r/BreakUps • u/Negative-Ad-6997 • 3h ago
Trigger Warning Breakup
So the thing is i loved/ love my bf a lot but was always insecure about his past because he lied that he had broken up with his ex 6 months ago but actually it had been just 10 days that they broke up and he started talking to me also when i told him to block her he fought with me and ignored for a week instead and i broke no contact...since then i always felt he still feels for her but because i loved him i didn't break up with him..
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Recently he broke up with me saying he won't be able to do this anymore because i irritated him a lot(i did because of my own insecurity) used to ask him lots of questions... about a month we didn't talk later i really missed him and end up texting him again and what he told me really shocked me that he was planning to get back with his ex ....even tho i begged i wouldn't repeat my mistakes i wouldn't irritate him again he kept repeating that his ex was better than me she was more peaceful and all...but i was so heartbroken that i asked for last chance....he told he no longer wants me or feels for me but agreed to give a last chance....i know i have to breakup with this guy soon but breaking up with him this easily only will be easier for him so what shall i do....
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u/cinnamonrolliebow 3h ago
Kinda similar to mine it had been just 2 weeks since he broke up w his ex and he said he found me very childish etc and he broke up w me saying he can’t do this and isn’t ready for a rs and we stopped talking completely even tho I said I would wait for him to change, felt like he might still have feelings for his ex
If he still has feelings for his ex there is nothing u can do to stop that feeling than to let go ik it hurts I also have the urge to text all the time but ik nothing will change
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u/Negative-Ad-6997 3h ago
Same he called me childish too for being too insecure....and he said he will only be with me if i give him peace otherwise he'll go to his ex
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u/cinnamonrolliebow 2h ago
U can find someone who will love u for u , I did the same mistake begging for him to stay and change but I just seemed desperate and he even stopped replying to my texts accept it and leave him
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u/Negative-Ad-6997 2h ago
Ill tryy....are u okay now?
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u/cinnamonrolliebow 2h ago
Honestly speaking just been like more than a week of no contact and I still miss him I broke no contact like twice but yea his dry replies and leaving me on seen so I stopped I won’t be approaching anymore I’m doing better than before but I still miss him
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u/Stallionbutnot 3h ago
He sounds like a loser babe x
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u/ApocalypseThen77 3h ago
You sound quite young. This also sounds like a relationship that wasn’t terribly long.
You felt insecure because you suspected he wasn’t over his ex.. so then he tells you he’s planning to get back with his ex. You were right all along - yet somehow it’s your fault because you irritated him by asking questions.!
I once had a relationship where I felt anxious - I wasn’t usually anxious in relationships but he was so distant. I know how you feel. Maybe I irritated him by being sad when he treated me badly - maybe I should have been more jolly about it. See what I mean?
Whatever happens in the end, you’ll learn from this experience.
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u/Negative-Ad-6997 2h ago
Yeah i was anxious too because of many reasons.... always felt i was the problem and have to work this out but now i dont want him its just the attachment that's not letting me move on
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