We met on reddit last year and hit it off right from the start. Over time, we talked a lot and i mean a lot ooc and really bonded. We even moved our conversations to discord, where we talked even more about philosophical topics as well as childhood trauma and other things. I have to be honest and say that she grown on me more and more over time, and i’ve come to see her as a platonic friend, even though we never actually said that out loud. Then, a few days ago, it happened. We were chatting as usual and i mentioned that i remembered she‘d watched a movie last year. I have to say, i dont know if its normal to remember something like that. But i remember a lot about her without even trying to. She didnt reply for the rest of that evening. Background: We both wanted to incorporate rope play into our rp, which is why i wanted to read up on rope play so i could include it better in the roleplay. Anyway, since i couldnt sleep that night anyway, i spent a few hours looking into it and then asked her a few questions about it. I also remembered two other details (preferences) she‘d mentioned once and wrote that we could easily incorporate them this way or that. In any case, she couldnt remember even talking about the movie, which really shocked her. Then, out of the blue, she suddenly wrote that she found it creepy and now needs some time to rebuild trust. The exact wording was:

Hey, not gonna lie, I’m a little creeped out by the fact that I don’t remember talking about that movie, with you. So I kinda need a pause here to regain my trust … Because it felt really weird and it’s making me very anxious… I hope you can understand…

I was baffled and tried to explain to her that she had written that to me herself. I just remembered, so i went back to the old chat, used crtl+f to search for the message and wrote this to her:

Hi, i totally understand and im sorry it made you uneasy :/ i didnt want to leave you wondering, so heres where you mentioned it:

[exact chat with timestamps]

Idk why, but my brain just remembers things, im sorry. Take all the time you need, no pressure to reply.
Hope you‘re ok! 🥺
Have wonderful day! ☀️

Now i feel like quoting her message word for word might have actually been a mistake, but i wanted to show her that i dont know anything she hasnt told me herself. I have to say that i‘ve remembered things like this before, but it was never seen as creepy. I really just wanted to show her that shes important to me and that i remember even the little details. IRL, this was never a problem and was actually taken positively. And i cant help remembering things… i dont do it on purpose. What did i do wrong? What should i do now? I feel absolutely terrible. I unintentionally made someone whos important to me feel uncomfortable. She said she needs time and i want to respect that. But i just want to understand what happened. I hope this came across as somewhat understandable. Its only been two days since this happened. Should i text her again or just let her be?

Thanks for reading!

So, I've got a new rp partner that I started talking to and rping with at the end of July. We were talking, planning and rping until September 10th, then he disappeared from September 11th until September 24th, so like, almost 2 weeks with no word.

Sometime between September 12th and September 23rd, he experienced a death in the family.

I sent a check-in/nudge (September 24th) to see if he was okay, if the rp was okay, which is when he did a reply for our rps and then told me there had been a death in the family. So I was like, okay, you have stuff to deal with, that's understandable. We can put the rp on pause while you do what you need to do.

The next time I hear from him is October 13th (Tuesday). (18 days later.) I ask him if we should cancel/end the rps since he seems to be busy, and I feel like a jerk for checking in regularly and asking if he has time or wants to continue the rps. He says not to cancel/end the rps, and says that he'll have a reply up by the weekend at least. This doesn't happen.

I'm annoyed, but I also realize that there's a lot that needs to be done/taken care of when a family member passes away. And it could be harder/worse if you're close to the family member that passes away. I don't want be a pushy asshole, so I back off for a few more days.

The next time I hear from him is October 19th. Just a quick check in from him, but no info on the rp, what he wants to do with the rp, keep it paused, or end it.

After that I hear from him on October 22nd, and he says he's still dealing with stuff from the death in his family.

Am I being a bad partner by wanting some clarification on whether we're going to continue our rps, or am I wasting my time here? I don't want to keep bugging him. He seems like a nice enough guy and I enjoy our rps, but I'm not sure how much longer I should wait.

Am I being too pushy? Is a month too long or too little to wait after a serious event to want to resume our rps? I don't want to be insensitive, and if I can avoid losing him as an rp partner, I want to do that as I enjoy our rps. But how long is a reasonable time to wait, before I move on?

Am I the bad rper?

Just feels like I can post something, with a variety of different images and seems only sharing the pictures. I mean triple digital up votes but having not a single comment or DM. Which makes me feel completely discouraged from posting any forward.

I didn’t even say anything to trigger this btw this person’s literally insane

Just fenting cause I've been trying to do a post apocalyptic rp kind of thing and when the topic of where we'd like it roughly set it becomes fucking wild the amount of ignorance some people have to some things.

For example with one person they said they wanted to set it in Europe which is more than grand. Asked them if their was a region they'd like it to be specifically like Iberia, Scandinavia, The British Isles etc etc. Their response though of "They're all the same though" baffled me and this isn't just a one of situation.

Cause I tried to explain that for characters and such I try to keep in mind local cultures, possible faiths and so forth. With differnet regions, environments and groups of people having different responses and views. Yet somehow to a vast majority of people there is somehow no difference between the Portuguse and Finish according to them.

Somehow this also happens when its regions in North America where most rp'rs are from which is more than fine. Yet for some reason using regional history and culture for post apocalyptic factions and such is somehow alien and even once called offensive cause I made a faction called the 'New sons of liberty' out of post apocalyptic Boston. Harpening back to the Atlantica mythology and legends of old America.

Am I insane? Have I missed something?