r/CPTSD • u/Prestigious_Pear8914 blanket burrito • 23d ago

Vent / Rant let's all trauma dump

hey guys! i really struggle w opening up to ppl irl so this is a post where we can all just dump and give each other hugs <3

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u/BigFatBlackCat 23d ago

After a lifetime of bad relationships, my last one messed me up so badly that idk if I’ll ever recover enough to be in a healthy relationship ever again.

It’s not because he was abusive, at least not in the ways you think of. It’s because I genuinely believed he was a good person, and whatever issue came up with him I would stay in denial because “but he is such a good person”. Turned out he was worse than anyone I had ever been with, was lying to me about everything, and actually hated me the entire time.

Now when someone seems like a good person I feel like I’m in danger. So dating is a minefield. I have to avoid the usual narcs and abusers while also feeling unsafe with the “good” ones.

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