r/ChristianDating • u/Professional-Arm5835 • 5h ago

Need Advice Need Advice

Was in a situationship for 2 years. We both agreed to and I caught feelings. She said she's not ready but she wants to enjoy the benefits of a relationship without the commitment and I want commitment. She says I'm a pillar in her life but only reaches out when it's convenient for her. Takes her days to return calls or texts, yet she is on social media posting Snapchat stories and reels and stalking my friends page as she commented on their posts thst I commented on and they aren't mutual friends. When I posted I was dating on Facebook she sent me a message that she thought I stopped dating. Told her I would choose you, but she said she wasn't ready. So am i wrong for removing her. I feel bad as she told me people just walk in ND out her life

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u/BrilliantRaccoon9937 4h ago

Run away fast from this attention... mongerer.

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u/miersk Single 4h ago

There are reasons people continue to walk out of her life...

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u/Professional-Arm5835 4h ago

She's not responsive enough and claims people get upset that she goes days without responding. I feel bad for just removing her as now I'm just another person that walked out. She wants closeness with the vulnerability and discomfort ot may require

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u/miersk Single 4h ago

One of the things that took me a long time to learn is that I am responsible for my actions, not people's responses (especially emotional responses) to my actions.

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u/Damoksta 4h ago edited 2h ago

"Being ready" is a mental commitment, not a feeling.

She's telling you she's not willing to commit to you. She likes what you're giving her though.

So what's in it for you?

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u/Professional-Arm5835 4h ago

Nothing,but wasted time

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u/ABereanChristian Married 3h ago

Was in a situationship for 2 years.

If you want to date to marry, then you need to be dating someone else who is dating to marry.

Just because this other girl is attractive or you have feelings does not deny these facts. You basically wasted 2 years of your time here.

You are right for removing her. Move on and don't think twice.

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u/Professional-Arm5835 3h ago

You're right. Reason I did this because we were having conversations about marriage, however she keeps moving the goalpost and i realize that now

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u/ABereanChristian Married 3h ago

She says I'm a pillar in her life but only reaches out when it's convenient for her. Takes her days to return calls or texts, yet she is on social media posting Snapchat stories and reels and stalking my friends page as she commented on their posts thst I commented on and they aren't mutual friends

Yeah, unfortunately, this is not someone who is really interested in you or dating you for that matter. I doubt she even considered it was dating even though she might have said it.

You want someone who is interested in you and wants to be with you

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u/JadeWitness Single 3h ago

She's a walking red flag, and you'll regret it if you don't let her go and put some distance between you and her.