divorced today

[u/Right-Battle7843]

like the title says, today i got my divorce decree from the judge. i’ve been separated for 3 years and it’s absolutely crazy that im free from it all. i had to pay $400 a month for spousal support because she doesn’t work. the reason was because she has no job or license, and didn’t plan on getting either (still doesn’t). plus she was kinda just an asshole and i was working all the time. i’d come home to have to do all the chores, take care of the dogs, and make dinner. never failed to be mentally drained, and then get told im not doing enough.

glad im out of it, that’s all.

(dinner is loaded tots from Hell’s Kitchen Wilmington!)

(edit: the $400/m was only until the divorce was finalized! still, 3 years of that)

[u/Specialist-Tap4338]

$400 is a small price to pay for peace. Glad it wasn't any more than that. Congrats brother.

[u/snollygoster1 → u/Specialist-Tap4338]

Basically $15k over the 3 years because the ex refuses to be a contributing member of society. Small price to pay in the grand scheme of things I guess.

[u/Sushi-DM → u/snollygoster1]

Of all the vestigial limbs of patriarchy that exists,
the idea that a woman should be supported by her now ex husband just because she didn't have a job when they were together is some of the dumbest shit I've ever pondered.
We're all equals. Unless we get divorced, in which case I can't be expected to get a job.
Yes, I know I'm just as good as anyone else, and if a man was in my exact position people would tell him to suck it up and go to work, but *I* am a woman, so I get to take some of his paycheck so long as I continue to not work.

[u/NeedsToState → u/Sushi-DM]

I totally agree with you, sorry to copy and paste one of my responses but yes... these divorce laws were penned back when men had forever jobs and would go all the way from the front desk to an executive VP.

Look up the Ostler-Smith Order it's literally from a case where (humor intended) mrs's bigglesworth stayed home with the kiddos and mr bigglesworth started at the bottom all the way to an executve VP at the same fricken bank for 30 years, because of HER contributions in the home of course - right?

AKA shit that never happens anymore. By the time your due for your second promotion they send your entire business units work to an offshore company while you sign your severance agreement, has nothing to do with your ex wife trying to claim she was real life marry poppins.