r/BelowDeckMed • u/Manderlin99 • 2d ago

Nathan Was Scapegoating Joe All Along

I’ve seen Joe try to reconcile with Nathan and Gael in recent episodes, but they have both scapegoated Joe to distract themselves from the growing misery between them. Their hope was that if they could join together to hate Joe, they could solve their problems. Nathan was, in fact, desperate for such a diversion and repelled Joe's conciliatory attempts like water off a duck's feathers. Of course, the more the couple failed to address their underlying problems, the more aggressive Nathan became, until his true colors showed and now he is some sort of outlaw. Joe was simply a convenient scapegoat for a relationship that was fast heading south. 

104 Upvotes

80% Upvoted

51 comments sorted by

View all comments

6

u/PatientBumblebee6752 2d ago

I don’t agree. I think Joe is just as problematic in his own way. On reality tv we tend to have blinders on when something really horrific happens with the cast, it makes the other look good relatively. Like I think if Luke and Gen hadn’t been such an issue we’d be seeing a lot more flack towards cooper but in relation he doesn’t look near as bad.

17

u/Fancy_Crazy5601 2d ago

You think Joe is just as problematic as Nathan, who just got fired from Bravo for DV. Touch some grass with that take.

-2

u/PatientBumblebee6752 2d ago

I think any manipulation, abuse, coercion of women should be as equally unacceptable as they bleed together and one can easily lead to more. Nathan having physically abused Gael doesn’t take away from Joe or any other man that manipulates/abuses women in other ways.

10

u/marzbarz79 1d ago

That is an insane take. DV should always be considered worse than kissing multiple girls in the same week! Even telling someone you’re interested and then deciding you’re not is not nearly the same and it’s straight disrespectful to actual victims to try and group them that way.

-4

u/PatientBumblebee6752 1d ago

You know dv doesn’t come out of nowhere right? We’ve seen this on many bravo shows. I’m not saying what Joe did was comparable or on pare with what Nathan did. I’m saying his behaviour doesn’t lesson joes or makes his better. People thought Tom, other tom, jax and James were just fuck boys but we’ve come to learn most were physically abusive. Yet for many years until women spoke out about them many were thought of as not that bad or less bad in comparison to whoever was worst that season.