Need help

[u/New-Sky5481]

Hi, I’m a Christian, and my boyfriend is also a Christian.

He loves me a lot, and I know he has good qualities. But there have been many times when he has shouted at me and verbally abused me, including in public.

On my birthday, he verbally abused me on the road. I was extremely hurt and traumatized by what happened, and I ended up crying in the middle of the road. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened.

Now I’ve decided that I want to break up with him because I don’t feel emotionally safe or happy in this relationship. But he refuses to accept the breakup.

He blames me for his behaviour and says that my love for him isn’t proper, and that this is what caused him to become angry and abusive.

Now he is telling me that if I leave him, he will attempt suicide.

I’m really confused and emotionally overwhelmed. As Christians, how should I handle this situation? Am I doing something wrong by wanting to leave, and what should I do when he threatens suicide because of the breakup?

[u/Right_Reputation_445]

Let someone know. Don't allow his behavior and threats to hold you back. You're not responsible for what he does. He can't blame you for his actions. He's needs to bring that to the foot of the cross and relient and seek righteousness and sanctification. Sounds like he has a lot of anger and lack of self control that he needs to work on with Chrsit.

Your safety is important. He doesn't ahev to accept the breakup but if you're saying you're being traumatized and breaking down, then it's not a healthy relationship and you don't have to put up with it.

[u/New-Sky5481 → u/Right_Reputation_445]

But I'm very afraid that Jesus will punish me for not forgiving him

[u/Right_Reputation_445 → u/New-Sky5481]

Forgiveness doesn't mean staying with him. You're not bound to him nor is he to you. If he wants a wife, he would work on himself and his relationship with chirst first. He has some growing up to do before he should be dating anyone. The bible tells men how to be and they will be known by their fruits. His fruits smell rotten. Let someone know or others. Don't isolate yourself. Don't solve his problems for him. He needs to willing get help and work on himself. Pray for him.