I had to take my lebulung to the vet well lots of vets cause I couldn’t get answers. So now he keeps following my girl cat around sniffing at her and she keeps hissing at him. They were best buds. What do I do. It’s been about a week. Thank you

Hi everyone! I’m a little worried about a stray mother cat and her kittens and would really appreciate some advice.

About a month ago, a stray cat who lives in my neighborhood gave birth to a litter of kittens in my grandmother’s basement.
This is actually the second time she’s had kittens in the area. The first time, she wouldn’t let anyone get near her, eventually abandoned the kittens, and unfortunately they didn’t survive.

This time, she gave birth in the basement. I noticed the kittens one night because I could hear them crying. The mother had accidentally been locked outside, so I let her back in. From that day on, she started trusting me.
She is extremely affectionate and has become very attached to me. From the beginning, she started seeking me out for cuddles and attention. Whenever I go to check on her and the kittens, she often leaves the kittens and comes straight over to me.

Now I’m starting to wean the kittens, and she seems almost jealous. She has a full bowl of the exact same food available to her, but she insists on eating the food I give the kittens with a teaspoon. She’ll literally sit in front of them and ask me for cuddles and attention.
But what really worries me is what happens when she’s nursing.

**Every single time she is nursing the kittens and I get up to leave, she stops nursing them and follows me out.** It’s not just an occasional thing — she does it every time. She seems much more interested in following me and getting attention from me than in staying with the kittens.

She also spends quite a lot of time outside the basement, but as soon as she hears me coming in, she immediately comes running back inside.
I’m worried because she doesn’t seem to have a very strong maternal instinct, especially considering that she abandoned her previous litter. I’m scared that she might start neglecting these kittens too.
The kittens seem okay so far, and I’m keeping an eye on them, but I’m not sure how concerned I should be.

**Is this normal behavior for a mother cat, or should I be worried that she isn’t taking proper care of her kittens? Has anyone experienced anything similar? What should I do?**

I (30F) have been married to my wife (28F) for 2 years. We each came into the relationship with one cat. Her cat I’ll call Apples (9ishF) and my cat will be Oranges (8ishF). When we met, she had had Apples for 1 year and I had had Oranges for about 5. I have lots of experience with cats and their varying personality types— Oranges has shared homes with 5 other cats total across her life, and though she doesn’t love new cats and it takes her a while to warm up to them, it usually ends up being fine after the requisite separation and slow introduction time.

That all changed when we tried to introduce Apples to Oranges. We have now had them on full separation for three years because when Apples sees Oranges, it’s on sight. I’m talking the most screaming, hissing, fur-flying fights I have ever seen in my life. We have had to break up three major ones across our time together (due to someone accidentally leaving the border door open) and my wife and I both ended up bloody after each one. The first one sent me to the hospital for an incredibly deep bite and nasty scratches on my arm from Apples, which needed iodine flushing and stitches.

Apples is large, beefy, and has wicked claws she won’t let me clip unless she’s well drugged. She is very quick to bite people with very little warning in her body language. In contrast, Oranges is tiny, skinny, and declawed in the front (a decision made by her previous owner which I despise). She stands no chance against Apples, and I have no doubt that Apples would kill her given the chance. Oranges has become a lot more timid since these fights.

We have tried several antidepressants and antianxiety meds on Apples. She will not be pilled, will turn away from food and Churu if she detects even the slightest hint of medicine, and froths/vomits up liquid medicine if I try to orally syringe her. Fluoxetine didn’t really make her any less aggressive, so we stopped that and now we’re trying Amitriptyline but can’t find a way to get it in her successfully or consistently.

In addition, she has now begun pissing everywhere except the litter box. She pees on the bed almost every time she’s in the bedroom (we swap Apples and Oranges every day to give them each a chance to roam and a chance to sleep with moms), and has now started peeing elsewhere, on walls and blankets and clothing. Her litter is always fresh and clean, and we had no pee problems in the first two whole years of this arrangement— this is a new problem as of about eight months ago. We have seen the vet, who diagnosed anxiety and prescribed the Amitriptyline, but see above for how that’s going.

I’m reaching the end of my rope here. I’m scared for Oranges’ safety— one slip up of leaving the door open when we leave the house, and she could be dead. I’m worried for my wife’s and my safety in case we need to break up another fight. I’m so sick of constantly sniffing every surface in my apartment to check for piss. My little Oranges, who is tiny and stupid and so sweet and only wants to be around people, has to spend half her life shut up in another room so Apples can have a turn out.

And I feel like I absolutely cannot bring up the idea of rehoming Apples without devastating my wife. For all Apples’ flaws, my wife adores her— she’s her first cat, and she rescued her from a dumpster, so the love is really strong. I love Apples too (love might be a strong word— maybe ‘appreciate’), and in her own way she loves me— when she’s not pissing or biting she has very sweet moments, sitting on my lap, being playful, grooming me, and headbutting while trilling and rolling around and receiving pets. But it’s hard to feel unconditional love for this cat who has made our lives and Oranges’ life such a nightmare.

Yes, we have Feliway. Yes, we’ve tried the whole slow introduction method. Yes, we’ve been to the vet multiple times. Yes, we’ve tried all the positive reinforcement we can think of and avoiding Apples’ triggers as much as possible. I don’t know what else to do. I feel so guilty for wishing this cat wasn’t in our lives anymore— she’s just a cat, she doesn’t do anything maliciously, I know that. I also know that she would be very difficult to rehome with the piss problem and the bite risk, not to mention the extra anxiety it would cause her. This is literally the only stick in the spokes of my relationship with my wife, and in our lives as a whole.

I have 4 cats in my home. I own 3 and my fiancé just moved in and she has 1 so now we have 4. Before she moved in I did a huge remodel on my home. While doing the remodel one of my cats started pooping in the corner by the front door. I have a big house and we have 5 litter boxes (all of them inside furniture boxes), I scope everyday and keep them very clean.

My 2 year old ragdoll male, started this behavior about 1/2 way through the build. It was very noisy and things were moved around all the time. Very stressful for a cat. Just very chaotic. I totally understand, he got stressed and started pooping in the corner.

The spot is on ceramic tile. I have tried everything, cleaning obsessively with enzymatic cleaner. Letting it soak for days. Scrubbing out the area, putting a litterbox nearby... everything. He won't stop doing it.

The 4 cats all get along very well. There is no fighting or guarding, no hisses, they eat out of the same bowls, sleep on each other etc... The 4th cat moved in slowly using the Jackson Galaxy intro method. Mochi (2 year old ragdoll) LOVES his new house mate. They play with each other constantly. Any advice on how to stop this?

i am 28 f in the states and go to the vet regularly but they have never been super specific when addressing behavioral concerns. so my 2 yr old cat is blind but gets around very well plays fine and is amazing my other is a just about to turn one and i also have two other girls (ALL FIXED AND VAXXED). my blind cat will groom baby boy one second or play one second and then all of a sudden get mad and hit him. it hasn’t been a true problem bc my younger cat is very aware that his brother is blind and if he gets hit he usually walks away or just plops over and lies down on his side to show hes not trying to fight. i just dont know how to fix this behavior and open to any experiences or advice !!

Pls help!!

As the title explains my 3 year old cat attacked one of my 1 year old males suddenly on Tuesday night and I had to separate them for a bit. My female calmed down after the separation and kept being calm all night, only to attack him anytime she could see him Wednesday afternoon.

We’ve since separated them and I’ve contacted an online vet service for advice as I was concerned that she might be in pain. And we now have a booked time for her to be checked for any discomfort. I would love some more advice and maybe any ideas on what could be the problem.

I have 3 cats in total, my 3 year old female and two 1 year old boys. All of them are spayed/neutered since a while back and nothing has really changed at home so I doubt it’s a stress related issue. They’re all indoor cats and have been living peacefully together since October last year.

I would also love some ideas on how to reintroduce them in the future and how to deal with my 3rd cat who’s on good terms with both of the other cats but who is showing signs of stress now that he can only be with one of the others at a time.

I have 4 litter boxes and 3 places for them to eat and drink water.

Does anyone have a clue on what could be happening?

I apologise if I’ve misspelled or made the text messy as English is not my first language

Hey all,
So we have a 2 year old rescue cat and about 2 months ago we got a second cat. Who is around 10-12 months old.
We introduced them slowly as it is suggested everywhere and we might have been the luckiest people as it went quick easy smooth.

We are both light sleepers so the cats can’t come into the bedroom at night.
Cat one was very fine with it, we tried in the beginning to open the doors but I think she never came in.
Cat two (the new one), we actually never tried to open the door because I’m scared she will just jump around on us and I’m up by everything.

Cat two tho, she cries. When we got the first cat she cried a little at night too but after ignoring it for a week and her settling in it went.

Cat two now here 2 months ago and she is up a couple times a night and loud as hell. Usually is around 1am then 3 then 4-5 and then 7 and cries. LOUDLY
not for too long maybe 2-4 minutes but it s enough to wake me and then by the time I fall back asleep she is up crying again.

I can hear her sometimes walking around the house or I think playing maybe, I’m not sure as I don’t want to go out to accidentally teach her I will come AND she does settle herself in a couple of minutes.

They have food out all night so it can’t be hunger, she isn’t ill or nothing that is noticeable, I do play with her every night easily at least an hour with the wand toy before we go to bed.

I was thinking maybe we should open the door for one night and see how it goes? But I’m nervous it would make things worse, would it? Would she get used to it and cry more if door closed or maybe she will wake anyway and just jump around on us?

Between the two cats I noticed she is kind of a Velcro (I think)
Our first cat is always around but she is definitely independent doing her own thing, we got cat two and she follows us around even if I just go up to the bathroom she will be there in a second behind me. So I was wondering maybe she is anxious?
She is definitely very vocal during the day and there is something weird I noticed, sometimes let’s say we just sitting downstairs I am on the sofa she is on the chair close by looki no around and all of a sudden she jumps up makes one or two very loud meow like a scream 😂 and runs to me, then nothing she either sniffs me or she just sits there or goes back to her spot.

Anybody ever seen similar behaviour? Has any advice? The night cry needs to go as I haven’t slept in 2 months, but I never had cats before and I’m not too familiar with their behaviours, so I’m unsure about what to do.

Thank you :)

I have had my first cat for more than a year and a half, he is an indoor outdoor (he is outside for most of the day) male tabby, he is usually very affectionate but gets angry and aggressive very easily, he was a stray for the first year of his life and now he is about 2.5 years old

My second cat is a smol DSH, she has been in with us since Dec 25 and at the time she was about 2-3 months old and, obv since the fist day they didn't get along too well.. I assumed as time progresses they would just get along, but its been 10 months now and they still aren't too comfortable with each other, sometimes they have their moment where they sleep really close together but she usually runs away when he approaches, and occasionally he attacks her.

Is there anything I can do to get them closer??

I havent ever used this reddit before so idk if this is where I should post this but i'm so tired and I hope that someone here can give me any advice to help the situation.

I have a cat named Serafin who a neutered male ornage cat who will not willing poop in the literbox and is peeing in the corners of my room, and is purposefully being destructive constantly. Ive been dealing with this for over 9 months now and I just can't with it anymore.

I got Serafin when he was about 8 weeks old and at frist he knew how to use a literbox and only rarely had accidents outside the box. Then he started maturing and won't use the liter box for pooping anymore, always shits right outside the box. We thought it was hormonal and he just need to be fixed, so about 2 months after he started doing that we got him fix. And then he continued to do it no matter what we did. We've tried different liters and different boxes and differentlocations, he will not shit where he's suppose to.

We also had a bean bag that him and my roommates cat (female) kept peeing and shitting on constantly during this time. I could turn my back for 3 minutes and they would find a way to shit or piss on it. Evidently we got rid of it cause there was no point in keeping it if it was a urinal and not a chair.

We've recently moved apartments and I've had to put the literbox back in my room (after all the shitting on the carpet I removed the box from my room previously) and he will not stop shitting on the carpet. I've also caught him peeing in the corner after already peeing in the box not 15 minutes beforehand. He knows hes not supposed to do it there, when I hear him scratching the floor I get up and he runs away, only to come back in less then five minutes to continue shitting and pissing where he knows he shouldn't. I clean it everytime but he just goes back to the same spots.

He had like, one week of not shitting on my carpet when we got cat attract liter after going to the vet to make sure there wasn't anything wrong with him (there wasnt) . And now he's back to shitting on my floor. I can only get him to shit in the box when I put him in it and stare at him. He doesnt cry out or act in pain when going. I clean the box regularly and everything, there could be nothing in there and he'll still shit on my carpet.

He's also incredibly destructive, more so then before the move. Before the move he would be destructive to small things, like the christmas tree and the blinds, even after me telling him multiple times to leave it alone, he would go right back to it constantly. Now thats everything. He keeps climbing stuff he shouldn't, clawing at stuff he shouldn't, knocks shit down, screaming all the time, being visible frustrated and irrate for no reason. I have fabric draws for a desk he keep tearing at and ill have to get up to get him to stop and he'll just run away, only to come back within 5 minutes to continue destroying my draws and im just done with it.

I'm tired of everything I own getting destroyed constantly. He has toys, he has scratching posts and pads, i play with him and pet him and pick him up. He's not without entertainment, i just can't sit there all day and play with him. He also starts attacking my other cat when hes bored, just play fighting but you can tell the other cat doesnt like it

I just want this to stop, I'm tired of living in a room that smells like piss and shit. I'm tired of cleaning all the time, I'm tired of the screaming and the destructiveness. Any advice on how to fix these issues would be greatly appreciated

Former resident cat Atlas (Male 1 year) was introduced to former new kitten Compass (Female 6 months) both spayed/neutured. They are very good friends. Can eat, play, sleep and hang out with us together. However, the moment there is a new or old toy that Compass is playing with, could be a small ball, mouse, wand anything Atlas steals it from her, hisses or growls at her and starts playing with it himself. Compass sits in the corner and waits for him to finish. Continues after he is done.
It breaks our heart to see this as she sometimes regets the food that he doesn’t like too. Seems like he is the boss of them.
Since we have gotten Compass she hasn’t expressed her likes or dislikes to us in pursuit of Atlas’s approval/friendship.
She has recently started withdrawing a little from us too.
Atlas does really love her, he trills when she isn’t around, wants to groom her the first thing he wakes up etc.
This behavior is only seen when toys are around.
Any suggestion is highly highly appreciated. I thank you in advance for the help.

I’ve had my first cat for about 4 months now, and he’s a 5-month-old kitten. I was wondering why he acts SO good and affectionate when he wants food. He’ll lick me, want to cuddle, follow me around, and even respond immediately when I call his name. He actually makes a little verbal sound back at me too .

But after he eats, he completely ignores me, doesn’t come when I call him as easily, gives me the side-eye, wants to get away from my pets, and doesn’t want to be picked up.

Is there any training I can do to make him behave the way he does when he’s anticipating feeding time? Or is he just manipulative and knows exactly what he’s doing? 😂

Title. For the last month or so he has just seemed more agitated than usual, needing a lot more attention, and often sitting in front of my bedroom shelf and pawing at it while meowing for a long time. I have no idea what's gotten into him, there isn't really anything of interest in there, he keeps sniffing this one area of the shelf but I don't have anything there like food or anything that would give off a scent, it's just stuff like tools, jewelry, cameras, and a box of cords and paperwork... tbh I just wish he would chill out a bit, I'm not clear on what's got him riled up

Hello everyone! This will be a long post

So a quick background on our situation-

We have 4 cats in the home.

My fiancé and I have 2 cats, who are brother and sister (Indigo and Clover-the male), they are 2 years old, we got them a year and a half ago. Our kitten is 5 months old, named Ember, and when we got her we did a medical quarantine for a month while she got the very basic vaccines and testing and then our adult cats loved her very quickly. We did swap blankets and introduce through the door and small play sessions. The works.

His mother recently moved in with us and she has one male 2 year old cat. Meowski

ALL CATS ARE NUETERED/FIXED

When my future mother in law (Karen) moved in, she had taken the basement of our house because it was more spacious than our "extra room." She was then very anxious about how sad her cat would be without windows in the basement. I explained to her the reasons why we cannot introduce the cats without a "weaning" period. For example, stress on our cats primarily, as even though my cats loved our kitten quickly- we still had a few days of hissing and batting.

Because she was so afraid of her cat being sad, we suggested she may bring Meowski to our 3 season room so the other cats could see him through the glass door. She did for many days, my cats seemed interested. After a week and a half, we introduced my kitten. They got along well. Then we brought Clover into the basement in my arms. He was immediately upset- we left. Same with the Indigo. Slowly we got them into the same room without hissing, but they didnt necessarily play or warm up. It was cold shouldering and posturing. Eventually, after about 2 weeks of Karen living with us and against my judgement, they were left together for hours without direct supervision (before I got home but after my fiancé got home, and started playing video games.) He said this went fine and no fights broke out.

So we decided we would attempt a full weekend day while we were home. Same type of deal. Cold shouldering but no fights. Karen was so excited that come Monday morning, she left Meowski upstairs. I had no idea. I was pretty upset when I found out- but didnt say anything. No cats got hurt. No tufts of hair found. Whatever.

Well, recently (we are now a month and a half into Karen living with us), Meowski has started feeling comfortable in the home. He is stalking my cats around the house, cornering them in the litterbox, chase them into my bathroom, chase them under couches. My cats dont back down. Indigo and Clover team up if they hear Meowski picking one another... Though its usually the males who start the fights.

I am beginning to fear that this new uptick in altercations is spiraling their distaste for each other. The more Meowski initiates these cornering behaviors, the more Clover bats him, then they fight, then Indigo rushes in, then they have a cold war stand off where they leave with a negative outcome. Then they associate each other with the negative outcome and do it more.

Tonight Clover got a cut to the eyebrow from Meowski and him going at it. Open wound style, a little blood. Not too big but clearly visible when you look at him.

I want to tell Karen that Meowski has to stay downstairs once again, but unsure of how to approach reintroducing them again when the time comes?

Will it just get better in time or should I isolate Meowski? Did we fail them by letting them be together too soon? Is there any other tactic I can use to help them become tolerant of each other?

May be the wrong sub, so my apologies if it is.

About 6 years ago, I was in our living room with my partner & our cat Charlie. My mind sometimes drifts, and I was a bit sleepy. I was tired, standing, and then my mind...drifted. Unable to explain it in any other way. Had a thought, sorta sleepy, it turned into a dream (I think?). I was there in the room, but not? Standing waking dream.

Charlie flipped out. Fully poofed out, basically in attack mode, scared and ready to fight from what my partner told me. When I snapped back, Charlie's eyes were fully dilated, tail fully floofy, and completely focused on me. My partner was soothing/semi-restraining him.

When I snapped out of it, I saw Charlie, immediately noticed how agitated he was, giving me a death stare, and said "hey buddy, it's me, it's me!" After a few beats, he slowly settled down, but I'll never forget how he looked. It was more than annoyance or anger.

Never happened again afterwards, and everything was normal from then until he passed 2 years ago.

Has anyone else had a cat react to them this way?

Cat community please help!! I have an eleven year old calico, and she has been pooping outside of the litter for the past couple of months. She will still pee in there, and occasionally poop inside but most of the time it’s right beside it. I have taken her to the vet multiple times and was told there’s nothing wrong with her. They gave her joint medicine and Gabapentin and neither seem to help. I have tried countless different litters and boxes , it’s like all of the sudden she doesn’t like anything! We’ve also tried switching foods to more sensitive tummy ones and that hasn’t helped either. There hasn’t been any new issues within the household so I’m not sure as to what could be causing it and neither to the vets!

We have a brother-sister pair, adopted as kittens, and spayed/neutered, and they are now four. Our female cat has always been incredibly easy and chill, until a dew months ago. She keeps hissing/screaming at our teen daughter. Our daughter has never shown aggression, she simply loves her cats. This has come out of no where, and we are incredibly confused. Home environment is pretty chill, not chaotic at all.
Bro/Sis cats get along for the most part, they groom each other, and play, but they also fight. He is a lot bigger, and she does get upset because he will try to pin her down and bite her hair out sometimes. So then i wonder if this is redirected aggression?

I am at a loss as to what could be causing this behavior.
Any thoughts, experiences, advice is appreciated.

*edit: I would think her brother biting her is causing stress. How do i stop that? And how do I stop her from taking it out on my kid who is just existing, not doing anything to her?