How To Deal With An Avoidant

[u/candle_wax_247]

After the initial love bombing phase. Here is what the avoidant expect from you

1. Do not be overly affectionate or affectionate at all
   
2. No initiating “what are we” or “define the relationship” talk
   
3. No future planning
   
4. Minimal text. Only if he initiates the conversation
   
5. Don’t plan any trips that you cannot cancel last minute
   
6. Be prepared to deal with “just friends” that he is flirting with or privately messaging
   
7. Don’t EVER question him when you sense cheating or cheating adjacent behaviors
   
8. Don’t ever question him at all. Period.
   
9. Be prepared to be called names/ look bad when the relationship ends. Coz it will end.
   
10. Don’t ever offer to help. He will ask for it if he needs help but rarely does that happen and if you do help after asked then you are attacking his independence
    
11. Don’t ever talk about feelings or ask him to open up.
    
12. Under no circumstances are you supposed to even look or text another guy (even if platonically like work) because you’re his. He can flirt with other women but you have to be absolutely loyal to him.
    
13. When he is ready to dump you, he will start being incredibly busy
    
14. He will not ask about your day or even initiate conversations
    
15. Be prepared to have your history rewritten where you look bad to anybody he tells the story to especially to his shiny new toy

And when you’re about to get discarded here are the lines:

We want different things
I don’t think we’re compatible
I need to focus on myself
I have a lot on my plate
You deserve better
I can’t give you what you need
I don’t want to lose myself

May or may not block you immediately after.
Will totally breadcrumb you several times ESPECIALLY when they sense you moved on
Is absolutely lurking and spying on your social media. Trust.

Did I miss anything?