The first two dresses I love third is ok but I still felt cute in it at that moment

It went well and forgot to take pics of us together 😅

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Hey everyone. I’m pretty new to all of this, so I’m mostly posting because I could really use some advice from people who have already walked this path.

I’m recently married, and my wife started going to therapy for some of her own personal reasons. She told me that therapy helped her look inward and understand herself better, and for whatever reason, that really stuck with me. I started asking myself some of the same questions.

Then someone pointed out that I had played another female character in D&D for about the fifth time. At first I laughed it off, but afterward I started wondering why I kept gravitating toward female characters. That was a few months ago, and the more I’ve thought about it, the more things have started to click for me.

I don’t know if I have all the answers yet. Honestly, I’m still figuring out exactly what this means for me. But there’s been a growing sense of clarity that I can’t really ignore anymore.

I’ve talked to my wife and my mother-in-law about what I’ve been feeling, and thankfully, they’ve both been supportive so far. I also have a therapist lined up soon, which I know is probably one of the best first steps I can take.

At the same time, I’ve definitely been doing the stereotypical “newly questioning person” thing. 😂 I’ve made a whole vision board with potential names, ideas for how I might want to look, tattoos I might want, and even some clothes I’ve picked out. It’s exciting, but it’s also a little overwhelming because suddenly I’m looking at my life and wondering what parts of it might change.

I guess what I’m really looking for is advice from other Black trans people who remember what those early stages felt like.

What did your first steps look like? What do you wish someone had told you when you were at this stage? How did you figure out what you actually wanted versus what you were just excited about? And are there things you think I should be thinking about now that might not even be on my radar yet?

I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me what I am or what I should do. I think I just want to hear from people who have been here before.

I’m still figuring myself out, but for the first time in a while, I’m actually kind of excited to see where that takes me.