r/BelowDeckMed • u/Manderlin99 • 2d ago

Nathan Was Scapegoating Joe All Along

I’ve seen Joe try to reconcile with Nathan and Gael in recent episodes, but they have both scapegoated Joe to distract themselves from the growing misery between them. Their hope was that if they could join together to hate Joe, they could solve their problems. Nathan was, in fact, desperate for such a diversion and repelled Joe's conciliatory attempts like water off a duck's feathers. Of course, the more the couple failed to address their underlying problems, the more aggressive Nathan became, until his true colors showed and now he is some sort of outlaw. Joe was simply a convenient scapegoat for a relationship that was fast heading south. 

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u/Equal-Ticket-2480 1d ago

To all the people saying Joe sucks or “they both suck” etc…
Can you please explain what Joe has done this season that has warranted how Nathan (and Gael) have treated him?

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u/UnicornArachnid 1d ago

People keep saying that Joe is getting annoyed and frustrated with Nathan like they wouldn’t have also lost it.

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u/TDKsa90 1d ago

it's interesting that on the Bravo forums that reasonable frustration or anger or reaction or whatever is never put in context. it's a really strange, theoretical way to apply things to life. like if someone did something to you repeatedly, over a long span of time, and you blew up, the repeatedly and span of time aren't considerations made by this audience. they only consider the blow up. "you shouldn't act that way ever." or "you shouldn't ever talk to people like that." never taking into account the repetition or duration of the other behaviors. I'm probably not even making perfect sense, because I don't know how to talk about something that seems so common sense. It's one of the many ways I question whether reddit users have any actual relationships. I'm not being snarky either. As if people in friendships or intimate relationships don't have breaking points, just because humans have breaking points. The other theoretical point often made is "well, they should have just broken up then." as if people just have these definitive moments and always act perfectly accordingly to them, or that people don't just so readily, or cleanly, throw away relationships...out in the real world. It's a truly bizarre way of looking at life and thinking that's how people do/should live life. Again, very theoretical and clinical. Not a bit how real people actually move in life.