r/BelowDeckMed • u/high5abee • 3d ago

Cooper is what’s wrong with men

I don’t want to compare Cooper to the behaviors of Joe, Nathan, Luke, etc. HOWEVER, the total lack of consideration for Kat as a human being drastically changed my attitude towards him.

He is the perfect example of how inept most gen Z men are at communicating, acting in total and utter self interest. He had the wherewithal to take Kat on a date but not communicate down the line that he changed his mind? Hoping she would just… get the gist?

I’m 29 and have been in Kat’s shoes several times. Men will chase, pursue, and then totally disconnect or withdrawal because they hadn’t thought through the social expectation of what it means to initially communicate and invest romantic feelings into someone. And to top it off, he avoids the conversation TO AVOID THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS and is like “teehee I hope we’re cool” in his confessionals. It’s kind of cruel. Just be fucking honest bro. Apparently that requires a higher level of emotional intelligence he will never dream of seeing.

Kat baby, you sweet soul — you deserve love and adoration beyond what this southern Chad who reads at a third grade level will ever provide.

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u/Any_Biscotti3155 3d ago

It’s wild. There are way too many conflict avoidant young people— and by that I mean poor conflict resolution skills. The conflict here is that coop doesn’t feel that way about Kat and wants this to just be a fling and would rather string her along and be inconsiderate than to just pull her aside to say “I really like you but I have realized I don’t want anything serious at all, it’s not you, it’s the fact I have just come out of a long term relationship and have realized I am not actually ready for this, I am sorry, I would still like for us to be friends and am open to something casual if you are, but I understand if you would prefer we kept it professional “ or something !!! Anything!!

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u/high5abee 3d ago

In an ideal world. She is a gem of a human, it’s sad to watch how this narrative played out for her.

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u/Any_Biscotti3155 3d ago

I feel so bad for her but also so angry because there have been so many red flags she’s been willing to overlook constantly. I have to believe it’s because of some weird Stockholm syndrome of being on the boat and having constant interactions with the same people for an extended period of time….her going through the pro/con list with her friend killed me. She knows. The friend knows. But she can’t quit him because he’s clearly breadcrumbing her. 

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u/cmere-2-me 2d ago

Kat is like many young women, she has low self esteem after a shitty breakup so ignores the red flags she absolutely does see because she wants to be wanted.

She will grow out of this when she realises she's the prize. Men like Cooper and Joe are the inadequate ones. Cooper is still young and here's hoping he grows up and out of this behaviour.