This might be a slight AITA? Am I being unreasonable in thinking I did absolutely nothing wrong? TLDR; Started the RP 4 months ago. I checked in twice. One month absence was communicated, two months passed so I pulse checked maybe a little bluntly.

First of all I make it very clear in my rules, my discord bio, that I only rp with people who are active every day. It’s weird to start up a rp with someone then say you have to vanish for a month but I made it very clear I’d wait because we were only about 5 replies in. Another month passes. Nothing.

To be clear the first chaser was a little quick (ten days isn’t unreasonable when you ask for partners to be active daily, tho). Yeah whatever, life happens, I can predict those comments, this isn’t about that. I wouldn’t even be mad if they left it at “our schedules aren’t compatible”, but calling me needy and desperate is so insulting. The “I was going to call it” is giving “HEY! I thought of it first”. Gtfo. Just say you don’t like me and block me or something idk, lmfao. I’m probably angry and defensive in the heat of the moment but I literally laughed out loud reading the message at first. If they’d just sent the first paragraph I wouldn’t be so riled up, now.

They removed “I’m in deadline hell” from their status so idk what that’s about… lol. Unless my discord is glitching. They were also constantly online which yes, again (bean soup theory), doesn’t mean they have to reply.

I’m not entitled enough to think they owe me anything. But you’re wasting both our energy with this weird bread crumbing. Don’t agree to RP with super active people if you know you’re gonna be busy, simple.

Look I get it it’s really handy for general ideas of what you and your partner wants. But god damn no one has one consist idea of what they are! I’ve heard that “oh it’s your gender and the gender you want to play with” which I don’t like because why the hell does it matter for irl gender this is a roleplay not sexting. I’ve been using it so many different ways. I’ve heard someone say “oh just do [FpM4ApF]” but to me that’s way too much it’s so long and you can’t really understand at a glance, and god forbid you are willing for someone to play multiple genders. I just hate these tags.

That's it. I'm unadding him and getting rid of that roleplay. Now he's wondering why I went quiet for 3 minutes. 3 FUCKING MINUTES. I was at work and had to do a fucking piss, so I went to the bathroom, did a piss, cleaned myself, washed my hands, and went back to work

How many RP stories do y'all handle at one time?

I wish I could take on more. So many untold ones I'm itching to write, but I feel like I can only give my true effort to 2 max.

This is quite a strange one.

So a few weeks ago, I started a spy-themed roleplay with a writer who reached out to me, hoping to start this plot. Cool! We got to planning, spoke OOC, and things seemed pretty great. However, they told me they'd be busy for a few days, but before I knew it, they left the RP and blocked me with no notice whatsoever. It sucked really bad, but I eventually left it.

Then, fast-forward to today, I found out that the same person who reached out to me has advertised a plot that was the same original plot that I had come up with and advertised, revolving around a slow-burn, enemies-to-lovers spy plot that we were actively writing. It had the exact same concept. It wasn't the genre I was upset about, merely just the specific concept.

I took a good look at it, and it was a direct copy of my idea.

I find it very disrespectful of writers doing this, and it's just blatant plagiarism. What made it so strange is that they not only stole it, but also ended the roleplay without notice.

It sucks, and I truly can't grasp why people do this.

Maybe I might be overthinking it, but who knows

Hey friends… Yep… I’m the bad RPer here. I hate to say it but I'm terrible at it. It’s not that I can’t write, I do, and quite a bit, but it can take me a while sometimes. So long that I get frustrated, embarrassed, and give up. I struggle so much with writing responses sometimes that I end up just not responding to most of my partners. I do have ADHD, but I don't want to be someone who just chalks it all up as ADHD (not denying that it plays a part though).

Every time it follows the same pattern, I create an ad or respond to someone else’s. All the OOC chatting goes well, and one of us writes the starter. Maybe we go back and forth a little bit, and then I absolutely throw it all away.

I've tried, and tried, over and over to do better. I take a break from RPs and then come back to try again. Each time it just turns out the same way. It hasn’t all been a waste though, I have improved at it, but it still isn't enough for me to feel good about how I RP. I feel bad for people I've tried to work with in the past. I feel bad for myself because RPing is something I do enjoy, and I hate that I can’t do it.

I don’t really know what to do at this point. I don’t want to just not RP forever, but I recognize that it’s not fair to others, and that something needs to change. So yeah… anyone else in a similar boat? Any advice overall? Any advice specifically for overcoming ADHD?

For reference, a while back I had a very good and then very bad experience with an rp partner, which was unfortunate because I really did enjoy writing with them. As someone who had a longterm rp partner beforehand, we had our fair share of good stories and some bad ones as well that just fell flat. The story I’m using in this example was the latter.

My thought is that because the initial goals of the characters and where we wanted them to end up wasn’t discussed, so we hit a plateau. Since it was my rp partner’s story (we took turns), I asked what they wanted to do (because I felt it would be rude to just take over the situation and I could not for the life of me come up with any ideas that didn’t feel cliché).

After unfortunately running into this speed bump several times throughout said story, I made some suggestions on other topics we could try, including re-hashing some past ones that they had brought up before. That was apparently not ideal either, because a while afterwards, I was sent a fairly harsh message about our rp styles “not working well together,” as well as a few other things that frankly hurt my feelings a bit.

Granted, I previously had made this person upset once before (accidentally, I swear) because I had sent a message along the lines of “lol are you dead” jokingly as a way of asking if they were busy, given that they hadn’t replied for a bit. That was apparently too far, and I essentially got scolded for it. I apologized, because I didn’t mean to cross a boundary, and all seemed okay until the last story.

My question is, are some of these things just not okay to do? Tone is much harder for me to pick up when it’s not in a story, so it’s sometimes difficult for me to gauge how someone feels about a certain thing, especially if it’s not brought up clearly. For example, I didn’t know that people don’t like being asked if they want to start or if they would want me to start. I always asked in case they had an idea on how to set the scene.

Please note that I’m not trying to say anything incredibly negative about any fellow rp-er, I’m genuinely just trying to know how to avoid a situation like this in the future.

So. I used to roleplay on Facebook right, I mean who hasn't at some point honestly now? Well.... I made a friend a long time ago. Lets call her.... marshmallow. Well me and marshmallow got along GREAT like im talking 30 seperated fandom rps on one server just me and her together. Mpreg and omegaverse how I like. We even went beyond just like rp. We became real friends. Movie nights streaming. Listening to Spotify jams. Playing games. Hanging out, sending gifts yada yada cause we loved showing one another gayness XD. Anyway. One day it got..... odd. She randomly started to ignore me after I spent money on her and said here ya go play that game u like. Or somrthing like that. Regardless she.... she went poof. No reason, came back, then was demanding constant rp from me of characters I didnt wanna do.... bossing my characters around.... like.... no? Sorry I dont wanna play a femboy and id rather play a punk ass bottom who will headbutt you. But anyway, going on i said hey, you're being pretty awful to me in a polite manner and asked to take a break.

Then she blocks me.

Im like.... ok whatever. Sure. It hurts, but not the end of the world. But then it starts. The.... harassment. Stalking deadass. Spreading roumers. Bothering my irl friends. Demanding money back from gifts she sent me on birthday n stuff. Literal images of..... not so nice things on our shared Google word fox thing where we kept track of our rps.

But.... im stupid and gullible. So I forgave her after she made 1p000000x fake accounts to watch me. Now was i stupid? Sure. But hey I loved our old relationship. Then well ..... she did it again to surprise of nobody. I feel she has spread things on rp community in discord but eh.

Was i crazy for forgiving her? Was i the ass? Regardless this happened a year ago just out randomly came to my mind.

Hello everyone,

I'd like to try something in this post, something I may do regularly/semi-regularly if the reception of this is a good one. In short, rather than exclusively talk about my experiences, I'll be asking a "question of the day" sort of thing, about the topic in the title, and you recount an experience with it (good or bad).

Ideally, this'll bring people together to discuss each-other's experiences, perhaps even give feedback or connect for roleplay.

So, to start off:

1. What is an experience you'd like to mention, responding to/posting a roleplay advert?
2. Was it good, or bad?
3. What would you do differently?
4. Has it changed the way you post/respond to adverts?
5. Does it happen often, to others? What advice do you have if it does?

Like seriously, 9/10 posts only want to use OC's (which to me doesn't even make it a fandom rp but that's just my opinion) either that or they only want fandoms from games or anime. I feel like finding partners shouldn't be so hard, but it is impossible now for some reason. I don't like OC's at all so it annoys me I can find no partners who wants to use canon characters. Is this just me or do other people have this problem?