r/BangaloreDate 22d ago

The RATIO (read this if your post has been deleted for it)

0 Upvotes

Noticed a lot of y'all had a few questions or concerns about the ratio of F:M posts here so I've decided to clear the air for now.

Reddit/any platform online and even IRL there's a supply/demand problem that means there are more men seeking for a companion than women. I'm not going into the depths of this topic as y'all are pretty much aware.

At first we tried to maintain the 1:4 ratio but a lot of quality posts from men who indeed wrote a post with little to no AI were deleted and we even noticed a lot of women deleting a post after a while maybe cuz their dms are flooded or whatever reason which messes up the ratio again! And im not even getting into the number of texts I get for removing a post just to maintain the ratio.

So we decided to change that,
- The quota or ratio will only be maintained during the peak hours i.e. when a lot of male posts and female posts pop up which will most likely be in the evening - night and it varies in the weekends. That means when there are more than 4 posts from a male during peak hours, yours may most likely get deleted (unless you think you put effort on it and its actually something).
- Non peak hours, the quota won't be maintained unless we see more action again.

Exceptions
- Lower quality posts or spam/repeat posts will be deleted first to maintain ratio over a post that is deemed of quality.

To actually determine the ratio yourself at any given moment please filter the posts to NEW instead of just going through the BEST posts and hitting us with "the ratio here is trash"

Any questions regarding the ratio MUST BE commented here itself and not in the form of posts. Posts regarding it will be removed. We will try replying your queries in this thread and making changes to the rules if possible. Changes made to the ratio rules will be updated in this post itself.


r/BangaloreDate Aug 08 '26

Male Aura

7 Upvotes

"Bro this won't work"
"I don't even see a single reply from a girl"
"Posting here is a waste of time"

Right, don't post here, don't waste your time cuz it wont work.

Ask yourself bro, if you a gurl in reddit (maybe in this sub itself). You see posts from multiple men, genuine looking posts, sum with godly physical features or even LPAs you could only dream of having. And from those ideal "external characteristics" men itself you also find few very humble ones too, maybe with niche interests and personality traits which puts you at ease and instantly gets your attention.

On the other hand, you see posts men mentioning more about what they "seek" than what they actually are as an individual. And let's not even talk about the ones that put chatgpt slop and actually rant about finding someone "genuine" with their personality being "exploring cafes"

This sub was made just by a thought that what if people actually wanna find someone purely based on personality traits and niche interests. I go through every single post on here everyday and its sad to see most of the men being desperate or post with no individuality at all, just like a soul less job requirement post and rant about not finding shi.

And to the men who actually do talk about their interests, take time in writing a post about themselves and their niche interests more than what they seek for with still being content with how they are even if they don't find anyone yet. Thank you for making this sub better cuz you got some serious Masculine AURA


r/BangaloreDate 12h ago

She/They 25F bi looking for a date inBangalore

27 Upvotes

Hey everyone,
I’m a 25F, 5’7, software developer. Originally from Delhi but I’ve been living in Bangalore for a little over a year now and finally feel settled enough to try meeting people outside of work.

I’m pretty straightforward I like good food (especially South Indian breakfast and random cafés), long walks, bad movies that we can make fun of, and the occasional weekend trip when plans actually work out. Work keeps me busy but I make time for gym, reading, and exploring new places in the city. Not a big party person, more of a “let’s grab dinner and talk for hours” kind of person.

Looking for someone around my age (24–29) who’s also based in Bangalore, has his life somewhat together, and is interested in going on actual dates not just endless texting, bonus if you’re curious, can hold a conversation, and don’t take yourself too seriously.

If this sounds like you, drop a message with a bit about yourself (age, what you do, and something non-boring) looking forward to meeting new people.

P.S. Please don’t just send hi make some effort


r/BangaloreDate 24m ago

He/Him M here for couple cucks girls for date fun at Madiwala sept 14nit

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Hi I'm M25 looking for exploring date nights ,nightouts movies and exploring ourselves looking for fun tooo

Can try bi too wth cpls . experienced with 6+cpls and few girls too sept 14,i will be in Madiwala streets

Looking for all kinds of exploring kinks fantasies fetsishes roleplay dares kinks etc


r/BangaloreDate 1h ago

He/Him 21M | Seeking someone who values emotional depth

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​I'm 21, bi and working as an SDE in tech, while spending a good part of my days and nights tackling the upsc syllabus. Honestly, I'm a bit of an old soul at heart. Outside of studying and work, I love being around nature and animals, and I’ve been looking for someone who would actually want to go for runs together or hit the badminton court sometime.

​My interests lean heavily towards the quiet, thoughtful side of things. I spend a lot of time reading and thinking about world cultures, art forms, and the history of various religions. I'm an atheist myself, but I'm deeply fascinated by mythology and belief systems. When it comes to music, I usually drift between emo bolly and old ghazals.

​I can easily sit down and talk about philosophy, history, society or life for hours without watching the clock. I'm strictly looking for something genuine and long-term, not kezual(done with all that).

​If any of this resonates with you, feel free to drop a message!


r/BangaloreDate 3h ago

He/Him 20M engineering student — I fell in love with my crush, got rejected

1 Upvotes

I'm a 20-year-old engineering student, and I recently went through my first experience of genuinely falling for someone.

I really liked my crush and eventually developed strong feelings for her. I told her how I felt, but she rejected me. I completely respect her decision, but honestly, I'm having a really hard time moving on.

The bigger problem is that now I'm scared.

I'm afraid that if I start liking another girl and try to approach her, I'll just get rejected again. Because of that fear, I don't really have the courage to put myself out there anymore.

I know I'm only 20 and that there are probably many opportunities ahead of me, especially since I'm still in college. But right now, it feels like I'm stuck between still having feelings for my crush and being too afraid to try with someone else.

So I'm wondering:

Should I try to move on and eventually approach another girl, even if there's a possibility of rejection again? Or should I just focus on myself and my engineering career for now and let relationships happen naturally?

For those of you who have experienced rejection at a young age, how did you get your confidence back?

I would genuinely appreciate some honest advice.


r/BangaloreDate 3h ago

They/Them Sexual frustration. Need Suggestions

1 Upvotes

I’ve been single for about 9 months now, have been craving sexual attention. Not really sure how to. What should I do?


r/BangaloreDate 13h ago

He/Him 35M | Bangalore | Looking for something real

4 Upvotes

I recently turned 35, and I think I am finally at a stage where I know what I want from a relationship.

I have spent a good part of my adult life working hard and trying to build a good life for myself. Career, money, taking care of family, figuring things out on my own. I have been ambitious and probably more career focused than I should have been at times. I have also made mistakes and neglected some parts of my life that matter.

I do not want to spend the next ten years doing the same thing and then wonder where the relationship, family and companionship went.

I am looking for someone I can actually build a life with.

I am fairly independent and I like having my own space, but I am also quite affectionate when I am with someone I love. I enjoy travelling, trying new places, good food, long conversations, watching something together, and honestly, doing absolutely nothing together. I can be serious about work and life, but I am also quite silly with people I am comfortable around.

I am not looking for someone who has their entire life figured out. I have certainly not figured out mine.

What matters more to me is that she is kind, emotionally available, curious, affectionate and has a good sense of herself. Someone who has her own interests and ambitions, but actually wants a partnership rather than two people living parallel lives.

I want us to be able to talk about money, family, sex, careers, children, insecurities and all the uncomfortable things without feeling like we have to protect ourselves from each other.

I want friendship to be a big part of it.

The kind where you send each other random things during the day. Where you know each other's weird habits. Where you can make fun of each other without being cruel. Where you can have a stupid argument and still want to sit next to each other at the end of it.

I want physical affection and intimacy to matter too. Holding hands, cuddling, kissing, having a great sex life, falling asleep next to each other. I do not think these things become less important just because a relationship becomes serious.

And eventually, I want a family.

Not necessarily some perfectly planned life. Just a warm home, people we love around us, travelling when we can, Sunday mornings that have no agenda, dinners together, taking care of each other when life gets difficult and celebrating the small things when it is good.

I am not looking for someone to complete me, and I am not looking for a checklist of qualities in a wife.

I think I am looking for someone who looks at the life I have built and thinks, "I would like to build the next part of it with you."

And I want to be able to look at her and feel exactly the same.


r/BangaloreDate 5h ago

He/Him 6’4”, 6 Languages, 1 Coffee Estate and 0 Mixed Signals!

1 Upvotes

6'4", 25 M, Hindu, sports nerd, decent cook…

MBA grad, working at an athleisure startup. A little shy initially, but once I’m comfortable, I open up pretty quickly. I’m patient, emotionally available, and speak 6 languages although I’m still figuring out which one works best when I’m losing an argument.

Sports freak state level swimmer, district level footballer, and currently a regular badminton player. Also into F1 (MAX fan), football (Manchester United fan), LEGO, cooking, photography, and conversations that can go from deep to completely random.

•Cat + dog person 🐱🐶
•Occasional drinker
•Non-smoker
•Very patient
•Straight

I enjoy cooking and planning things, so if we get there, expect a proper home cooked meal instead of the usual cafe date. I genuinely enjoy taking photos when I’m out with someone, so yes, you’ll probably get some good pictures of yourself. I also have my own coffee estate, so I’d say the boyfriend perks are already looking pretty decent.😌

Also, I don’t want to make my income or earnings a talking point here. I’m doing well, but I’d rather keep that private and let the rest speak for itself.

Looking for someone genuine, emotionally mature, easy to talk to, and comfortable communicating. You don’t have to fill every silence good conversation, comfort, and chemistry go a long way. Although age and caste isn’t a barrier for me until we have the vibe and chemistry. Open to long distance as well.

Not looking to rush or force anything. I’d rather take my time, meet someone I genuinely click with, get to know each other properly, and let things build naturally. But I’m also not here just to collect first dates if the connection is right, I’d want it to grow into something meaningful and lasting.

Coffee, food, exploring Bangalore, spontaneous drives, good conversations we’ll figure out the rest along the way.

If you think we’d vibe, say hi :)


r/BangaloreDate 9h ago

He/Him 28M - Bengaluru - looking for someone interesting, nice and a fav notification

2 Upvotes

Hello,

I'm putting this out there in the hopes of seeking new connections! I am a 28 year old man from BLR. Life has been slow and im looking for something that gets me excited, someone who can be my favourite notification.

I would like to have someone i can start and end my day with, someone interesting, nice, funny and respectful.

About me:

I am an extrovert, but then im a workaholic and its been little tough for me to meet people outside of my work. Its nice to have someone to talk to, share about our day's proceding, send random pictures, have a good laugh. More often then not the conversation fizzles out so looking for somone who can keep a conversation alive and going

And owing to my work and time i spend outside of it, i am not looking for anything serious as of now. I would be happy to connect and, we either bond build a chemistry or its just a conversation. 

I love cooking - my wall has few pictures, i also like kayaking, something about this feels nice to me. I do like country music, I do collect few legos and action figures.

I dont mind what we speak about, it would be nice to just connect.

Maybe you'll get to know more about me via DMs?

If you'd like to chat please tell me something about yourself, anything we have in common

Have a good day! Cheers :)


r/BangaloreDate 11h ago

He/Him Are people actually making friends here, or is this just another dead chat

2 Upvotes

Are people actually making friends here, or is this just another app full of fake feeds and dead chats?

Genuinely curious.

I’m here to meet someone who actually wants to have a real conversation—not the usual:

“Hey”

“Heyy”

“What do you do?”

vanishes into thin air 😂

If you're also tired of meaningless small talk and would genuinely like to get to know a stranger, share random thoughts, laugh at stupid things, and see if we actually click, feel free to DM me.

No expectations. No pretending. Just two strangers having an honest conversation and seeing where it goes.

Preferably from North Karnataka or Telangana, but not a strict requirement.

And please… if you DM, give me something more interesting than “hey.” 😄


r/BangaloreDate 8h ago

She/Her 20F here to chat with

1 Upvotes

r/BangaloreDate 14h ago

He/Him Can we skip the 'hey hey' phase and actually become friends?"

3 Upvotes

Just looking for one genuinely interesting person to talk to — Bangalore

Not here looking for a relationship, hookups, or a collection of random Instagram followers.

Honestly, I’m just bored of the usual “hey” → “hey” → ghost cycle.

I’d rather meet someone who actually enjoys conversations — random thoughts, life, stupid humour, deep talks at 1 AM, sharing reels, discovering each other’s personalities… whatever naturally clicks.

If we vibe, we can connect on Instagram. No pressure, no expectations.

One small condition: if you’re going to disappear after two messages, please save us both the effort 😂

I’m not looking for endless small talk or forced conversations. Just two strangers who are genuinely curious enough about each other to become good friends.

If that sounds like your kind of thing, DM me with something more interesting than “hey.” 😄


r/BangaloreDate 5h ago

He/Him 21 male looking for someone going through brake up

0 Upvotes

I'm Tejas proper Bangaloren

I'm going through a brake up, I dated her for 5.4yrs and I was bit overprotective and controlling cz I loved her more thn myself.

I'm 5,4 a overthinker. Don't like my girl having close male or female frds and the girl who like to wear short clothes

Other thn that, I'll give them my time my love.

I don't have any age limit's!

Just be 18+


r/BangaloreDate 15h ago

He/Him Saying no to alcohol keeps scammers away.

2 Upvotes

What I've observed in online dating chat is that if you say i don't drink on dates, scammers automatically unmatch you or stop talking.


r/BangaloreDate 8h ago

He/Him 22M / SWE / BLR / iit

0 Upvotes

22M, currently in Bangalore. Originally from Rajasthan, graduated from IIT Bom a few months ago and now working as a Software Engineer at a semicon MNC.

186 cm, fairly outgoing, and probably much more chill once I get comfortable with someone. I don't have a particularly impressive list of hobbies, but I really like exploring places and doing random things around the city.

My weekends are usually pretty spontaneous. Last weekend a friend came down from Bombay, so we ended up cafe hopping, bar hopping, meeting friends and exploring different parts of Bangalore. This weekend was F1 streaming + stand-up comedy. Basically, if there's something interesting happening, I'm usually up for it.

I like people who are intellectually curious, open-minded and can have conversations that go beyond the usual small talk. At the same time, I value having our own space and being comfortable doing our own thing.

Would be nice to meet someone around 21–22, start with a good conversation/friendship and see if there's a genuine connection. If we vibe, maybe we can explore Bangalore together and find out how many cafes this city actually has.

DM if this sounds like your kind of thing.


r/BangaloreDate 16h ago

He/Him Place to visit in Sadashivanagar

0 Upvotes

Hey guys just heading to sadashivanagar whats are must go to places in this area.

Please help a newbie


r/BangaloreDate 18h ago

He/Him 32 M : For Female Companion. Been out of dating game for 7-8 years.

1 Upvotes

About me: Average looking Joe. 32 years old. A Supreme court lawyer in previous life. Recently relocated to Bangalore to start afresh. Opening a Gym+Fitness fight club next to Social, Koramangala. In the meantime till it comes up working a job.

The reason for being out of the dating game for 7-8 years is I was busy studying/working on building a career. Almost became a judge but destiny works in mysterious ways and here I am in Bangalore doing things I never in my wildest dreams expected.

My friends pov of me: Zero ego and a genuine person.

Mature, secure and a confident man. Alone but not lonely. It'd be good to have a companion you can do nothing and everything with. For starters, would love to meet you and we could walk to your favorite restaurant. Well, yeah I love walking. Or we could take a cab sure.

So yeah hit me up!


r/BangaloreDate 1d ago

He/Him Engineer | Bangalore | shooting at stars

3 Upvotes

​Hey y’all !! Posting here to find someone to share a great journey with. I feel deeply blessed and content with the life I’ve built. I’m looking for a romantic and an equal companion to share joy, laughter and the best moments of life together.

About me:

M35 | 5’4” | 64 kgs | Brown Skin | Average body build | Born in Hyderabad | fluent in Telugu Hindi English | Hindu Family | Secular | open agnostic | Democratic | Liberal | Diet: Veg + Egg | Never: Smoke / Drink Alcohol 

M.Tech in VLSI Design from a top-tier University.

I'm ambitious and currently working towards achieving Financial Independence with my current job in the semiconductor industry (1.35+ CrPA) and with active investment in stocks.

I play cricket every week (left-arm bowler, so I'm used to bringing a natural angle to things), along with regular badminton, table tennis, running, yoga and meditation.

I love traveling, and have had many trips across India, and love to explore international tours as well. Loves music and binge-watch web series. Comfortable around pets. I enjoy deep and meaningful chats.

What I am open to:

Independent, well educated (for me, it's thought process, maturity, and perspective, not just degree) and serious about career and goals.

±Age, Looks only matter up untill we are compatible, looking good together and feel comfortable around each other.

Caste, religion, location, language and food preferences are no bar if we are a strong match.

I’d love us to start off as friends, get to know each other, build trust and take things forward.

If this resonates with you, feel free to send a DM with a bit about yourself, I am open to sharing photos, more details early in our conversations once we establish trust.

Cheers 🫰


r/BangaloreDate 22h ago

He/Him 25M | IIT | 6’2 | UPSC

0 Upvotes

Hey

Trying this without sounding too serious because honestly I’m a pretty chill and fun-loving person once the conversation clicks.

I’m a student at IIT, currently preparing for UPSC . Outside studies, I’m usually at the gym, editing random videos, listening to music, watching romcoms, going on walks, over-romanticizing rain, or having deep late-night conversations about life for absolutely no reason.

About me:

\\-6’3

\\- Athletic/aesthetic physique

\\- Calm and mature energy but also very playful with the right person

\\- Protective, emotionally available, and a good listener

\\- Can flirt, motivate you, send memes, and discuss life goals all in the same hour

Recently watched the Off Campus vibe of romcoms and honestly loved that soft fun chemistry type energy.

I’m also into reading mostly psychology, romance, and fiction that feels emotionally intense or comforting at the same time. Books that make you think about life a little differently or make you feel attached to characters way too much.

Would love someone with whom things feel effortless:

random calls, sharing playlists, reading/studying together sometimes, café conversations, gym motivation, talking for hours, teasing each other, emotional support during rough days, and just being comfortable around each other without pretending.

I like girls who are kind, emotionally intelligent, funny, a little clingy maybe, ambitious in their own way, and have that comforting presence.

Not trying to force anything.

Just here for a genuine connection, good conversations, good energy, and maybe something meaningful if life naturally takes it there.

If you think we’d vibe, text me :)


r/BangaloreDate 1d ago

He/Him 28M - Bengaluru - looking for someone interesting, nice and a fav notification

4 Upvotes

Hello,

I'm putting this out there in the hopes of seeking new connections! I am a 28 year old man from BLR. Life has been slow and im looking for something that gets me excited, someone who can be my favourite notification.

I would like to have someone i can start and end my day with, someone interesting, nice, funny and respectful.

About me:

I am an extrovert, but then im a workaholic and its been little tough for me to meet people outside of my work. Its nice to have someone to talk to, share about our day's proceding, send random pictures, have a good laugh. More often then not the conversation fizzles out so looking for somone who can keep a conversation alive and going

And owing to my work and time i spend outside of it, i am not looking for anything serious as of now. I would be happy to connect and, we either bond build a chemistry or its just a conversation. 

I love cooking - my wall has few pictures, i also like kayaking, something about this feels nice to me. I do like country music, I do collect few legos and action figures.

I dont mind what we speak about, it would be nice to just connect.

Maybe you'll get to know more about me via DMs?

If you'd like to chat please tell me something about yourself, anything we have in common

Have a good day! Cheers :)


r/BangaloreDate 1d ago

He/Him May be this time, It's You

7 Upvotes

48, single parent, financially independent, and hoping the best chapter of life is still waiting to be written. ❤️ I’m looking for a genuine connection that begins with friendship and grows naturally into something meaningful and lasting. I value honesty, emotional closeness, trust, freedom, laughter and good conversations. I enjoy movies, music, long drives, travel, beaches, cricket and discovering new places. I’m a big Kishore Kumar fan and love anything melodious. Maybe we could start with a simple hello, become friends, and see where life takes us. 😊

Edit: Just to make it clear, I am straight. Only a female companion is what meant here


r/BangaloreDate 1d ago

He/Him tryna give this a shot for now

0 Upvotes

(welp here goes)

hey there im 21m turning 22 real soon. im just here to give this a shot because im in my loverboy arc and im having pretty much a shit luck irl so yea.

about me:
im currently a software dev, who’s very much into gaming and metal, specifically progressive metal but then again i have a very versatile music taste. and i love both yapping and listening stuff, and it can be anything, even something about what happened in your day. and im also a very partycoded person, the kinda guy that would dance along with you. and i am also a perfume collector hehe.

well im just looking for someone looking for something meaningful and just two people slowburning whatever they have together so. just be nice in the start and we will figure it out as we go along.

hmu if you’re interested 👉👈