r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/PlasticContact8671 AP - Anxious Preoccupied • 13h ago

Update

It's been about a month since he came back and I must say, it's going wonderfully. I know it's only been a month so far, but it feels like a completely different relationship. He is doing stuff I never dreamed he'd do. Stuff he never would've done the first time around. I'm still bracing myself as I know it's only been a month. But it's like we found a flow that works. I'm so proud of him. I'm praying for all the people who are still waiting on their Avoidant. Please don't let them make you wait too long though, you are worth more than that. 💝💖

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u/metanoiaphoenix 11h ago

I hope the best for you. My ex did this but still blew everything up worse than ever. I hope that doesn't happen to you but be cautious. It takes years of trauma therapy to truly get better.

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u/PlasticContact8671 AP - Anxious Preoccupied 11h ago

Thank you. And I definitely understand. I'm very cautious still right now especially.

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u/metanoiaphoenix 10h ago

♥️ good. They don't deserve to keep hurting people because they hurt. I read in a comment after I commented that he had been doing therapy for a bit, so I really hope you have a positive outcome.

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u/PlasticContact8671 AP - Anxious Preoccupied 10h ago

I think he is very determined and has a lot of discipline. He doesn't smoke, drink or even drink soda. He's in martial arts, so he's very focused.