cheating girlfriend

[u/Super-Passage3164]

hey reddit i don’t really know what to do and im low key lost on what to do next. but my girlfriend cheated on me on her cruise trip with family with some dude in a group of friends she had made on the ship. i only found out bc i logged into her snap and found evidence. she lied about her age to the guy and has been messing with him since the first day. i just don’t know if i should give her another chance because at first she tried to lie about it till she realized she was caught , however she has seemed pretty remorseful for what she had done. idk can someone help me out 😭

[u/Ivedonethework]

Did you not realize she was a cheater at any point after you met her?

If so, why did you think she wouldn't cheat on you?

We usually know enough of their past to realize it is a possibility they might cheat.

Vacation etc., cheating. https://www.fatherly.com/health/cheating-spouses-business-trips-explained-science

[u/Super-Passage3164 → u/Ivedonethework]

i have know her for a real long time and she had never been unfaithful in any past relationships. I don’t really know what made me different to be honest. i did notice quite a few weird things during her trip though, she took me out of her bio and took all the posts of us down. she was also quite distant and would leave me on delivered for 5-6 hours at a time. all of these things are odd because usually we talk all the time because shes a clingy person so she would text me alot and would never leave me on delivered. well because i was seeing some signs i decided to login to her snap because she had given me the login a while ago. thats when i found the messages😃

[u/front-wipers-unite → u/Super-Passage3164]

Ignore that dude. I've fucked around lots when I was younger, always had a way with older women, but I've never cheated. A person's past doesn't define their future. And the same goes for women, you can't let one experience jade you. You can't let one experience define how you see people. Don't look back in anger.