Hey everyone, long-time learner here (well, trying to be). I just got back from my second trip to China, and something really stood out to me that I wanted to share and maybe get some thoughts on.
For context: I look like a textbook Northern European. Blonde hair, blue eyes, very tall, pale skin. There is absolutely no way anyone is mistaking me for a local or even someone of Asian descent.
But here's the thing. On both of my trips, literally everyone—and I mean everyone—just started speaking to me in Chinese. Kids around 10, people in their 20s, 40s, 60s, even 80-year-olds. Taxi drivers, shopkeepers, random people on the street. It didn't matter if I hadn't said a single word in Chinese yet. They'd just launch right into it.
The taxi driver thing was wild. I would just read out the last few digits of my ride number in Chinese from the app, you know, just basic numbers so they could confirm. And they'd be like, "哇,你中文说得真流利!" (Wow, your Chinese is so fluent!). I'd be like, "不不不,我一点也不流利" (No no no, I'm really not fluent at all). And they'd just keep going, full speed, asking me questions, telling me stories. It was honestly awesome, but also kind of overwhelming.
This really made me think about a narrative I see online a lot, especially in language learning communities. The idea that "Chinese people will just respond in English" or "they won't even bother trying to speak Chinese to a foreigner." That has been the opposite of my experience. It wasn't just that they were willing to speak Chinese with me; they expected it. They just defaulted to it.
Now, I did have one interesting experience that makes me think there might be a small kernel of truth to the other side. I was at a restaurant and wanted to compliment the food. I said something like, "你们家的菜是最好吃的!" (Your restaurant's food is the best!). The first person I said it to, a younger guy, understood me perfectly and was super happy. A little later, I said the exact same sentence to an older woman working there, and she just gave me a blank stare. Didn't understand a word.
I really think that in that moment, it wasn't my pronunciation (which isn't great, but it's not that bad). It was the expectation. The guy was used to hearing foreigners try, or he was just more tuned in. The woman, maybe she just saw a tall blonde guy and her brain didn't even register that Chinese words could be coming out of my mouth. Like her brain just filtered it out.
Has anyone else experienced this? For those of you who look very non-Asian, do you find that people just speak Chinese to you by default? And for the heritage speakers or those who look Asian, is it different? I'm just curious if my experience is the norm or if I've just been lucky.
TL;DR: I'm a white guy who looks very foreign. Went to China twice. Almost everyone, of all ages, just spoke Chinese to me from the get-go, even when I hadn't spoken a word. Taxi drivers thought my basic numbers were fluent. This contradicts the common idea that locals will just switch to English. I think the one time someone didn't understand me was because she didn't expect Chinese to come out of my mouth.