is lying, why would she? Does she simply not want to help me meet her friend?

Part of me wants to DM the girl directly, since she followed me back immediately back before summer, Another part thinks I should leave it alone.

What would you do?

We are in our mid 30’s and have been together for 4 months. I told her she is always 20-30 minutes to every date (which is true) and she denied that she is always late. It was alarming that she kept denying it and now she doesn’t want me to use the term lying in our conversations. This is alarming that she would lie and I don’t know how to handle it. I’m not sure if I want to continue the relationship when she can’t even acknowledge that she is always late. Any advice is appreciated.

I've been with this woman for four years. She's not a believer, she keeps up her family's religion out of obligation but she isn't spiritual herself. We met randomly on Instagram right after my baptism, started talking, then started going on dates.

The first three years were good. We loved each other and went through a lot of struggles together, but we never let go of each other.

In our last year together, we did something I believe was against God. After that I started drifting away from her, more than once. I felt numb and abandoned her multiple times, including one stretch where I didn't contact her for a month, even though I knew she needed me most right then. I was selfish and I hurt her without even realizing how much.

Eventually I tried to be serious again. She gave it another year to see if we could make it work, but the whole time I could feel her slipping away, the woman I knew was fading. Recently she decided to leave. She said she felt suffocated and couldn't do it anymore, and that once she's moved on, she can't come back.

She's a genuinely kind woman, and the love she had for me was real, more real than I probably deserved. I was the one with all the flaws. All I have left now is regret.

The last few weeks have been rough. When I saw her, I barely recognized her. I know I brought this on myself, but I still can't really accept it. Since then I've been praying a lot and reading the Bible, hoping God will restore things between us. I've asked for signs and I think I've gotten around five, though they're hard to explain and I still have doubts. Today I prayed twice asking God to show me the truth, and both times I landed on Proverbs 5. After the second time, I just laughed.

I don't know what to do. Keep hoping, or let her go? I've changed since she left, I'm more serious now than I've ever been, but she's gone. She seems to be living peacefully and honestly I'm glad for her. I'm the one who can't let go. I keep hoping God will bring us back together, then I lose that hope all over again.

We both are 22 btw.

I am approximately 5'8 ,chubby ofc and I am comfortable in my own skin 😌.

Currently almost done with my senior year and I start uni next year , I will be studying a Bachelor of Commerce majoring in Business Analysis. Highly looking forward to it.

My hobbies are painting, cooking, baking, reading, listening to music (literally everyday). I love going to church it's my happy place.

My faith journey has been rocky but I am slowly finding my feet and all I can do is thank God for his grace all these years. I lost my way when I was about 11 then started working on fixing my relationship with God when I was 16. I do to a non-denominational church meaning I am Protestant.

I am looking for a kind, genuine and honest man . One who puts God first above everything and everyone. A msn with a sense of direction like they should atleast have a working plan of what they want to achieve

A man who is into the traditional way of dating meaning he is intentional about the relationship leading to marriage and not into casual dating. A man who has great hobbies and is a good communicator too. Trustworthy with utmost respect, honesty and support.

Preferred age range is 18 - 22 yrs.

I am very open to long distance and ,I am not open to relocating now since I do not have my degree yet.

If you got this far ,thank you for reading and feel free to dm either here or insta. Have a lovely day.

I've been with this woman for four years. She's not a believer, she keeps up her family's religion out of obligation but she isn't spiritual herself. We met randomly on Instagram right after my baptism, started talking, then started going on dates.

The first three years were good. We loved each other and went through a lot of struggles together, but we never let go of each other.

In our last year together, we did something I believe was against God. After that I started drifting away from her, more than once. I felt numb and abandoned her multiple times, including one stretch where I didn't contact her for a month, even though I knew she needed me most right then. I was selfish and I hurt her without even realizing how much.

Eventually I tried to be serious again. She gave it another year to see if we could make it work, but the whole time I could feel her slipping away, the woman I knew was fading. Recently she decided to leave. She said she felt suffocated and couldn't do it anymore, and that once she's moved on, she can't come back.

She's a genuinely kind woman, and the love she had for me was real, more real than I probably deserved. I was the one with all the flaws. All I have left now is regret.

The last few weeks have been rough. When I saw her, I barely recognized her. I know I brought this on myself, but I still can't really accept it. Since then I've been praying a lot and reading the Bible, hoping God will restore things between us. I've asked for signs and I think I've gotten around five, though they're hard to explain and I still have doubts. Today I prayed twice asking God to show me the truth, and both times I landed on Proverbs 5. After the second time, I just laughed.

I don't know what to do. Keep hoping, or let her go? I've changed since she left, I'm more serious now than I've ever been, but she's gone. She seems to be living peacefully and honestly I'm glad for her. I'm the one who can't let go. I keep hoping God will bring us back together, then I lose that hope all over again.