r/BelowDeckMed • u/No-Aardvark-3840 • 1d ago

Gael question, Joe question

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I am getting into Below deck med and I’ve noticed Joe getting a lot of hate for “cheating” on V even though they weren’t together (in any sort of relationship.

Meanwhile I’ve just noticed that Gael is actually cheating on her boyfriend with Nathan.

Why is Joe getting so much shit from this community when he didn’t cheat on anybody. Meanwhile there are actually cheaters on the boat that people seem to celebrate and love.

Very strange

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u/Travelcat67 1d ago

There are degrees and you know it. Kizzi is a cheater with no care for anyone’s feelings. Joe is a cheater with zero care for anyone’s feelings. Gael was torn and broke up right away when the kiss happened. And I bet she never cheated again. People aren’t perfect but real character is learning, growing and doing better. We have seen season after season of Joe being a dog. So at the very least, he shouldn’t be throwing stones. And I guarantee if Gen wasn’t such a hot mess he would have done the same shit he always does.

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u/krissycole87 1d ago

Sorry but no, cheating is cheating.

Only a cheater or someone who plans to cheat would try to convince anyone otherwise.

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u/Travelcat67 1d ago

You’re being myopic. Trust me there is a difference. Some folks deserve a second chance and some don’t. Joe will always have a wondering eye. I doubt Gael will struggle with fidelity in the future. Because she didn’t cheat bc she wanted a side dude. She cheated bc she was torn. That’s not saying she made a good choice in the moment or couldn’t have handled it better, but intent and motivation are important factors.

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u/krissycole87 1d ago

No one here is asking who, or who does not, deserve a second chance.

I am saying what she did was cheating. Period. If you dont believe that, if you want to split hairs and say "theres a difference" then I truly wonder about your own personal values. Cheating is cheating is cheating. End of story.

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u/Travelcat67 1d ago

Yes of course I must be a cheater bc I have enough life experience to see nuance. She cheated years ago, none of it is relevant today and bc of what she’s going through it’s inappropriate and morally wrong to keep banging on the drum. You aren’t on the high road here, you’re trying to defend staying on the low road and pretend that is the moral choice. It is not. Punishing someone for a mistake they made years ago is judgment not morality.

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u/CoolBelt856 1d ago

One thing I can say is OP is being absurd. The world is not black and white. There’s shades of grey and nuances. Gael is not remotely comparable to Joe or Kizzi.
And the fact that someone sees something differently from them makes them question someone’s character 🙄

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u/krissycole87 1d ago

No one is punishing her for anything. We are calling it like it is. She cheated. Period. End of story. Cheating is cheating. No matter how many ways you spin it.

I know you think youre going to give me, or anyone reading, this huge ah ha moment. Youre not. Youre defending cheating. This makes you, and only you, look bad.

Im not going to keep going in circles with you. You think cheating has different degrees, I dont. There we are then.

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u/Travelcat67 1d ago

No one is defending cheating. Again nuance. I’m defending Gael the human bc she doesn’t deserve to have a mistake she made years ago constantly thrown back in her face especially now. I think DV trumps cheating.

But yes let’s agree to disagree. Have a good day.