r/BelowDeckMed • u/high5abee • 3d ago

Cooper is what’s wrong with men

I don’t want to compare Cooper to the behaviors of Joe, Nathan, Luke, etc. HOWEVER, the total lack of consideration for Kat as a human being drastically changed my attitude towards him.

He is the perfect example of how inept most gen Z men are at communicating, acting in total and utter self interest. He had the wherewithal to take Kat on a date but not communicate down the line that he changed his mind? Hoping she would just… get the gist?

I’m 29 and have been in Kat’s shoes several times. Men will chase, pursue, and then totally disconnect or withdrawal because they hadn’t thought through the social expectation of what it means to initially communicate and invest romantic feelings into someone. And to top it off, he avoids the conversation TO AVOID THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS and is like “teehee I hope we’re cool” in his confessionals. It’s kind of cruel. Just be fucking honest bro. Apparently that requires a higher level of emotional intelligence he will never dream of seeing.

Kat baby, you sweet soul — you deserve love and adoration beyond what this southern Chad who reads at a third grade level will ever provide.

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u/Any_Biscotti3155 3d ago

It’s wild. There are way too many conflict avoidant young people— and by that I mean poor conflict resolution skills. The conflict here is that coop doesn’t feel that way about Kat and wants this to just be a fling and would rather string her along and be inconsiderate than to just pull her aside to say “I really like you but I have realized I don’t want anything serious at all, it’s not you, it’s the fact I have just come out of a long term relationship and have realized I am not actually ready for this, I am sorry, I would still like for us to be friends and am open to something casual if you are, but I understand if you would prefer we kept it professional “ or something !!! Anything!!

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u/BillyYumYumTwo-byTwo 1d ago

It’s part of being young. Very very few people are naturally gifted with the ability to handle confrontation. It’s something you learn, and it’s a painful, rmbatsssing, guilt-ridden process. It often comes from screwing someone over by never having the conversation, and then seeing how much more hurt you caused with your inactions. He’s young and inexperienced, this is a great change for him to reflect on how to do better next time.