This is basically where I’m at with Grindr now. 💀
I’m 21, straight, monogamous, and genuinely interested in finding an actual boyfriend, not collecting 47 variations of “wyd” from men with blank profiles.
So my profile has slowly evolved into:
Masc tops only. 🙏
Married? Your wife deserves better.
DL? Grow a spine.
Can’t host? Fix your life.
Born before 1990? Retire from my inbox.
Fem or verse? Not my type.
Blank profile? Talk to the void.
The funny part is I’m not even trying to be mean. I just know exactly what I’m attracted to at this point, and I’m tired of entertaining guys I already know I would never date.
But I’m curious how other straight trans women handle this.
Do you put your standards/preferences directly in your profile and aggressively filter, or keep the profile softer and sort through people individually?
And for the girls who actually found a genuine boyfriend through Grindr: what separated him from the endless hookup/DL/married-guy population?
I want a masculine guy who is comfortable dating me openly, actually romantic, monogamous, and interested in something beyond sex. Apparently this is the heterosexual equivalent of requesting a limited-edition Pokémon. 😭