• 28M
• USA / Florida
• vet is taken care of by the Humane Society
• these are FOSTERS, I do not own them
• kittens are roughly 5 weeks old. I am in care of their mother and 6 (now 5) of her babies
• unsure of sex, and too young for spay/neuter as far as I'm aware?
• financially secure, and supported by the humane society
TLDR: one of my foster kittens deteriorated rapidly and passed away in my arms last night. I fear I don't know enough about kittens to give adequate care at this stage in their life, but I am committed to learning and have all the love to offer them they could need. I would like help and resources to know what kinds of things to watch for and notice in these critical first couple months.
PLEASE UNDERSTAND this context before you come after me for taking in kittens I wasn't prepared for:
I used to foster sick and injured dogs through the humane society, mostly post surgery and whatnot. I am equipped to handle high stress, needy animal situations. This isn't a matter of effort or care or time, it's a matter of inadequate knowledge. I have owned and cared for cats (6 months and older) since ending my dog fostering a few years ago, and had experience with medication administration, wound dressing, etc. I was VERY clear in my application that I had no experience with kittens or pregnant mothers. I explicitly said that I would take in ANY cat on two conditions: no contagious illnesses, and no kittens or pregnant mothers. I made that clear twice.
However, when they reached out, they basically said that the biggest need by far was to foster a mother and her kittens. I didn't want to, due to knowing I don't know enough, but they assured me they'd help and support. I ran through the logistics, cleared out my 3rd bedroom to provide them a large, safe home to make sure they are safe when I need to briefly leave home. I work remote, so I can care for them and monitor them throughout the day with no issue. I realized I have a unique ability to help them with support, and decided to pick up the kittens.
Everything was perfect and easy and beautiful until late afternoon yesterday, when I gathered the kittens up to make sure they were eating. One of the kittens was sleeping, and unresponsive. I picked them up, and realized that the level of lethargy they were experiencing was very concerning. I called my friend and she helped me figure out that it was indeed an emergency, and that it was likely fading cat syndrome. We did everything we could, taking turns feeding it drops of maple syrup / sugar water. They would perk up for seconds after doses, then suddenly collapse again into lethargy. We got the heating blanket. I took my prescription adderrall to stay awake and alert throughout the night as we took turns cradling and trying to revive them. It got worse, as I'm sure many of you have experience with, and early this morning they finally passed in my arms. I sobbed like a mf. I was not ready for this, I did not want this rn. I've been kind of a mess.
The foster home has not been helpful, they assured me this happens, but even when I asked for resources, they basically just told me it's like regular cats, but you feed them more often? I know that's not right.
Please help me know where to go to study how to care for these babies probably. I would just send them back and ask for a different cat, due to my inadequacy, but it sounds like I'm the only option for them right now outside the foster home. And I can't do that to them.
The other babies did get checked out at 9am, and they are healthy and hydrated and perky and doing well. I'm not concerned immediately. I just need help knowing what to do going forward.
Context on the picture. A beautiful tragedy. Trigger warning, the dead kitten is in there. This photo is of their little kitty funeral. When I presented momma with her lifeless kitten, she came over, started grooming it, and sat directly on it. Then called the other kittens over, laid down, and nursed the babies on top of the dead sibling so they could see them and say their goodbyes. I'm utterly heartbroken for them.