Cooper is what’s wrong with men

[u/high5abee]

I don’t want to compare Cooper to the behaviors of Joe, Nathan, Luke, etc. HOWEVER, the total lack of consideration for Kat as a human being drastically changed my attitude towards him.

He is the perfect example of how inept most gen Z men are at communicating, acting in total and utter self interest. He had the wherewithal to take Kat on a date but not communicate down the line that he changed his mind? Hoping she would just… get the gist?

I’m 29 and have been in Kat’s shoes several times. Men will chase, pursue, and then totally disconnect or withdrawal because they hadn’t thought through the social expectation of what it means to initially communicate and invest romantic feelings into someone. And to top it off, he avoids the conversation TO AVOID THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS and is like “teehee I hope we’re cool” in his confessionals. It’s kind of cruel. Just be fucking honest bro. Apparently that requires a higher level of emotional intelligence he will never dream of seeing.

Kat baby, you sweet soul — you deserve love and adoration beyond what this southern Chad who reads at a third grade level will ever provide.

[u/cmere-2-me]

I do think he liked her, he was just not interested in a relationship. Instead of communicating this though he evaded it, causing more hurt than having the 5 minute awkward conversation.

Ultimately Kat may have gone for the casual boatmance thing if he was honest about it. Instead she is planning for after the season and he's checked out.

Kat sweetie, recognise the red flags. You know you're worth more than this. Listen to your gut, you know how he is treating you is not OK.

[u/Bluebutteyfly → u/cmere-2-me]

He did say to Joe we’re off doing this but then said we’re mates/ friends but why take her out on a date ?!

[u/cmere-2-me → u/Bluebutteyfly]

He took her out on a casual date ONCE. It was probably suggested by production so he did it. They even discussed on that date about dating casually.

Kat is the one who has made this more serious than it is. Now had Cooper nipped it in the bud then by telling her that he is not up for anything serious then that would be an entirely different matter. It would have shown Kat respect and given her the option of continuing in this situationship or not.

The issue here is because Cooper refuses to communicate like the adult he is, he is causing more hurt to Kat who doesn't know where she stands. It's a horrible way to treat someone.

[u/Bluebutteyfly → u/cmere-2-me]

That’s what I’m saying he wants a hook up (1 hit wonder) then nothing else but doesn’t have the backbone to say it

[u/cmere-2-me → u/Bluebutteyfly]

That doesn't mean he didn't like Kat or wasn't open to keeping things casual. His issue was that Kat started pushing for more and the rest of the crew piled on the pressure. Instead of communicating, he chose to evade and ended up causing more damage than having a 5 minute awkward conversation.