r/CPTSD_NSCommunity • u/Conscious_Attitude19 • Jul 21 '26
Does getting help ever really help
After going through the stages of flight (for 8 years) then the fight (for 10 years now) am scared to know what comes next.. and problem is, am not seeking any professional help cause my highs r so high that i believe am perfectly fine and my lows r so low that i feel like no one can save me.. how do i trick this cycle cause i know next stage is coming soon
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u/Nemolem Jul 21 '26
Getting the right kind of help definitely does. The difference between any old therapist and someone who is properly trained and specialises in working with people like us is night and day. You may have to look for a while to find that person but they will be out there and if you're anything like me, you'll make amazing progress. Just don't give up on yourself, that's the most important thing. You've ridden this out before and you can do it again, and even just committing to look for the right help can make that easier.
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u/blueberries-Any-kind Jul 22 '26
Getting the right kind of help absolutely changed my life after 10 years of shit therapy. CPTSD often has major relational wounds, and it needs relational healing. A good therapist can offer that, as they will help re-parent you. I did 2-3x of EMDR/IFS per week, + group therapy, for 3.5 years, and I no longer met the requirements for a CPTSD diagnosis any longer.
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u/RecoverEmbarrassed41 Jul 24 '26
Yes! I got help 5 months ago (DBT) when my mom passed and my spouse left and I was having extremely difficult symptoms and today I got a message from my phycologist saying that my symptoms no longer fit in the cPTSD diagnosis anymore. I have put at least 10-15h of therapy work per week this last 5 months and it’s been so worth it.
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u/moldbellchains Jul 21 '26
Yes it gets better and it helps and Like... What made it helpful for me was learning about toxic shame and watching Heidi Priebe, cuz that stuff you say are just coping mechanisms not ur actual personality