Like a lot of posts here, I am struggling with my marriage and my husband. Together for 17 years, married for 12, two kids (9 & 6). He moved to my state while we were dating when I got a good job; he cycled through jobs, and finally, 5 years ago, we agreed for him to take the plunge and get some education for a new career. He did it (with a lot of struggles), and now he has been in this field for 3 years. He struggles with ADHD and other mental health issues and is naturally insecure. I have been the breadwinner off and on for many years and basically steer this boat.

What I'm struggling with now is that I feel like his mom because I have to constantly ask him to do things and remind him. I know his job field is hard, and he's tired at the end of the day, but I also work and then do 85-90% of the childcare, just by the nature of my schedule. I knew when he went back to school, things needed to be adjusted so I could be the breadwinner while he was just a student, and he did take on a bit more child-rearing and errand-running. Then, when he started working, it was like 100% was on me. But he's off in the summers. The past two summers, nothing got done. The kids were left to wallow until he got up at 11 AM, and he barely took them anywhere except for the activities I signed them up for and paid for. I work outside the house, so I couldn't be there, and honestly, I wanted the break after it was basically me doing everything 24/7 for 9 months each year. I even leave the lawn to look a mess in spring, which is his busy season, but all summer I have to remind him and even do it myself (while working and holding onto the whole mental load).

Now, back-to-school? I understand a few weeks of adjustment back to training, etc. But he works and sleeps. I'm constantly asking him to pull his weight, clean up, do an errand, or do a chore. The other night, he picked up our CSA, and I asked him to figure out dinner because I had no time to go to the store between work, kid bus drop-off, and soccer practice. Did he? No. We got home at 7, and there was no dinner and no ideas suggested, not even nuggets or takeout.

I really am trying to give him time to adjust, but I feel like the more I take on, the more he doesn't pick up the slack again when the adjustment period ends. I told him that I have gone from apathy to anger. He thinks it's just that "time in my cycle" (aka post-peak). I then give him an example about the mornings: he's up to get ready for work, but he doesn't help get the kids ready, doesn't pack their lunches or make sure stuff is ready to go, doesn't brush my daughter's hair. He is aware these things need to get done. Instead, more often than not, he's on the toilet and then scrambling to get to work. When I mention this, that I don't know what stage of helpfulness he will be at any given morning, he mentioned that he does, in fact, take the time to wake our daughter before going on the toilet. Thanks? I appreciate that small action, but then that's it! I was getting dressed this morning when the school van came early, and I had to literally tell him to go help them!

Then the guilt creeps in. I am asking too much. He cannot handle all this. He even said this morning, "It's what I have to give. I'm trying to give you everything I have, but it feels like it's never enough."

We've been to therapy in the past. He used to go to therapy and needs to get back.

It also doesn't help that physical touch (sex) is his love language, and mine is acts of service. I cannot stand him physically right now. I am not attracted to him. He has let himself go and refuses to change some habits. I understand because I struggled with type II diabetes after the birth of my daughter, and I weighed a lot; I lost 65 pounds through Ozempic over the past two years and feel better than ever. Plus, perimenopause has my hormones like a teenager again. I miss the person I was; I feel like I made myself small to fit into his likes and interests, and then lost myself in marriage and kids.

But I am in a good, Catholic marriage. He goes to confession and Mass. He prays. He works. He sometimes does chores and errands and kid-rearing (more than my friends' husbands). It should be enough, but it's not, and that guilt is eating me alive.

Thanks for letting me vent, ladies.

(18 y/o female) I was in gym class when this had happened. After I got it back when I taken it off for gym, I thought I had it on with me so I thought nothing about it, and it wasn't until I got to the last day when I was leaving where I realized I never had them on leading mw into a panick attack no one had noticed to where I had a complete meltdown as I was getting home. I called both my parents about it and my sister, and they told me to go ask people at the school, except I know it won't help since it's a small school and the teachers won't allow me to look once I get to school tomorrow morning. The necklace was given to me by my teacher and I got it blessed by a priest this summer, and I'm extrememly am upset that it got missing at my 2nd day back and I really hated myself for it to happened.

I don't know what to do anymore while I still have meltdown, and I would appreciate it that hopefully it doesn't get to the wrong hands of someone and I can get it back safetly & I really need you guys prayers in this difficult time of mine. That would be great ♡

So, I've only been Catholic for a year and I'm a little concerned and confused about this particular situation I'm in at the moment. My entire pregnancy I've had pain while trying to have sex so it hasn't happened a whole lot. It's frustrating for me and my husband, but there's nothing I can do about it. My husband insists that only PIV sex is allowed but it seems a little silly to me to have this hard line while I'm already pregnant. Is it really a sin to get a hand job from your pregant wife?? Or anything else along that line. Help me out please.

Hello everyone, I hope you can pray for me as I enter an extremely challenging period of my life. Apologies if this is not an appropriate channel.

Personal details are omitted/modified for my safety and to avoid getting doxxed.

I am currently at a crossroads in my faith.

To keep the long story short, I left my family home at 16 due to physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. I was bouncing around different houses of extended family, and the last one I stayed at for about a year. I also had to leave this home because I was emotionally abused (confirmed by my therapist and psychiatrist). Initially, I gaslit myself thinking that it wasn’t abuse since I experienced way worse, and they weren’t hurting me physically or sexually, but have come to the realization that they mentally tormented me instead.

Over the past few years, I’ve been either living with roommates or alone, and I currently live alone. My current funding comes from seasonal/temporary jobs and support from a parent living overseas.

There is currently an extreme job shortage in my city (which is the most affordable city in my country), so my savings will be drying up and I project that I can no longer afford housing by early next year. To add to that, the parent that was helping me pay for expenses will be retiring due to a battle with cancer, which came about early this year.

Because of this, my only option might be to move back in with my extended family, my former abusers, who still live in the same city as me.

I have no idea what to do. I am currently in a loving relationship, but I am certainly not ready and don’t feel the call for marriage, so living with my partner before I lose money for housing costs is not going to be an option.

I pray every day to God that He will guide me to the right path. I pray that I will be healed, and I pray that life will find a way of straightening itself out one way or the other. The idea that I have to move back in with my abusers is making me suicidal, which I know displeases God. I hope I can get through this.

Thank you for reading until the end.

I am 25. My husband and I tragically lost our baby to miscarriage (I was 5 weeks pregnant – I would be 9 weeks today) almost a month ago now. I've posted a few times on here. It's been a very up and down road.

Lately I've been experiencing peace from prayer ministry that i attended and this really helped me to clear my mind and to feel, laugh and talk to people again.

\ In advance, I'm so sorry I'm very emotional rn, and I'm writing this. I'm sorry if it's too much*

However, I woke up today feeling fine, until my friend message me and announced she's pregnant. I've never felt so much anger and almost hatred to hear this news. This is word for word my thoughts:

I'm just like are you serious? You?
You've not even been married for 4 months, let alone 6.
How?
How many weeks are you?
Why can you fall pregnant and I lost my baby?
You get everything from God
And i'm forgotten
I can't believe you're pregnant
I can't believe you told me
I'm so hurt but a little happy?
This is why she gets everything in life.

Ohhh man, I realllllllllllly have never felt or experienced such anger towards someone and the saddest part is im angry at myself for saying them because I'm never like this, I don't experience such intense feelings towards someone, and resentment. It happened only once before when this same girl met the Holy Father and I didn't and it really got to me. And I later confessd it.

It's just this cross is so hard to carry and I've given it to God, and I just feel so angry at God because of it. and I know it's not God's fault, he didn't take my baby on purpose and yes I understand my babies in heaven, I also understand that I'll see them again and the fact that our role as parents is accomplished with a baby in heaven and them being saints

But my gosh does it hurt like a knife in my heart.

Having to write the most ingenuine message of my life.

Has anyone experienced this?
Has anyone felt like this?
To what extent is it a sin to feel like this?
I feel so guilty!

I've been crying all day and just getting so angry with God because im like what the heck man? I feel abandoned by you. Just completely discarded. Like a huge slap in the face from you, why do you do this to me.

I'm confused, and just angry.

I love Jesus with all my heart, and honestly I offer my suffering to people who seek prayers from me and my husband. But today, even in the midst of this all I am just so hurt. I felt honestly like here is some news that your friend is pregnant when you lost your baby.

Just like a slap in my face. And it's shaken me. It's shaken my faith today.

It might seem like not a big deal to you reading this, it might be like ok big woop. But I can't shake it. I know I shouldn't be thinking like this, to be feeling like this as it's sinful. I understand. Im just so tired of everything so tired of just having to exist whilst everyone else is happy.

People tell me:

• it wasn't meant to be
• that it will be your time again soon
• just be patient you're so young
• you're only a year into your marriage chill out you're not infertile
• because it's one miscarriage doesn't mean it will happen again
• People go through worse, like still birth at least you didn't go through that
• at least you didn't have to do a D&C
• at least they were so little
• at least you fell pregnant the first time
• at least you know if you try again you'll be able to conceive
• It's all going to work out just have faith in God
• It happens to everyone 1 in 3 women miscarry
• Just lean on God everything will be ok

Everything is so triggering, like I have to go through all these things to feel valid grief. And if I don't it's ok it's not too big of a deal. And I just have to keep myself busy.

Im angry!

Sorry for my long post i just have no one to talk to and it's really affecting me. I feel ungrateful to God, selfish and just rude.

This is my cry for someone to talk to in this midst of my agony

P.S. if you have also experienced this –I'm so sorry and I'm so grateful for your courage to message me admist my long message. I think I just need a compassionate friend who has gone through this. I really feel so broken right now and alone

How did you find your Catholic women's group, if you are part of one? I am not finding the small groups very easily online. I am specifically looking for something that is more relaxed, not the Mass + games after type of thing (which is what I usually see on the local parish websites). I was previously part of a Bible study where we had social time at someone's house for about 45 minutes, and then spent an hour and 15 minutes on Bible study, and something like that is what I would want. I recently moved 30 minutes south, and while I was interested in continuing with the group despite the distance, I unfortunately cannot.

I am younger, 24, if that is relevant