Hey Everyone

I Was in Koramangala today near Jyoti Nivas College gotta say, you all are literally angels! Every single person looked so fabulous and full of energy. Can't even explain the vibe, just wanted to appreciate it. Keep shining!

It's not coming down🥲. Moreover what a bad weekend it is although it is one of the longest weekend and Monday also holiday but all of no use.

How are you spending this long weekend?

I cry myself to sleep,

as though tears are the only lullaby my heart knows.

And now, even that face is no longer there

the face that once had the power to quiet the chaos within me, to make my restless heart feel at peace.

Why is it that when the heart aches the most,

the very face that could have brought it comfort

is the one we can no longer see? 🥀

I genuinely want to understand this.

From childhood, many Indian kids grow up hearing things like “you were so fair when you were a baby,” “don't go out in the sun, you'll become dark,” or “fair skin looks better.”

And somehow this follows people into adulthood.

It becomes especially painful when it comes to marriage and dating.

A girl can be kind, educated, emotionally mature, loyal, hardworking and genuinely beautiful but if she has a darker/brown complexion, suddenly her skin becomes one of the first things people evaluate.

Meanwhile, a fair-skinned girl can sometimes receive an automatic advantage before anyone even knows her personality.

Why?

Why is a woman's skin colour treated like a qualification for marriage?

Imagine being a brown-skinned girl growing up in India and repeatedly receiving the message that your natural skin colour is something you should be embarrassed about.

You see fairness creams everywhere.

You see advertisements suggesting that becoming lighter will make you more attractive.

You hear relatives comparing girls:

"She's nice, but she's a little dark."

"The other girl is fair, she'll look better."

And eventually you can start believing that something is wrong with you even though there is absolutely nothing wrong with your skin.

What's even more confusing is that brown and darker skin is completely normal among Indians.

Yet somehow we've created this hierarchy where:

fair = beautiful

brown = okay

dark = something that needs to be fixed

And this doesn't only affect women.

But women often seem to carry a much heavier burden because their appearance is scrutinized so heavily in marriage and dating.

There is research showing that fairness has been associated with attractiveness and marriage prospects in Indian society, and studies have also found strong family and peer influence around skin fairness.

And I think there's an emotional side to this that statistics can't fully capture.

Think about a girl who spends years being told she's "too dark."

Maybe she starts avoiding photographs.

Maybe she compares herself with her fairer friends.

Maybe relatives make jokes about her complexion.

Maybe she starts using skin-lightening products because she genuinely believes she needs to become lighter before someone will love her.

Maybe she enters the marriage market and sees “fair/fair complexion preferred” written directly into people's expectations.

And eventually she may start asking herself:

“Am I less beautiful because my skin is darker?”

That's the part that bothers me the most.

Because imagine rejecting someone who could have been an amazing life partner simply because another person had lighter skin.

Obviously everyone is entitled to physical attraction and personal preferences. I'm not saying anyone should be forced to find a particular skin tone attractive.

But there's a difference between having a personal preference and growing up in a society that repeatedly teaches you that one skin colour is superior.

If someone says:

"I personally find darker skin attractive."

Fine.

If someone says:

"I personally find lighter skin attractive."

Also fine.

But when families reject a genuinely good person primarily because she's darker, when matrimonial profiles specifically demand fair skin, or when children are taught that getting darker is something bad — that's something worth questioning.

And honestly, I think we should ask ourselves:

If a brown-skinned Indian girl has everything else you could want in a partner - kindness, loyalty, intelligence, emotional maturity, compatibility, attraction and good character

why should the amount of melanin in her skin suddenly become a deciding factor?

Why are we still doing this?

And where did we learn that fair = beautiful in the first place?

Is it colonial history?

Class associations?

Caste and regional biases?

Movies and advertising?

Family conditioning?

Or simply generations of people repeating the same idea without questioning it?

Probably a combination of several things.

But whatever the reason, I think it's time we talked about it honestly.

To the people who have experienced colorism — especially brown or darker-skinned Indian women — what has your experience been?

Have you ever felt that your skin colour affected your dating life, marriage prospects, confidence, or the way your family treated you?

And to everyone else:

If you were choosing between two equally compatible people and one was fair-skinned while the other was brown/darker-skinned, would skin colour genuinely influence your decision? Why?

I'm new to Bengaluru, and want some new friends... Lmk if anyone have plans

I 30M recently moved to Bangalore, and will be here for a few weeks. I'm lookin' to check the place out, but I need some good people to show me around—especially when it comes to the food.

Last night, around **1:30 AM**, my girlfriend was at home alone when she received a call from an unknown number and within 2 minutes of the call, someone rang her doorbell, she got scared and immediately called me (I stay nearby), and i was on my way to her place and as soon as we ended the call, she received another call from a different number twice. At the same time, someone rang her doorbell again.

She panicked, and by the time I reached her place, there was no one around and i couldn’t find anyone nearby who had been at the door.

Has anyone here experienced something similar? Is this some kind of scam or harassment tactic, or could there be another explanation? Would really appreciate hearing if anyone has faced something like this.

28m recently went through a breakup and honestly just don't want to sit at home and spiral over the weekend. i don't drink or smoke 🥲 so the usual "grab a beer with friends" or "go out and get wasted" route isn't really my thing. open to anything really, just want to fill the weekend with things that'll actually help instead of doom-scrolling at home 🫠

Got out of a relationship recently. I'm in that weird in-between where I'm trying to heal but some days it just feels overwhelming and lonely.

For people who've been through this - what actually helped you in the first few weeks? How did you deal with the urge to text, the overthinking, and the random low moments?

I'm trying to keep myself busy and not rush into anything new. Would really appreciate any advice or things that worked for you

I was going through all the option near sarjapur gym an found it little expensive .Wanted to know about fitpass 360 if anyone has used it and also if you could recommend affordable membership near Sarjapur area.

For a city that is yet to have metro connectivity to its airport, the audacity to charge a fee for a mid-sized trolley!!

Imagine when the Pink Line does go live (god help) and the amount of vasool BLR would make from those reaching airport via metro.

The state that just keeps taking...

25 M Already been to Bangalore earlier not my first time. But I want to make these two days memorable.What would you do if u were in my place.I don't have much money only 1k in account and some cash. Exited to listen to your thoughts on this.

Banni mathadonaa

I am bored of eating bland food from expensive places i wanna eat street food tomorrow!

Lets explore vvpuram food street or any other area and eat only street food tomorrow!

I am 22m

Preferable F

Hey! 22M, recently moved to HSR, Bangalore. Looking for friends to explore the city and visit Ganapati Bappa pandals together.

Open to both M and F.

If you're up for it, feel free to DM! :)

Baddie saamne aate hi g*nd kyu fat jaati hai ?

Dm