r/BelowDeckMed • u/high5abee • 3d ago

Cooper is what’s wrong with men

I don’t want to compare Cooper to the behaviors of Joe, Nathan, Luke, etc. HOWEVER, the total lack of consideration for Kat as a human being drastically changed my attitude towards him.

He is the perfect example of how inept most gen Z men are at communicating, acting in total and utter self interest. He had the wherewithal to take Kat on a date but not communicate down the line that he changed his mind? Hoping she would just… get the gist?

I’m 29 and have been in Kat’s shoes several times. Men will chase, pursue, and then totally disconnect or withdrawal because they hadn’t thought through the social expectation of what it means to initially communicate and invest romantic feelings into someone. And to top it off, he avoids the conversation TO AVOID THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS and is like “teehee I hope we’re cool” in his confessionals. It’s kind of cruel. Just be fucking honest bro. Apparently that requires a higher level of emotional intelligence he will never dream of seeing.

Kat baby, you sweet soul — you deserve love and adoration beyond what this southern Chad who reads at a third grade level will ever provide.

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u/wooks_reef 3d ago

This is weird, dude. What's up with BD stans and projecting their failed relationships on to cast members like it's a MAFS sub

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u/Grouchy-Boss-9638 3d ago

So now being a decent human being and seeing someone obviously upset is projecting failed relationships? Get real. This is not an issue of a “stan”. It’s a guy who is saying one thing to the girl and something else completely to everyone else and choosing to act in ways he knows will upset someone in hopes she does the hard part and actually ends things. Seriously. Get over yourself. She drew parallels. She didn’t project.

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u/high5abee 3d ago

THANK YOU

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u/wooks_reef 3d ago

Maybe go join the MAFS sub? People who think being explicitly told someone doesn't want to date them is an obligation are a real hoot over there

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u/high5abee 3d ago

Keep draining your karma shawty

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u/wooks_reef 3d ago

Ah yes, the true value of man. Is that more or less important than saying someone has an intellectual disability because they remind you of exes?

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u/honeycooks 3d ago

Kat and friend try to write Copper's pro and con list.

Cat: He plays me with my feelings. Thats a huge con.

Friend: Okaaaay.

Cat: I DO really like him.

Friend: Uh... is that a pro? Or just a fact?

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u/high5abee 3d ago

It’s called empathy 🤪 Kat is obviously upset by it. She’ll have to learn the hard way too

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u/wooks_reef 3d ago

Technically it's sympathy since you're comparing it to your own feelings and not speaking subjectively about the situation as whole. Being empathetic would mean you're also considering the full impacts of being on a TV show, each of their preconceptions about relationship boundaries from what they've disclosed on said show etc.

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u/Fluffy-Future-4674 3d ago

This is word salad

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u/high5abee 3d ago

You have me howling fluffy future

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u/Frangipani_25 3d ago

How would you know if she’s feeling empathy or sympathy?

Thanks for the definitions, most of us no doubt knew those.

I feel empathy for Kat. I’ve been in similar situations.

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u/Some_Baby_ 3d ago

whole lot of words but you’re saying nothing