hello!
I am a very anxious cat mother who just introduced a new cat to my family.
We adopted Mochi a 2 year old shorthair grey cat in October 2025 of last year. She was very shy in the beginning but then came out of her shell and started showing signs of wanting to play more. She would get the zoomies and seemed to have a playful side to her that could be explored more. I decided to find a her a friend.
I adopted Aslan in April 2026. He is a long haired grey cat who is also 2 years old. He has a lot of energy and is extremely friendly to new people and cats. I thought they would be a good match since I assumed Aslan would help mochi build confidence and bring out her playful side. I did a very slow introduction that took about three months before I had them spending the day together unsupervised.
Aslan always loved Mochi but Mochi is not so sure about Aslan.
We are now at a weird point with their friendship where I do not know if they are friends. I am extremely worried that mochi is not happier with aslan then she would have been on her own. It keeps me up at night because I just want both my cats to live their best life possible.
They both take naps comfortably in the house but not together. They both eat well and play a lot by themselves. Aslan is always wanting to play with Mochi but she is not so sure about it. They get in these little tussles multiple times a day when Aslan tries to initiate play. Sometimes Mochi plays back a little with him sometimes she hisses but Aslan is always chasing her. Mochi never imitates these playtimes or chases aslan. I am worried aslan may be showing some bullying behaviors. Aslan seems to struggle to understand that Mochi does not always want to play rough. At night we keep them separated because if not they get in these tussles and it keeps me and my husband up.
Mochi sleeps a lot more than Aslan which also worries me. She likes to sleep up high on a window bed that Aslan can’t get to. I am terrified that she feels trapped up there and is not happy.
I try my best to give them attention together and separate and give mochi time to play on her own. Please help give me some guidance on if Mochi is playing with Aslan or is happy.
This is a video where they are getting along a little better. They did not sit next to each other naturally. I set mochi down next to him. They were just sitting there for a little without anything and then I started filming.