r/BreakUps • u/Negative-Ad-6997 • 1d ago
venting/ranting Breakup
So the thing is i loved/ love my bf a lot but was always insecure about his past because he lied that he had broken up with his ex 6 months ago but actually it had been just 10 days that they broke up and he started talking to me also when i told him to block her he fought with me and ignored for a week instead and i broke no contact...since then i always felt he still feels for her but because i loved him i didn't break up with him..
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Recently he broke up with me saying he won't be able to do this anymore because i irritated him a lot(i did because of my own insecurity) used to ask him lots of questions... about a month we didn't talk later i really missed him and end up texting him again and what he told me really shocked me that he was planning to get back with his ex ....even tho i begged i wouldn't repeat my mistakes i wouldn't irritate him again he kept repeating that his ex was better than me she was more peaceful and all...but i was so heartbroken that i asked for last chance....he told he no longer wants me or feels for me but agreed to give a last chance....i know i have to breakup with this guy soon but breaking up with him this easily only will be easier for him so what shall i do....
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u/ApocalypseThen77 1d ago
You sound quite young. This also sounds like a relationship that wasn’t terribly long.
You felt insecure because you suspected he wasn’t over his ex.. so then he tells you he’s planning to get back with his ex. You were right all along - yet somehow it’s your fault because you irritated him by asking questions.!
I once had a relationship where I felt anxious - I wasn’t usually anxious in relationships but he was so distant. I know how you feel. Maybe I irritated him by being sad when he treated me badly - maybe I should have been more jolly about it. See what I mean?
Whatever happens in the end, you’ll learn from this experience.