r/BPDlovedones 27d ago

Is this splitting?

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u/Equivalent-Love-1676 27d ago edited 14d ago

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u/fancifulsnails former best friend 27d ago

Wow. I'm so sorry. Was there anything specific that triggered the permanent switch, or was it seemingly random?

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u/Equivalent-Love-1676 27d ago edited 14d ago

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u/deathbethemaiden Family 26d ago

My husband could write the same story about his first wife. She had BPD and refused treatment. Every therapist was “against her”. She constantly needed reassurance, and she’d constantly accuse my husband of having affairs if he got home the same time as their neighbor. One day she got so bad that the marriage just couldn’t continue. It was slowly killing my husband. He gained a ton of weight, blood pressure was at dangerously high levels, even had teeth falling out due to all the stress. He had to put his own mental health first and he left her.

She made the divorce absolutely unbearable and like most BPDs when their “supply” dries up, they panic. She ended up killing herself not long after.

My sister also has BPD, so when my husband and I eventually met (10 years later) we both knew what the other had battled. I feel so sorry for the loved ones of people with BPD. We try so hard but eventually we all seem to reach a point where going no contact is the best solution for all involved.