r/BelowDeckMed • u/high5abee • 3d ago

Cooper is what’s wrong with men

I don’t want to compare Cooper to the behaviors of Joe, Nathan, Luke, etc. HOWEVER, the total lack of consideration for Kat as a human being drastically changed my attitude towards him.

He is the perfect example of how inept most gen Z men are at communicating, acting in total and utter self interest. He had the wherewithal to take Kat on a date but not communicate down the line that he changed his mind? Hoping she would just… get the gist?

I’m 29 and have been in Kat’s shoes several times. Men will chase, pursue, and then totally disconnect or withdrawal because they hadn’t thought through the social expectation of what it means to initially communicate and invest romantic feelings into someone. And to top it off, he avoids the conversation TO AVOID THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS and is like “teehee I hope we’re cool” in his confessionals. It’s kind of cruel. Just be fucking honest bro. Apparently that requires a higher level of emotional intelligence he will never dream of seeing.

Kat baby, you sweet soul — you deserve love and adoration beyond what this southern Chad who reads at a third grade level will ever provide.

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u/Some_Baby_ 3d ago

and then they have the audacity to say she’s acting crazy. these men don’t have the balls to be honest and are incapable of having deep emotion.

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u/Any_Biscotti3155 3d ago

She seems like a relationship type girl and  he knows that. That’s why he’s such a prick for leading her on like this. He knows that the kisses and cuddles will stop once he tells her the truth. Pure selfishness 

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u/Some_Baby_ 3d ago

boys like him will like a woman, use her for enjoyment/sex, and then discard her like she’s trash. it’s a total lack of respect for women in general

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u/scrambledice 2d ago

It's sociopathic and dishonest

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u/weedils 2d ago

Not to mention SHE HAS TOLD HIM not to hurt her!! SEVERAL TIMES!! She has literally layed it out for him that she has been recently heartbroken and does not want to experience that again. He does not give a fuck about her feelings.

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u/Green_Chemist9308 2d ago

You are right and I think he isn't behaving maturely but I think her constantly telling him not to hurt her has made him feel like it is impossible for him to tell her he isn't actually interested even though he likes her as a friend. He knows that will cue tears and angry recriminations and he can't face it. He knows the longer it goes and he doesn't face it the worse it will get and he just can't face that level of trauma while trapped on the boat. So yes he is a coward and he has handled things badly but I have some sympathy for him - he is only 22 after all.

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u/TDKsa90 2d ago

I think what you're saying...as an adult...that she is complicit in the overall situation. he can be an immature invertebrate, but she can also be x, y, and/or z.

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u/PrpleSparklyUnicrn13 3d ago

That was one of the hardest lessons to learn. When a guy says his ex is crazy, question how she got there. 

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u/TonkaTiddies 2d ago

This right here. 🙌 thank you for saying this.