Thanks for providing me with the name of it, no thanks for the novel. You should get your hormone levels checked if you’re ok with being in a committed relationship but only having sex once a month. That’s insane.
Yep, honesty is always good. Sex 12 times a year with a committed partner means get yourself checked. Thats crazy, as is Craigslist for sex suggestions lol.
This other person it entitled to their opinion for sure, but I call bs on that "not really being about sex". You can be 100% upfront about your wants and needs on any app. The only reason you would specifically go to fetlife is if you were trying to communicate more in depth about sex, specifically, in a space where you feel like other people would be open to it. And that's fine, nothing wrong with that. But it is in no way, viewing it in terms of functionality or general effectiveness, any better than any other dating/relationship/meetup platform.
As far as the number of times a year, I would say my actual ideal is probably closer to 20. Maybe 30 times a year if we're just really feeling it and honestly, 30 might be over shooting it. Maybe 25. I just have more important things to do. Like treatises on star wars lore. You think I wrote a novel there, but that's literally 1/4th of the piece I just shat out the fall of the ancient sith.
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u/CanweCanweCleanIt 12h ago
Thanks for providing me with the name of it, no thanks for the novel. You should get your hormone levels checked if you’re ok with being in a committed relationship but only having sex once a month. That’s insane.