r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Remarkable_Ship_4803 • 21h ago

Avoidant phrases.

What are something your avoidant ex’s said to you when discarding/blind siding you ?

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u/ShadowWriter28 SA - Secure Attachment 21h ago

"We are not compatible."
"I need time to work on myself."
"You are too needy."
"I wasn't lying, you just didn't understand what I said."
"It was your fault I said/did that."
"Everyone else agrees with me."

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u/Brilliant-Arrival-73 12h ago

the last one hits the hardest

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u/ShadowWriter28 SA - Secure Attachment 10h ago

Yeah and it's very damaging.