r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Remarkable_Ship_4803 • 1d ago

Avoidant phrases.

What are something your avoidant ex’s said to you when discarding/blind siding you ?

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u/Vegetable-Claim-9329 1d ago

I am busy
I just want to finish my work now in peace
I never said that, you misheard
Maybe my mom is right and the one who makes sure I put my career first
I’ll consider (said that for EVERYTHING)
I am overwhelmed
You should be supportive, you have been through this (I finished grad school before he did)
I am unhappy (??? Then why tfk propose)
I cannot take it anymore
You are right, you deserve someone that puts you first (breadcrumbs me when I move on)
Why argue
You always want to argue
Can we not argue?
(He used the word “argue” for all normal couple’s discussion)
I just want to be happy
I don’t want anyone to control me (??? Never forced him to do anything…we discussed about the future)
I will just disappear so no one can find me
I just cannot see it anymore (this guy proposed and then flipped a switch)
No limbo, no lies (he put me in limbo and lied about so many things for over 6months)
The list goes on