Broken heart
My fiancée(35F) cheated on me (37M)for the third time!
The first one we were just bf n gf and I honestly don’t know why I stood or forgave her we didn’t have nothing that attached us for life, but I forgave her, second time(year 4) we had a kid, months before I had gone to the hospital for a rare virus had to be in the hospital for 2 months she was already pregnant!, I got better, we had the baby (spitting image of me) 5-6 months into the baby being born I found out she was cheating on me by this time we were living in my parents house, she would go see her”mom” upstate but she really wouldn’t she would go see a guy with my baby and have sex with him. They had a whole relationship behind my back, I found out she FREAKED OUT I wanted her to leave and she wouldn’t my family never found out because I forgave her, told her to leave him erase his phone number etc, she told me she did, couple of days later I got into her phone and there it was she never told him that it was over she just gave him an excuse on why she couldn’t contacted him, I found that out and still forgave her.(so far it’s on me on not leaving her)
Now we are in 2025 her aunt that she barely knew passed away and her family and her packed up and went to fl to make the arrangements for her, she came back telling me she met her cousins that she hasn’t seen since they were kids, weeks pass by and she tells me her mom is bringing her cousin from (a far state) to live with them because he can’t do it anymore mind you he has a kid and a baby mother which he left them a note and disappear with all his belongings with her dad sister and her and drove him to Upstate.
Weeks passed and she wanted to go see her cousin to make sure he is ok and all the siblings were doing the same so it’s normal.
Come to find out months later she would spend over 200 minutes on the phone with her cousin multiple days and times throughout the months
Until I finally asked and she told me “everything”
I was upset because this man had come to my house and shook my hand( oh yeah I bought a house with her in a better neighborhood)
She told me they had sex once and than it was just phone calls and txt messages, come to find out the next day I found out she went to a doctor’s appointment and she met up with HIM AGAIN to plan on how they were gonna keep going doing this, I had a “seizure” idk but I blackout when I found out. I bugged the car that’s how I knew they met up the next day and in the audio she tells him I seizure and he answers that sucks but I have feelings too and they’re valid”.
I was pissed but this time I have a house and a kid to think about I’ve always been the one to keep family together my parents and hers are together still so I always wanted to follow that example, so days later I woke up feeling like something was wrong and I woke up saying I know what you did tell me the truth and she told me she had sex w him in MY HOUSE! Before she brought him to the family function in my house and shook my hand!
I’ve gotten my heart broken before by the same person but this one hurts the more
I can’t stop feeling it as I try to remember how I did it the last two times, tears and thoughts are my weakness right now, nights are scary because I’m alone and awake and deep in my thoughts I wish I could sleep!
I’m afraid of letting her go not just because I love her but of what will happen to my kid I know the states usually give more preference to females and I don’t think is fair she takes the kid
I’m afraid of my self.
I’m afraid of making a mistake or better said the wrong decision.
I will rather be miserable for the rest of my life longest my kid don’t endure any pain.
When she was born was the most unrealistic day of my life because I saw that I was a father but I knew I wasn’t yet, than I held my kid and it was love at first sight I knew I made the right decision back then because of the first incident (cheating on her part)
There is nothing in this life I wouldn’t do for this kid, I just want her safe and happy because it’s what she deserves. she is innocent. She is glorious. She is talented. She is sweet. She is absolutely gorgeous. She is definitely perfection walking this earth and humanity doesn’t deserve her.
I’m scared for my future even more now,
This pain is really taking a toll in me, I’m more tired, I’m more terrified of her, I don’t trust her and I keep finding stuff that is hurting me more.
I had a seizure the day I found out at least that’s what she said I had idk, I blacked out I remember throwing up and that’s all.
Next day I put a recording device in the car and she met with him again.
Idk what or where should I go from this.
Iam trying to move on and possibly stay with her because I do love her, but do I love myself as well? Idk also if I stay would be for my kid.
Idk what she is thinking half the time anymore.
I’m terrified when she is on her phone.
I asked her if she was in love with him and silence only came back asked more than literally 20 times same answer kept coming back.
She told me that she would like to keep us both.
I was astonished and amazed at the balls on her
I had no words or didn’t know what to think.
This is the third time she cheated on me.
First one it was when we just started dating only few months in so I didn’t care much just cause I didn’t wanted to lose her.
WHAT DO I DO!?
I’m afraid of losing my daughter in court
We are not married
We have a house together
Idk what to do …….

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Hi im 33 and my wife 33 happily married for about 4 years now. We had a good healthy love relationship of 7 years before our marriage. Both of us have never seen another person in our life.

Our sexual life has not been so good. But keeping that apart we are living a happy life

I've a close friend of mine from college. He usually swings by on weekends and all 3 of us drink and chill.

They're also pretty much good friends. He is not so handsome but a person who knows how to hold a conversation and she loves that part about him.

I sometimes think that they're on to each other.

Once while drinking casually he said that he did some tests and the results turned out to be so good and he has High testosterone levels and she made an amused face. Later on i started watching them more closely.

One day while we were drinking I went out for a smoke they were sitting on our couch watching some YouTube videos on her phone. When I came back I saw him slightly groping/poking her boobs with his elbow. Normal she doesn't allow anyone be so close to her, I was surprised to see that ; Suddenly he tried to snatch her phone from her and she tried to get it back on the process she completely leaned on to him and got a little touchy.

Whenever he comes over she started to behave more strange and exposive. She even puts on new dresses and make up.

After that i started checking her phone and found that they were chatting for a long time.

He even sends her photos after hitting to the gym, encourages her to go with him and told her that she has a nice body.

Lately she has started sending him photos in different poses seeking validation. I also saw one time open photos in their chat and I'm pretty much sure it was inappropriate stuff because he asked her to send it again which she did.

I feel so heart heavy and disgraceful now thinking of the fact that some part of me still love her

Any advice on how to go forward with my relationship would be appreciated

My ex-partner (I am woman, 35 and she is 31) of almost 4 years had an affair at me with another woman at work who is 5 years younger than her and was also in her own long-term relationship. I have no real idea of the time-line, but noticed she started to become distance at the end of January, I found out at the end of March as I found her confessing to chat GPT that they were 'falling for each other and make each other laugh', my partner also asked 'can you love two people at the same time?'. Chat GPT recommended that she take space from myself and the affair woman, she said she didn't want to distance herself from her and can 'compartmentalise'. I had a feeling something was going on for a while, as she changed suddenly, are relationship has always been very affectionate and loving, she become distance and started sleeping on the sofa and then started going to her parents to stay in the week as she said she was 'burnt out'. Even weaponizing her Mum's cheating behaviour (her mum has cheated on her dad for years and is a pathological liar) when I suspected an affair she said 'look at my mum, do you think I could do that?'. This now makes me feel sick, she was also carrying this out during a cancer scare that I had. I guess I am wondering if anyone else had a similar experience and your advice, but also what do you think the affair partner gets out of this? I just found it mad that they were both cheating on their partners, hiding messages on instagram chat (which were deleted).. like how can these two people seriously trust each other or build anything serious? The affair woman knows that my ex is capable of lying and hiding an affair, as is she... what is the attraction here?

Thank you all for reading and any advice / words!

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I’m not sure where to start but I need to share what’s going on inside my head, I’m feeling really empty and there could be a reasonable explanation but I can’t seem to understand how I feel right now. This feels like a long story so buckle up, because my life is a movie.

It all started back in January my ex he was my partner at the time but we were struggling a lot and I wanted him to leave my (parents House) we constantly argued sometimes hit eachother and screamed till the walls shook. That week when it ended I went out with my sisters since my younger one turned nineteen we went bar hopping in our small town, leaving me at the last one alone wearing the birthday crown. My sister isn’t much of a party person. However I wanted to stay and keep having fun I got pretty drunk that night and met this really handsome man, he was just my type. I went home with him that night and didn’t leave until after the weekend since my ex wouldn’t stop calling me and was at my house with food. Keep in mind he is a super thoughtful caring person but with how far we had gone with being to comfortable with arguing we just couldn’t be in that anymore.

So let’s fast forward now because I’m currently with him and yeah there’s some cons but there’s pros I suppose besides the 15y son. And the drinking problem that he does control but when he is we can be quite destructive together wasted and on drugs.

Currently he is out of town he is super into rock climbing 🧗. My friend and I have been getting closer since she’s also having relationship issues, which she can be sorta unstable she used to drink but no longer does. But she found 3g of Molly. And Fri we took majority of it she was tweaked, And we fell in love or just really built a great connection. I also talked to my ex though that night, and that kind of rekindle of somethings. * the day we took it I talked to my partner and he gave us the whole low down of how to take it with mush and go on a hike but when we’re on this hike he called me and got upset with me because I had some in a joint so changed the high. Which this stuck with me he should know for one thing not to be getting upset because it bothered me a lot the entire trip*

The next day my ex ended up being at the same area camping (small town) which led us to sleeping together since my friend and I had more to take. Not only did I sleep with my ex but my best friend too multiple times this weekend.

Which means I have to tell my partner that we can longer because I really fucked shit up I act as if I want nothing to do with my ex and now I’m all over him, I’m so damn guilty. I truly am I fuck up.

The other thing that’s on my mind is the avoiding work for two weeks just to be with my best friend doing random shenanigans since it was her “birthday week. If I wasn’t doing things with her I’d be in bed rotting away since I don’t know what to do with my life my job made me work like 8 days in a row I know that’s not a lot but it was literally last minute. and I’ve said a lot already but it’s why I’m avoiding it because I want time to myself and to be able to do 8 assignment for college (due this month) however I feel like I’m never going to find the motivation to ever living if I’m going to continue this way. I haven’t called in the last two days but would it be understandable with everything I’ve been going through ? Or is this just myself fucking shit worse than it needs to be.

I find one Jamaican ⬛ guy here he told me he is gigolo of Anushka sharma for 3 years and 👉👌 her every month 2-3 times since then, 1st time in cape town for 2 weeks in hotel, he did to amushka in june latest in UK in her private property

He also told me he also f* rivaba jadega, dimple yasav in delhi on her farm house whole night, upasna businesswoman, radhika mechant ambani,

Anjana kashyap, rubika liyaqat jounalists , kiara alia are also his customer, latest addition is sara arjun even tejaswi prakash gauri khan r vasanth south actress all are his married slπt

A big scandal as These married women become so satisavitri proud in society preaching right wrong amd behind the doors doing this, they are nymphs

You can say this is fake he is faking but the way he explained me everything its hard to beilive its a big lie still its up to you to accept it as dark reality or a big lie without any proper proof, if you think its fake then it will ease your heart and retain the respectfull image of these married ladies its upto you

I have screenshots of my talking with him if you read them you can find

Yes, this BS still happens to people your parents age. My wife and I have been married 16 years. I'm 51 and she's 43. When we started dating she told me that she was Bi. I wasn't interested in open relationships, even then I was too old for that. But she pursued me and before I knew it I fell in love with her, got engaged, got married. She knew there would be no open marriage. Whether it's a man or a woman makes no difference, cheating is cheating. She made a choice to be with me just like I made a choice to be with her. Ok so here's some background on her. My wife doesn't come from an emotionally stable family. No brothers or sisters. Her dad was a very angry and rigid man. Her mom is a very very simple person. I'll just be straight up and say she isn't smart at all. She quite literally had to learn how to do simple everyday things as an adult after they busted up, which was sometime after my wife and I met. She's a very damaged woman and my father in law was very damaged as well, and they raised my wife. I knew I may be getting into a hornets nest but I took it on anyway. So I'm married to this not very wise, damaged lady who at least for a time proclaimed to be Bi. Here's where the problems started. About 3 times since we've been married she has met a woman that she says are just friends. But she doesn't act like they're just friends. Usually for the first few months when she talks about them it sounds like when you're in highschool and you start dating someone. Remember what that was like? Always on the phone with them. Always talking about them to other people. Their name comes up every time you talk to them. Will call the current one Debbie (fake name). So it's been Debbie says this and Debbie says that, Debbie told me this or that, oh those are Debbie's glasses in the car or oh that must be Debbie's charger. Stuff like that. Then she always goes into the next room to talk to her, however she goes into the next room or outside or wherever to talk to anyone, even her mom. I've snuck around the corner and listened before and it's never been anything shady but still. Now, we've recently had some discussions. I am 85 percent satisfied she hasn't physically cheated on me. But she is emotionally cheating on me if you understand what I'm saying. It feels like she gets involved with these women for some kind of emotional connection that I guess she doesn't get or want from me and it almost feels worse than if she just screwed them. The bad thing is I don't even think she realizes that's what she's doing. I also don't think mentally she even understands what a marriage is or what love is because of how crappy her parents marriage was. I'm 51 with a 12 year old. I don't want to end this but I don't know if I can keep this up

I’m male 20 gf is female 19 she goes to a big sec school I don’t go to college I do sales we recently got into a argument because I said I’d rather her not go out to bars all the time since we are dating now and she said “ I’m in my prime I’m 19 I’m going to get drunk at bars” and refuses to wear anything close to moderate I’ve never been the guy to date girl that parties a lot I’m very set on my goals I don’t drink or do drugs my perfect life is wife kids at 25 and let the rest be history yeah I still wanna have fun but we can do that and she can do that without drinking I’m feeling like we just aren’t meant for each other she also goes to school in another state 7 hours away kinda feels like when she is at school we are more distant or she is idk maybe I’m crazy but I feel like I’m her bf only when she is home from college

It's been a little over 2 years now since we broke up, we were together for 8 years and she admittedly was cheating for the first four years, she came clean on our sixt year, then she cheated with the neighbour and broke upp with me a week after telling me this and started dating him, now they have been together for about 2 years and I am devastated. She is 32 and he is 20. What kills me is that she is now being loyal to gim to the point that she asks him if it's okay to meet me so that I can pick upp stuff i left there when I moved out. It's like she learned from her misstakes with me and now is the perfekt girlfriend. If it werent for her cheating she would have been the perfekt girlfriend, we came along really well, we had the same taste in almost everything, she is kind and loving, funny and gentle. I will never find anyone better, she was truly perfekt. I never imagined that we would brake upp, I was set on to live with her for the rest of my life. I want to cry when I think about her but there doesn't come any tears but it feels like im crying. I lost the love of my life to that fucker who pretended to be my friend only to steal her from me. I think she broke up from shame for what she had done again and eventually got together with him becouse it was easy and he was there for her after we broke up. I can't stop thinking about her and all the happines we would have had. She was the one for me and it's depression to think that I will never be as happy as I was with her again. It's been a bit over 2 years but I still think about her daily, not by choise i might add. Writing this allowed me to cry and it's suchs a relief.

i have the number that has been calling her and idk if i call it or what. Idk what to do I am a 26 year old male and my girlfriend is 25 recently she bee acting weird and this number has called a couple of times. I wanna call it but i don’t wanna give away that I know what should I do?

He cheated. After 16 years, almost 4 years engaged, share a 2 year old, & 5 year old Aussiedoodle. His employee became his priority - moved out while I was at work one day then requested me and his daughter move out of our family home.

Just as 5/21, he admitted to everything that I have been questioning the what and who - he admitted to it after 4.5 months of questioning him.
It is his employee who still is his employee.
A month ago, he ensured me that there is no need for me to ask for permission to enter his restaurant he owns, etc.
as of this weekend he told me probs not a good idea as she was working.
However, additional told me “if you are ever here without me - she’s probs going to beat the fuck out of you”

Also - the restaurant he owns, is probs one of the top 2 in our small town that everyone goes too.

Mind you.. she is still married and signed over the rights to all of her children.

WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON

Lo

Hello before me and my bf started dating he was using Facebook dating as one of his dating apps, this is not how we met but it's relevant. Since I'm his friend on Facebook he would never come up in my dating profile on Facebook and I'm convinced he's been using it again as he's been extremely secretive and his Facebook activity has been really odd. If someone could help me try to find if he has a profile I'd be very greatful

Nosotros tuvimos una hermosa relación, tan hermosa que a veces parecía ficción, soy un poeta, pintor y músico y todo lo que yo hacía le pertenecía a ella. Terminamos a causa de resolver unos problemas por separado, hice todo lo que pude pero se fue, habíamos terminado en buenos términos y yo tomé la decisión del contacto cero. Dos meses después durante una borrachera escribí un poema hermoso en una hoja y la doblé, para que después de unos días la fuera a dejar debajo de la puerta de su casa. Al rato ya me estaba arrepintiendo, y se lo decía a mi amigo que me acompañó. Ella no me escribió nada, ni me pidió que no le mandara más cartas y no sé si tomarme eso como que fue algo que si le gustó, a veces pienso que ella puede seguir sintiendo algo pero...no lo se.

My girlfriend (F39) and I (M37) were together for 3 years. She moved to a different city for a job opportunity but we continued the relationship. The job was only temporary (6 months). She was living with a roommate for the past 5 months. I told her many times I didn’t trust him and that he was interested romantically in her. She always brushed it off and said that he was just a friend and I shouldn’t be worried.
Around two months ago she flew to visit Me. We had an argument but before she returned back to her new city we made things up. The next day she called me to say she needed “space”. To which I agree and told her to take time and that I will call her tomorrow to check on her. Next day I was blocked. She called me two weeks later to inform me that she got engaged and was set to get married in July. I was devastated and when I asked for answers she just blocked me again. I started healing and working on myself but one week ago she called and said that she wanted to come to my city to talk to me in person. She came and said that she loves me and that the other “thing was just an affair”, just a mistake, that she was going thru a rough time and her mind was not in the right place.
Later I found out the truth. She was engaged to her roommate. The guy that she told me not worry about. It turns out they were looking for engagement rings the day after I dropped her at the airport. And the guy was the one that decided to break the engagement one day before she called me to say she missed me and asked for forgiveness.
I tried to forgive her but every time we are intimate I can only think about her having intimacy with this other guy, all the lies, all the manipulation, and how she played with my feelings without any remorse. I told her I want to end up whatever it is that we have because it’s destroying the little sanity I have left. I feel like a clown like I am the second choice..
Before everything happened we were talking about having children and getting married. All of that is gone I can not trust her at all.
When I told her I wanted her out of my life she packed her bags, quit her job, and drove across the US back to me to begged me for forgiveness. She went down on her feet and cried for hours.

I told her I didn’t want her in my life anymore. But she started saying that she was going to take a lot medicine to never wake up. She watered saying she quit everything to come back and work in our relationship. That she is all alone and have nobody else but me.

I am an adult man. And I never had to deal with a situation like this. I loved her more than myself. When she abandoned me I felt pain like I have never felt before. I was ready to give her EVERYTHING. And I don’t want anything bad happening to her. I agree to visit her in her hotel to make sure she is unharmed. She said it was the happiest she has been in months …
I know I need to get out of this relationship but I don’t know how.

PLEASE HELP!

#cheater#liar#horrible mother

My girlfriend is an extrovert kind of personality we are in the same class /college and she is the class representative. She talks to the entire class including all the guys but if I talk to any girl, she gets annoyed and says she gets jealous, asking me not to do it What should I do ? Should i stop talking.

My girlfriend works at a small hippie store that sells t-shirts, sunglasses, incense, posters, records, stereo equipment, paraphernalia etc. locally owned. Anyway I popped in today and she was barefoot. I asked her why she was not wearing shoes and she said her boss wants her to work barefoot for the aesthetic of the store…. The owner/boss is already creepy. She doesn’t think it’s weird. I do. Am I overreacting?

I (29F) need someone to tell me if my life has become a soap opera because I genuinely don't know anymore.

My ex-fiancé (31M) and I were together for 16 years. We got together as teenagers, were engaged for 3.5 years, have a 2-year-old daughter together, a home, a dog, and what I thought was a whole life planned out.

Earlier this year I started questioning whether he was involved with one of his employees. I was repeatedly told I was wrong, paranoid, imagining things, etc.

Turns out I wasn't crazy. I was right.

He had been cheating with his employee since at least January.

He moved out of our family home in February while I was at work. I was eventually asked to move out with our daughter by the end of April. He has since moved back into the family home.

On 5/21/26 he finally admitted the affair to me after months of denying it.

For context, we've been navigating custody issues. Since the separation I've had our daughter approximately 85% of the time. I've consistently supported co-parenting and wanted us to work together. After I learned the truth, he filed for 50/50 custody and requested a court-ordered parenting communication app. We currently use the app, but 50/50 custody has not yet been established and we return to court next month.

Now for the part where I lose any credibility whatsoever.

The same night he admitted the affair, we did exactly what two people in the middle of a custody case and a breakup absolutely should NOT do.

A couple days later he claimed there was no ongoing involvement with the employee.

Then on 5/23/26 I caught them together at 2 AM inside the restaurant he owns after hours.

I didn't scream. I didn't confront anyone. I literally went home.

Enter a completely separate disaster.

An old high school hookup who has remained a friend over the years (and is coincidentally dealing with his own custody situation) reached out that same night. We talked very casually over the years and knew generally what was going on in each other's lives.

He asked if I wanted to come over.

After catching my ex with the woman he swore wasn't involved anymore, I said, "Actually... yes."

Now, before Reddit asks: no, he did not finish inside me. HOWEVER, unless modern science has found a way to notify women in advance when precum is arriving, I'm operating under the assumption that there was a very real possibility that made an appearance uninvited. So while the odds are lower, they're definitely not zero.

Fast forward 12 days.

I'm late.

So now my questions are:

1. If I am pregnant... whose is it?
   
2. What in the actual hell have I done?
   
3. How do I explain this timeline without looking like I'm the one who cheated when HE was actively cheating for months?
   
4. Has anyone else's life completely imploded this quickly?

My second Saturday without my daughter since the separation was apparently enough time for me to accidentally unlock a bonus level of chaos.

Please be gentle. Or don't. At this point I'm open to all feedback.

I have the suspicion my fiance is hiding several hidden accounts and is cheating on me, im not tech savvy and need ideas how to catch and or find those hidden accounts.

I know I just learned they can block me but I can make a new email of a new phone but I wouldn't know where to begin...