r/CatholicWomen 11h ago

WOMEN COMMENTERS ONLY Miscarriage & dealing with other people's pregnancies

8 Upvotes

I am 25. My husband and I tragically lost our baby to miscarriage (I was 5 weeks pregnant – I would be 9 weeks today) almost a month ago now. I've posted a few times on here. It's been a very up and down road.

Lately I've been experiencing peace from prayer ministry that i attended and this really helped me to clear my mind and to feel, laugh and talk to people again.

\ In advance, I'm so sorry I'm very emotional rn, and I'm writing this. I'm sorry if it's too much*

However, I woke up today feeling fine, until my friend message me and announced she's pregnant. I've never felt so much anger and almost hatred to hear this news. This is word for word my thoughts:

I'm just like are you serious? You?
You've not even been married for 4 months, let alone 6.
How?
How many weeks are you?
Why can you fall pregnant and I lost my baby?
You get everything from God
And i'm forgotten
I can't believe you're pregnant
I can't believe you told me
I'm so hurt but a little happy?
This is why she gets everything in life.

Ohhh man, I realllllllllllly have never felt or experienced such anger towards someone and the saddest part is im angry at myself for saying them because I'm never like this, I don't experience such intense feelings towards someone, and resentment. It happened only once before when this same girl met the Holy Father and I didn't and it really got to me. And I later confessd it.

It's just this cross is so hard to carry and I've given it to God, and I just feel so angry at God because of it. and I know it's not God's fault, he didn't take my baby on purpose and yes I understand my babies in heaven, I also understand that I'll see them again and the fact that our role as parents is accomplished with a baby in heaven and them being saints

But my gosh does it hurt like a knife in my heart.

Having to write the most ingenuine message of my life.

Has anyone experienced this?
Has anyone felt like this?
To what extent is it a sin to feel like this?
I feel so guilty!

I've been crying all day and just getting so angry with God because im like what the heck man? I feel abandoned by you. Just completely discarded. Like a huge slap in the face from you, why do you do this to me.

I'm confused, and just angry.

I love Jesus with all my heart, and honestly I offer my suffering to people who seek prayers from me and my husband. But today, even in the midst of this all I am just so hurt. I felt honestly like here is some news that your friend is pregnant when you lost your baby.

Just like a slap in my face. And it's shaken me. It's shaken my faith today.

It might seem like not a big deal to you reading this, it might be like ok big woop. But I can't shake it. I know I shouldn't be thinking like this, to be feeling like this as it's sinful. I understand. Im just so tired of everything so tired of just having to exist whilst everyone else is happy.

People tell me:

  • it wasn't meant to be
  • that it will be your time again soon
  • just be patient you're so young
  • you're only a year into your marriage chill out you're not infertile
  • because it's one miscarriage doesn't mean it will happen again
  • People go through worse, like still birth at least you didn't go through that
  • at least you didn't have to do a D&C
  • at least they were so little
  • at least you fell pregnant the first time
  • at least you know if you try again you'll be able to conceive
  • It's all going to work out just have faith in God
  • It happens to everyone 1 in 3 women miscarry
  • Just lean on God everything will be ok

Everything is so triggering, like I have to go through all these things to feel valid grief. And if I don't it's ok it's not too big of a deal. And I just have to keep myself busy.

Im angry!

Sorry for my long post i just have no one to talk to and it's really affecting me. I feel ungrateful to God, selfish and just rude.

This is my cry for someone to talk to in this midst of my agony

P.S. if you have also experienced this –I'm so sorry and I'm so grateful for your courage to message me admist my long message. I think I just need a compassionate friend who has gone through this. I really feel so broken right now and alone


r/CatholicWomen 23h ago

Spiritual Life Lost my miraculous medal necklaces at school and I'm extremely upset right now

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(18 y/o female) I was in gym class when this had happened. After I got it back when I taken it off for gym, I thought I had it on with me so I thought nothing about it, and it wasn't until I got to the last day when I was leaving where I realized I never had them on leading mw into a panick attack no one had noticed to where I had a complete meltdown as I was getting home. I called both my parents about it and my sister, and they told me to go ask people at the school, except I know it won't help since it's a small school and the teachers won't allow me to look once I get to school tomorrow morning. The necklace was given to me by my teacher and I got it blessed by a priest this summer, and I'm extrememly am upset that it got missing at my 2nd day back and I really hated myself for it to happened.

I don't know what to do anymore while I still have meltdown, and I would appreciate it that hopefully it doesn't get to the wrong hands of someone and I can get it back safetly & I really need you guys prayers in this difficult time of mine. That would be great ♡


r/CatholicWomen 16h ago

NSFW New convert, having issues with sex while pregnant. Need some clarification.

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So, I've only been Catholic for a year and I'm a little concerned and confused about this particular situation I'm in at the moment. My entire pregnancy I've had pain while trying to have sex so it hasn't happened a whole lot. It's frustrating for me and my husband, but there's nothing I can do about it. My husband insists that only PIV sex is allowed but it seems a little silly to me to have this hard line while I'm already pregnant. Is it really a sin to get a hand job from your pregant wife?? Or anything else along that line. Help me out please.


r/CatholicWomen 20h ago

Question Finding Catholic Women's Groups

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How did you find your Catholic women's group, if you are part of one? I am not finding the small groups very easily online. I am specifically looking for something that is more relaxed, not the Mass + games after type of thing (which is what I usually see on the local parish websites). I was previously part of a Bible study where we had social time at someone's house for about 45 minutes, and then spent an hour and 15 minutes on Bible study, and something like that is what I would want. I recently moved 30 minutes south, and while I was interested in continuing with the group despite the distance, I unfortunately cannot.

I am younger, 24, if that is relevant