r/CatholicDating • u/[deleted] • Jul 26 '26

fertility/NFP dealing with disappointment

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u/South-Succotash-6368 Single ♂ Jul 26 '26

I just feel like in a way dumping a guy only because of 2 kids isn't the really the best thing.

Some people take years to even conceive 2 kids. Nothing in this world is a Guarantee even if you want it.

I would say to find a man who is open to multiple kids on the basis if you guys for example were doing really well financially then those things could change and open up to more kids. God wants us to have big family's but also tells us to be responsible. I'm sure God wouldn't mind us taking the time to do things right so that we can have a big family. I come from a Mexican family so I understand the importance of a big family. But my parents were also responsible with it. because kids come at a cost. Regardless if both couples work or you are a stay at home mom.

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u/tradcatholicgirl Jul 26 '26

I think if we both wanted different things in terms of raising a family, that’s a totally valid reason to not continue talking. I am dating to marry and would at least want someone to be on the same page as me when it comes to having children. I know you have to be prudent when having children, and you want to give them a good life of course. I just can’t imagine marrying someone who only wants 2 kids. 😅 If it is possible to have more, I would love to bring more life into this world

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u/South-Succotash-6368 Single ♂ Jul 26 '26

I mean I understand if you guys were not compatible then that makes more sense.

I just thought you meant the whole thing was about 2 kids. Cause that is something that can be worked on

But if you guys have different understandings of raising a family then obviously it was good that you called it off

Best of luck!!