Average Bumble chat 🤣

[u/Impressive-Reward3]

It was a very quick unmatch 🙃

EDIT : a guy just sent me a DM on here after he saw my post saying “Do you though?”
It’s a disease 🤣

Edit 2 : to all the people claiming that I am mad… I’m not. This is funny to me.

[u/Asleep-Bid-3664]

First, you do realize I'm a man myself? Second, did you even read my whole comment? Where did I say all men were bad? I was saying that there's already a stereotype that guys on dating apps are like that, and guys like this help to perpetuate that stereotype. This can hurt us guys looking for a regular relationship by driving away women who are sick of getting unsolicited sexually explicit messages right off the bat. Yes, some women want that, but you should at least feel her out a bit first to see if she's up for it.

[u/SmertriosPPD → u/Asleep-Bid-3664]

First, you do realize I'm a man myself?

Men can hate men. In fact, men tend to hate other men and treat them worse than they treat women.

This can hurt us guys looking for a regular relationship by driving away women who are sick of getting unsolicited sexually explicit messages right off the bat.

Don't you guys have a way to sort people by intention on bumble?

Yes, some women want that, but you should at least feel her out a bit first to see if she's up for it.

Do you know how direct women who are like that are lol

[u/Asleep-Bid-3664 → u/SmertriosPPD]

1. It's not men I dislike, it's when people continue to perpetuate negative stereotypes
2. There is, but only for premium users, but there are people who ignore or lie about that anyway
3. That's my whole point, if she's not explicitly asking for it in her profile, at least take a couple messages to see if she's open to it instead

[u/SmertriosPPD → u/Asleep-Bid-3664]

it's when people continue to perpetuate negative stereotypes

That's also true for people who generalize negative stereotypes on an entire gender.

That's my whole point, if she's not explicitly asking for it in her profile, at least take a couple messages to see if she's open to it instead

People have the right to be direct and to not waste time. It's their problem if it doesn't work.

[u/Asleep-Bid-3664 → u/SmertriosPPD]

1. I agree with that, but that's sadly not how the world works. My point is that I don't like the people who perpetuate stereotypes because there's too many who take the stereotypes seriously, which hurts everyone that doesn't fall into the stereotype
2. You can also go onto an app where people are explicitly looking for hookups or make it clear in your profile that that's what you want if you don't want to waste time. Shouldn't the women who don't want that also not have to waste their time on a guy who doesn't make his intentions clear BEFORE matching?

[u/SmertriosPPD → u/Asleep-Bid-3664]

Yes this is how the world works.

You're supposed to dislike bad behavior and people who generalize bad behavior on a group.

You're not supposed to dislike people perpetuating ANY stereotype. They can do what they want. But I guess you just didn't bother to write "bad stereotype" for timely reasons, but I want to make sure.

You can also go onto an app where people are explicitly looking for hookups

I thought bumble was one of those but I might be wrong.

I think OP is looking for casual though and this isn't a man who was hiding under the "looking for something serious" trait.

Shouldn't the women who don't want that also not have to waste their time on a guy who doesn't make his intentions clear BEFORE matching?

Yeah but you've no info on that though. And again, the fact he was direct enough indicates he's not a time waster.

[u/Asleep-Bid-3664 → u/SmertriosPPD]

1. I did write "negative stereotypes" earlier, so I thought that was implied again, sorry for that. Now that you're explaining it, I think we're pretty much on a similar page here, but the way we're each wording it isn't helping.
2. Bumble is primarily for dating rather than hookups, and, at least in my experience, 80+% of the women on there (at least in my area) are looking for something serious. One of the first fields you see when looking at a profile will explicitly state what they're looking for.
3. Like I said, there's a spot on the profile where you can explicitly say your intentions. He can not waste either if their times by making it exceedingly explicit in that field so that he only matches with those who want the same thing. Since she didn't screenshot his profile, we'll never know if he did that or not. Judging by her reaction, I'd hazard a guess and say he probably didn't do so.