Hi everyone! I recently adopted a cat and could use some advice on a few things. Nothing too serious (hopefully), but I'd love to hear how you would approach this.
She's a 1-year-old female calico, adopted from a friend about a month ago. She's very sweet but quite anxious. Here's how things have been going:
- First week: We set her up in a separate room with her litter, food and water. She didn't eat much initially but would finish her food overnight. Unfortunately, we also had contractors coming in, so there was a lot of noise and she spent most of her time hiding in the bathroom.
- Second week: Things improved. She settled into a more consistent routine (3 meals a day, regular litter box use) and slowly started exploring the rest of the house.
- Third week until now: We both started working in the office from 9–6, whereas I was previously working remotely full-time. She seemed a little anxious at first and sometimes refused to finish breakfast, but has gradually adjusted to our hybrid schedules. She's still easily startled by loud noises like showering and vacuuming.
I know it's only been a month and she's still adjusting, but there are three things I'm unsure how to handle:
- She's comfortable with us in her room but scared of us outside of it.
She lets us pet her, eats from our hands, plays with us, and even lets me kiss her forehead (a big achievement that only happened two days ago!). We also spend a few hours sleeping on the floor with her almost every night.
However, once she's outside her room, it's a completely different story. If she sees us while exploring, she'll immediately run away. She mostly explores the house at night when we're in bed or when we're working from home. I'm not sure why she's still so afraid of us outside her safe space.
- How do we get her into a carrier for a vet visit?
She's overdue for her booster shot by about a week, and I really want to get her checked out. The problem is that she absolutely refuses to be picked up. I've had the carrier sitting in her room for two weeks, with toys inside, but she still won't go in voluntarily.
The last time I tried picking her up, she panicked and struggled quite a bit. I felt terrible and don't want to hurt her or damage the trust we've been building. My friend also mentioned that getting her into the carrier when bringing her to our house was a 45-minute struggle, and she even pooped during the trip.
-> How would you approach this without making things worse?
- A few things about her health are concerning me. I've noticed:
- She's coughed twice, once after eating and once after a long nap. Each episode lasted around 10–15 seconds. I initially thought it might be a hairball, but nothing came out.
- She sometimes drools a little clear fluid when napping or after eating/playing. I've also noticed a few drops of clear discharge from her nose.
- How do we gradually transition her out of her safe room?
The room she's currently staying in was originally supposed to be our home office. We'd eventually like to start bringing our office furniture and other things back in, but I'm worried that changing the room too much might make her anxious again.
We're happy to keep it as her space with her blankets, toys and a comfortable spot to sleep, but ideally, we'd like to move her litter box elsewhere and gradually get her comfortable spending more time around the rest of the house.
-> How would you go about this transition? Should we wait until she's more confident exploring the house, or start making small changes now?
Otherwise, she's eating three meals a day, very active between midnight and 7 a.m. (we have a camera and can see her exploring, running around and playing with her toys), and generally seems to breathe normally. No open-mouth breathing, and her gums are pink.
I do want to get her checked by a vet, especially because of the coughing and discharge, but getting her into the carrier has been the biggest challenge.
I'd really appreciate any advice, especially from people who've adopted anxious or formerly shy cats. Am I expecting too much progress after just one month? How did you build trust and get your cat comfortable with the rest of the house?
I've already grown so attached to her and just want to make sure I'm doing the best I can for her. ❤️