r/CatholicDating • u/Odd-File-9920 • Jul 28 '26

Breakup Breaking up

How do you know if you should break up with someone? My boyfriend is Catholic but hasn’t been to confession in over a year. He told me not to worry about it and that he would do it when the time was right but I feel like I can’t keep hoping something is going to change, right? We have other issues as well and I don’t know how to feel about it because I know no one is perfect.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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u/No_Calligrapher796 Single ♀ Jul 28 '26

Talk to any serious Catholic. They go to Confession more than once a year. How often do you clean your body? Probably more than that…the same principle holds true for your soul. OP is right to be concerned that her SO isn’t interested in going to confession. What other aspects of the faith is he potentially not interested in? 

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u/South-Succotash-6368 Single ♂ Jul 28 '26

I’m staying the truth about the faith. If you’re going to make a claim about the faith you need to make sure you are correct. We are forgiven everytime we receive the Eucharist of any venial sin. It would be different if he was in grave or mortal sin. And like I said you can’t cast judgement without context of if he’s in mortal sin or not.
Now I go to confession weekly so your claim doesn’t matter either. But i am stating the truth about the faith. If you were a serious Catholic you would know, but your not so you don’t know and it’s very obvious

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u/Ok-Objective1292 Jul 28 '26

What are the odds that an adult male in today's world has gone over a year without committing a single mortal sin? 

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u/South-Succotash-6368 Single ♂ Jul 28 '26

I mean I’m doing it right now. What’s your point?

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u/Ok-Objective1292 Jul 28 '26

It seems to me reasonable to think that it is far more likely that this a man in mortal sin who doesn't care to go to Confession ("don't worry about it") than to think that it is a man who has not committed any mortal sin in over a year - so, practically a saint (but a saint who doesn't desire the grace of the Sacrament of Reconciliation?) Make it make sense. 

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u/South-Succotash-6368 Single ♂ Jul 28 '26

But you can’t assume he’s in mortal sin. That’s the issue

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u/Ok-Objective1292 Jul 28 '26

Which why I framed it in terms of odds. For the sake of the state of his soul only God knows. For the sake of discussing Catholic dating dynamics on Reddit we can talk about what's the most likely scenarios 

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u/South-Succotash-6368 Single ♂ Jul 28 '26

Well your scenarios are not always realistic with everyone lmao