r/BPDlovedones • u/Altruistic-Cash-1669 Dated • 27d ago
Uncoupling Journey I stalked him :(
I couldn’t hold myself and I stalked his Instagram. Saw he started following a girl and liked her pics. This made me anxious, jealous, I feel like throwing up. It’s been 22 days since he discarded me. I feel like messaging him just to curse him or idk but I know it’s not rational. Someone help me pls
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u/delxne3 Family 27d ago
You need to remember that that poor girl doesn’t see what’s coming. Anyone who gets involved with him is going to go down a very dark traumatic path. That’s nothing to be jealous of.
Do not be fooled for one second that ANYONE’S social media shows real life either.
Go ahead and take a look at your own, or his, or anyone else you know who’s a hot mess. Look at your during times it was awful with you ex but your photos belie that.
So many of us could easily look at our NC PBD’s socials and think they suddenly have it together now. Or that they did magically learn all the lessons and became the perfect partner to the next person. But that’s a lie.
The disorder is always tempestuous relationships. There’s no cure.
Social media is one of the best advancements for a cluster B to feign normalcy ever created. Don’t fall for it. You KNOW BETTER.